I know this sounds weird but I have one daughter already and when I was pregnant with her everything went well and I felt fine. My next pregnancy was the miscarriage and from the time I found out I was pregnant I knew something was wrong, I dreamt several times about bleeding and loosing the baby and I got so paranoid bout it I took myself off to the Dr's who dismissed it, the following day I started to bleed...weird eh!!! I had this dull ache in the left side of my stomach. It never really left me, that pain i know my body has been through it but I am feeling it again, stronger (don't know if its cause of ovulation or not) I am so terrified that the same things will happen again. I know alot of you have been through it so just asking some advice on how to cope with being scared for the whole 9 months. Obviously I don't know whether we have been successdul this month but worried all the same. x

Not sure what to say hun. . I think that anyone that has been through MC is bound to be worried. Its only natural. I know Im going to be a bag of nerves when I finally do get a . Im afraid Ive got no other advice.

Take care and try to be positve.



Kerry

Its natural to be worried hunni, you need to try and be strong though as you don't want to put your body under any more stress x

If you need to chat about your concerns at any time we are all always hear to listen xx

I'm with sambatiki, I've never experienced a MC and hope I never have to as it sounds so awful

I can understand that you would be fearful esp if you notice similarities - the important thing to remember is that every pregnancy is different and i'm pretty sure from my cycles that they are different too. for you hunni, try and stay strong and you know we are here for you if you need to discuss symptoms etc.

try not to worry hun - I know its easier said than done, but you are just FAR more in tune with your body after a mc so you look for things that might not even be there.

Especially if your 1st preg went without a hitch... you just wouldn't have been looking for things so you didn't have any reason to notice anything, but twinges are perfectly normal during pregnancy so you probably did experience them & just didn't think anything of it at the time.

(hope this makes sense?) xx

Listening to you saying that was like listening to myself hun.
I had exactly the same dull ache and feeling that something wasnt right when I had my miscarriage in December. I am pregnant now, and worry every day that the same thing will happen, but then I realise that what will be will be, and I am just trying my best to enjoy the pregnancy, you musnt let it spoil your experience.
I am not having the dull ache that I had last time. I think it is important to stay as positive as possible, as worrying all the time just doesnt help. I know it is easy to say, but hopefully that was the only bad experience of pregnancy you will have and your next pregnancy I am sure will be a happy and healthy one hun,

take care,

shimmy,
xx

I sort of understand. I've never had a miscarriage, so have no idea how that feels, but I live with a different fear, that I guess is similar.

My first baby was diagnosed with a huge tumour in her tummy when she was just 6 weeks old, from a rare childhood cancer. We had several months of chemo and for the first few weeks no one could tell us if she would make it. She's done really well, but has needed chemo and several lots of surgery and I don't think I'd be strong enough to go through it all again.

I've asked the question time and time again, as to whether there is any genetic factor, but whilst there's no evidence of one, as its a rare enough cancer, no one has ever really been able to rule one out either. I worry because it started in utero....and no matter what anyone ever tells me, I will always carry a small piece of the blame myself for that.....like I did it to her.

I cope, by focussing on the positives. Sounds silly, but I think of things like....when I get my BFP, I'll get extra scans throughout so get to see my baby more often. I think finding something like this to focus on helps balance the fear. Maybe you can find out if you'll be entitled to an early scan, so you can use this to look forward to?

BTW, my SIL has just had her first very healthy baby boy, after one ectopic and 2 miscarriage's....she had a trouble free pregnancy, and the docs & midwives kept a very close eye on her and made her feel that nothing was too much trouble....so hopefully when you get your BFP, if you tell them your fears as she did , they'll look after you

Thanks girls, it's great to have the support on here. I was told that the m/c was just one of those things, which I know is common but doesn't help. It was just with my first I was so excited and happy and now I think I'll spend the whole time worrying if I make it that far.

Lyns - How awful for you to have to go through all that, I hope that your next pregnany will be a healthy and happy one. xxxx

I think you've been given loads of great of advice that has helped me refocus a bit as well. I had MC in Feb and as each month passes i feel i'm never going to get a BFP and then it always creeps into my mind that if i do will i lose my bean again? But I know that worrying isn't good for TTC or when i am PG for me or baby, so i'm going to be positive and see what fate has in store for me.

maccy

Its terrible isnt it. I didnt even have a bleed so i though all was well I wont rest until i see a heartbeat after me and u both having a blighted ovum. I mean i know that u can still miscarry after seeing a blighted ovum but i will 100% be happier when they can confirm that theres actaully a baby there

Wouldnt it be great to for me and u to get a together and both get earky scans so we can relax