Coffee

Hey girlies!
Had a bit of a mini meltdown this weekend from my usual chilled self!! Basically, i was due to OV on Friday and when i tried to get it on with DH, he turned me down, saying he was too tired!! So i went to bed all huffy, then next day he says he's sorry, feeling guilty about it etc and i just shouted at him and was really, really horrible to him!! Completely lost it and told him he was useless... its all his fault we aren't pg... i make all the effort and he doesn't... blah blah blah!!
In hindsight, it was so irrational! Jeez, if the man's tired i shouldn't be falling out with him really!! I can't help feeling frustrated though- you spend all flipping month thinking about it, waiting for Af to leave, then waiting for Ov... you're all ready and then BAM! All your efforts feel thwarted!!
We've made up now but made me wonder if we need a couple of months off or something? I didn't realise how upset it was making me until it all poured out of my mouth in a really hateful way!!!!!!!!! I was just wondering if others have ever felt this way?! Am i normal or do i seriously need to take a break and chill out!!

Beckic

You are definitely not alone - my hormones always go riot when I OV and that coupled with the normal stress of TTC - I always end up having a row with my DH every time I OV. I always end up have to go crawling with an apology to get some make up sex!!


Bx x x

buffycat

so glad i am not alone!

once af has gone, you look up various things, check calculators, plan early nights and then when poor hubby says he is tired, you flip out / get upset!

oh sigh.....

one day!

tansey

This is normal - OH tend to get tired around OV for some reason! Also with our hormones we can go a bit crazy -you are not alone!!

Coffee

Ah cheers guys! I've been really worrying that i might be losing the plot a bit!! You are making me see that i just need to realise i lost my temper, get over it, and forget about it!!

You're right though Tansey - why the hell DO men suddenly get tired around Ov?! What's up with that?! It's like the rest of the month he's a sex god and wants it every night, then as soon as it gets to Ov he suddenly seems tired!! He claims he has no idea that it was Ov time, but if i know, how the hell can he not know!!!

Helen_26

Coral

Try not BD'ing as often the rest of the month, so by the time ovulation comes round your OH will be begging.......

Seriously though I think men get a little uptight anyway about having to perform so to speak at certain times, and Im sure you are not the first one to get mad, I was lucky that my DH was up for it (excuse the pun) but then we hadnt been trying for that long!!!

Im sure he feels bad enough now!!

magicvw

Hehe! You are soooo not alone Coffee! Last month my ov night was a disaster. DH came home after a night in the pub after the European Championship final - the extra time meant it was 1am. I had fallen asleep. I woke up and we tried for Ov's sake, but the beer was not helping him in that department and he wanted me to lend a helping hand, so to speak. I was so tired and just wanted it to be over and done with, so despite my efforts he still wasn't ready as it was not seductive in the slightest. We ended up fighting and going to sleep on the argument. Next morning there was no time. It was so crap!

I have already told DH that this month O is likely to fall on our wedding anniversary so hopefully things will work out better...! However, I am contemplating lying about my OPKs/temps etc so I can say to him, C'mon it's way too early/late in the month for me to get pregnant now, so let's just shag each other crazy anyway - that way he won't feel the pressure... Or is that too dishonest?

TrixieLox

Hey hon, you KNOW that I've been thru similar, we all go thru it but gotta remember they're our boyz, we love 'em and they'll be ready to BD for baby-creating when they're good 'n' ready.

Tx

Loula

I did the old oh it's not time yet, it's too early, let's just enjoy it! but we still managed a mr floppy episode in that time, mind you I was all over him for 6 days in a row. I know it's hard ( no pun!) for them, but generally most men leave the worrying for the rest of the cycle to us, we are the ones who cope with it every day, so I feel it's only their duty to bloody well get it on/up!! That's a whole month wasted otherwise and they sometimes don't appreciate that fact.

So no you aren't the only one!