MissMonty

I posted this under family/relationships but really wanted to tell someone about this as it has made me feel really crappy so though I would post here too.

I went out last night with some friends and got chatting to a guy who my friend works with - he started telling me that he and his wife have ben TTC for 8 months and told me how stressful it has been for him, I think he just wanted someone to chat to about it who he did not really know. Anyway I thought nothing of it and we all continued to have a good time. We live close to each other and were the last of the group at the que for the taxi - it was raining and I had my umbrella up - he asked if he could get under and then kissed me! I pushed him away but he had took me by surpirse and I must admit that the kiss did last a few seconds before I came to my senses (I'd had a few glasses of wine!). I told him off, reminded him that we are both married and what he had done was wrong, but now I feel terrible - I'm thinking did I give off the wrong impression? I was only be friendly and he decided to take it too far. I haven't told my DH as I don't want to upset him - but now I feel bad - I've never been unfaithful and I now feel that I have!

Lyns

I think it was a few glasses of wine gone OTT hun. You didn't try to seduce him or anything, and pushed him away as soon as you really realised what was happening.

Put it to the back of your mind and forget it......I bet he's mortified this morning about putting you in that position! And if he's not....he needs to be!

The way i look at these things is....they're a compliment really, but not worth getting upset about.

tansey

It was just two people going through a stressful time letting off a bit of steam. I would NOT tell your OH as nothing to tell. The guy kissed you probably because he felt you were someone who could relate to him and made him feel better and because of the vino and because I'm sure you're gorgeous! He took you by surprise do NOT feel guilty.Just forget it and act normal as if it never happened! xx

elmaxie

Aw honey...you havent done anything wrong...he tried to kiss you but you pushed him away!! You shouldnt feel guilty at all.

I know what you mean about telling DH...mine would be upset too but I know he trusts me so I would tell him as it would make me feel better plus I dont like keeping anything from him.

At the end of the day its your choice if you tell your hubby or not.

But as I said you didnt do anything wrong!! The other guy probably is under alot of strain ttc (which isnt any excuse!)and when you were there to listen he found some comfort...he is probably feeling the same as you today...except it was HIM who tried to kiss you....which isnt right at all.

Big Hugs to you..

Emma.xx

embojet

You definately did nothing wrong! Don't worry

MissMonty

Thanks everyone - I've been thining about it and your right I'm sure it happened because we are in similar situations and I think he felt comfortable talking to me. I remembered something else he said to me during the night - he told me that he felt sex was just about TTC for him and his wife and that all the fun had gone out of it. It sounded as though his wife is really taking it all too seriously and its starting to get to him. Made me think about my own reltionship and that me and DH must contiue to still have sex for fun as well as baby making sex.

NickyT75

i agree with everyone else that you did nothing wrong as you pushed him away once you realised what was happening.
dont be too hard on yourself but id be cautious about telling your OH as honesty is definitely the best policy but in this case it could backfire as he could be really hurt due to the stress associated with TTC & things could get blown out of proportion.

Only you know what is the right thing to do in this situation as you know him & we obviously dont, if you think it would help for him to know then tell him but I sincerely doubt it will help matters xx

tansey

If OH knows when you OV - make a point of having a really sexy night nowhere near then!