Piglite

Well over the last few months this situation has started to get worse and with now ttc for our 2nd I just don't know what to do!

My DP has totally lost his libido!

At first I thought it was down to me, didn't fancy me, not attractive etc, but he has ensured me that isn't the reason. He just doens't fancy it. I love he works bloody hard and he often comes home thinking over his job etc and he does get down with sad in the winter if no sun!

Ive tried to get him in the mood, but he just turns round and says "sorry hun, im not horny".

Dont get me wrong we do have sex, but only when his really horny and you know when trying for a baby, you cant just take it when its horny, as thats not always the right time!!!

I know he is worried about it, and as his the one who really wants to have another baby am really confused and also aware I want to help him get through this!

Has anyone any suggestions!??????

Thanks Piglite

sjnams

Aww hun, not sure what to suggest really.
I know that my DH is sometimes not in the mood but he still makes an effort as he knows that he needs to be there to help make it happen for us.
Its not just down to you to make the effort to get him in the mood though. He should take some of that on himself, whether that means he takes an hour after getting home to unwind or he sets the alarm early (or you set the alarm early.....give him a nice wake up call ). But ultimately you are just going to have to talk it out with him I think, find out what it is he needs to help him relax and get in the mood. Hope it works it out for you what ever you decide to do!!

WILSMUM

Have you thought about suggesting vitamin supplements to him? Theres one called Horny Goat Weed (strange name I know) which is meant to have aphrodisiac properties and there is also Maca (i know a few girls on here use it) which is good for sperm production and energy (top athletes and body builders use them as well!). If you just type each into Google you'll find info about their benefits etc.
Me and My DH have just started taking them in a joint capsule which i bought from GNC.

WILSMUM

Or you could always try the old greeting him in sexy new underwear and fishnets or running him a bubble bath with candles to help him relax or a massage with essential oils or even all 3!!!!
I find appearing at the living room door in sexy undies fishnets and high heels while my dh is engrossed on the computer usually does the trick and gets me his undivided attention!!!!!

sjnams

Yup, men can be easily distracted sometimes.

One that works for me (and makes me worry about my DH's masculinity!) is giving him lots of compliments, telling him how sexy he is and how horny he is making me just by looking at him......works a treat! Men like to think they are sex gods who can get a woman wet just by looking at her!!

WILSMUM

Oh yeah I know that one too - men r pretty shallow really - sexy undies and lots of compliments!!!!!

tmr1234

with my oh if iam ott on the want sex now he feels to pushed in to it and dose it but takes to long and gets to hot and just stopes. But if i dnt go near him with the mind that i want it now and just cuddle up to him it seems to work.

Lyns

How about trying to find someone to look after your LO for a couple of days and booking into a nice hotel in the country somewhere.....a nice spa, bottle of champagne with dinner...a nice sexy outfit.

Sometimes you just need to go back to being a couple. Difficult, I know, as I hate to leave my daughter but just occasionally we leave her with her grandparents for an evening and its amazing how much more we relax into enjoying oursleves.

It's amazing what a little R&R can do in the way of revival for a flagging libido!

Rumpskin

I am liking that one, maybe I will try this if I dont get a this cycle.

please08

I've only to greet my other half with a smile and he's like drop 'em now we've started taking the MACCA I'm dreading when they start to kick in God Help us ha