Schmelly

Maybe he's just feeling upset at the anniversary coming up, and also he could be feeling very frustrated that you haven't had any more luck since your terrible loss. Maybe he just wanted to give you the baby you both desperately want and just got a bit carried away by his emotions. When you questioned him, maybe he just wasn't able to speak the truth and say that..you know what men are like!

I do agree though, that you should let him see the bruises. Maybe he didn't realise quite how rough he was being.

Good luck, and let us know how you get on

butterflies

Aww honey. i really don't think men sometimes realise how rough they can be. Please show him the bruises and tell him how its made you feel, you do need to talk about this properly.

Mynxie

if you don't like it, he shouldn't be doing it.

I'm all for a bit of rough n stuff - but only on my terms too, if you know what I mean.

You need to talk to him babe, you sound really upset and him being like that is just not good enough. If it's not what you want, he shouldn't be doing it!

Mynxie

about the strangle/orgasm thing - if the blood flow is restricted to your head slightly ie by strangling an orgasm will be more intense - but it only has to be light, not full scale throttling!

bexy_22

he must have just decided to take a chance and try it. you should just tell him that it didn't work for you and i'm sure he won't try it again. I like a bit of rough now and again but if he did that i'd be very taken aback x

Lazy Leo

Oh hun, this sounds bloody awful. He had no right to hurt you. I daren't even ask if you asked him to stop, because if you did and he continued we all know what that means. No means no, no matter what the extenuating circumstances are at the moment.

My hubby did something similar to me when we were dating. It was after a friend's 21st and copious amounts of alchohol. He effectively pinned me against a wall and then kinda pushed me on the bed in a way which was meant to be passionate but I was scared - he'd never ever been like that and I can say that then I didn't know how to tell him to stop because I was so stunned. But I went very very still and he realised how scared I was. He stopped instantly he realised I wasn't happy and he was mortified when he realised how badly he'd scared me. To this day it's never happened since - it was 9 years ago and we certainly don't drink like we did in those halcyon student days!!

You have to find your way to tell him that he scared you and that's a side of him you never ever want to see again. Rough is rough, but this sounds like it went a whole lot further.

Farie

I have to second what nic said

elm

In answer to your question I think Bding becomes dangerous when you aren't able to stop what's happening. If your DH wants to try a bit holding you down and doing role play or whatever I think that you both need to discuss your boundaries and most importantly agree on a safe word so that you can stop whatever is happening if you don't feel comfortable with it.

It sounds really scary what he did but it probably seems worse to me as I don't know him.

Hope everything's ok with you xxx

faye38

sound like he has a bit of a fetish side to him! but if your not into that then he has no right in doing it to you GOOD LUCK WITH TALKING TO HIM ABOUT IT

loopylew

i agree with Nic, no way should you feel scared!! i think its out of order no matter how upset he may be, there are other ways to express his feelings.