NeyNey

I will, from the start encourage my daughter to have tests to rule out any complications. My parents TTC for 8 years before they had me, after a stillborn. So I would make sure my daughter has the necessary tests in her teens or early 20's to determine if she will have trouble TTC. I will make it fully known the issues we had. I don't want my daughter to go through the years of heartache we are going through - and will do everything in my power to help her before she starts to TTC.


Oh, and I will be a shoulder whenever she needs it. And I'll always ask her for updates on how she is doing.


And - i'll refer her to BnB if we're still running - because this place is a godsend

Loula

I agree with Bert - under no circumstances will those words ever be uttered from these lips ever ever ever to anyone ever again.

I hope in 30 yrs my DD will already have made me a Granny ( she is 16 now) but I tell you the best piece of advice I (have already) given is told her to NEVER have the depo jab and ALWAYS use a condom - a lot of parents get hung up on avoiding pg but forget about the STD's that can wreck future fertility.

I would far rather she came to me pregnant at this age than came to me saying she had gotten the depo jab, and that's no word of a lie.

TrixieLox

O honey ...

wishing4ababy

I would hate my daughter to have to go through this.....I think i would just support her and give her all the relevant info....not sure if i would tell her about some of the bonkers stuff I have done though!
what about your sons...............what if they confided in you that he and his partner had been trying.
I would tell him to love, support and just "be there" for her. I would explain to him how she was probably feeling and that he needed to be strong for the pair of them. Tell him not to lose his temper when he found her crying at the end of the month yet again, not to lose his patience with her when she was obsessed with their diet, when and how they were bding and most of all to love her and reassure her that they would find a way - and the most important thing was that they loved each other.

jacky24

It will break my heart if my daughter ever had to go thru what i have been thru, my god some days i even say WHY am i still here.

But i will hold her and her DH hand every step of the way, and also most defenitely never say the words, RELAX IT WILL HAPPEN, as F&^%$#$%^ that.

Dear lord i hope my children don't ever have to go thru what im going thru just to have them.

Schmelly

Well, there'll be some kind of BnB equivlent on some kind of internet equivalent...By 2038 who knows? It could be Baby, Bump and Martian by then!!! I'd just offer a friendly ear, and make her aware of facts and figures. I had no idea until we started ttc actually how long it could take and how many problems you can have. I think forarmed is forwarned...sorry to drag out the old cliches, but really think knowing your stuff helps (even if just a little!).

rachelle1975

as long as i don't utter the immortal words 'don't worry sweetheart, just relax and try not to stress about it'................ aaarrrggghhhhhhh!!