krissi

My doctor told me that the low sex drive can be attributed to the inability to conceive and that I am thinking well sex is for having babies and its not working so therefor I don't like or want sex. Once I started to get what he was saying it did improve and I tried not to think of it in that way. Can be hard though.

kaygeebee

We are rubbish and can go weeks without doing it - but trying hard. I don't want it to become an issue between us though! I got upset when he wasn't in the mood on Sunday - and I don't want it to be like that! Mus find a way of sustaining it though as I know we could be TTC for months or years realistically.......

krissi

Spike drinks with viagra!! Lol please don't do that really!!

Shifter

LOL - Krissi!

I've had a low sex drive for years, long before even thinking about waiting to ttc! There are lots of possible reasons for a low sex drive and every one is different.

But as I say, I'm pretty motivated now. We'll see how it goes next month. I just hope that we can strike gold with only a few BDs at the right time. We don't have it in us for the marathons that some couples seem to manage!

krissi

The tortoise beat the hare remember xx

sjnams

Everyone is different and you hear plenty of stories about women getting their when they only DTD once that month. So whether you are a twice a night kind of couple or a once a month couple, as long as you are having unprotected around Ovulation, you have every chance of getting a

Personally before TTC I was a once a week kind of person and even at that sometimes I had to be persuaded!! Now that we are TTC (and also perhaps because I am no longer on bcp) I am enjoying it more and we are DTD much more often! You do have to make the time though, whether its getting up early (like I did today) or going to bed early and also trying to not mention TTC before or during tends to help move things along!! Nothing kills the mood more than coming out with "stick to missionary! Its better for getting your into my cervix!!"

NikiJJones

Tell me about it!!! I've tried subtley suggesting that, but he just knows why!!!
xxxx

kaygeebee

I wonder how long I can hold off him knowing why I suddenly like that position!!

Farie

Both DF and I have relatively low sex drives, we love to snuggle and cuddle lots and lots, but can go with out sex for quite a while without it bothering either of us. We both work and DF has a particularly stressful job with long hours, sometimes he's to tired and just wants to cuddle up

(that said I think if we lived in the Seychelles and didn't work I think our sex drives would be considerably higher )

We have both recently increased the amount of exercise we do which has in turn helped boost our energy levels. Exercise really does give you more energy

We have also found eating earlier helps as it means food is digested and you feel 'ready for bed' earlier (psychologically).. so when you do go to bed you have more energy and aren't digesting a huge meal!
This has helped us a lot as we used to eat about 8.30 and head to bed about 10.30 ... but by then we were both zonked and full of food. By eating about 7-7.30 by 9.30 it feels later and when we do head to bed about 10 we have more energy .... I make a concious effort to turn off the telly as well as its so easy to sit in-front of it and suddenly its 11pm and your both hit the pillow and sleep.
We try to have 'us' time, playing board games and stuff, somehow it can lead into quite easily (or that could just be us!!)

Most of all I have found that hitting the 7 month mark and going past it with no has actually helped us, DF has realised that nature needs a hand and 'it will happen' is not a adequate response every month. this has lead to him being much more interested in my cycle (ok, he's not interested in discharge, CM, what my cervix feels like etc) but he has taken an interest in when I O etc.
Now he knows 'vaguely' when I O (I try not to 'bully' him with the details as I think that would have a detrimental effect on his libido! ) He has an idea when we need to go to bed early, when playing MetalGearSolid till 11pm is not tactful and when making a concious effort to leave work at work could make all the difference.


Sorry, I wrote a book!
It's a bit of a jugging act, but it is possible!

porkpie1981

My 1st was unplanned and was my 1st few using the withdrawal method.Now have a 2 yr old. I also go the 1st month of trying at xmas and i have a low sex drive.

You could be rite tho as my mum is a twin and my granny(mums mum has 2 two sets of boy/girl twins) so mybe i have that hypoovulation gene and produce a few eggs.