Mynxie

Was just wondering if anyone else feels the same?

Starting to feel emotionally drained with all of this TTC and starting to doubt that I will ever be a mum to a living child.

I dunno, sometimes I just feel like crying. TTC the first time was easy, I fell PG first month, then I MCd at about 6 weeks. I remember thinking, stupidly "how can people have so much trouble?" now i know and I regret thinking that - big time! More than 3 years later and 3 MCs in total and it's getting a bit draining.

I know I'm always moaning about summit - sorry

so, anyway...does anyone else feel frustrated and drained?

JASMAK

WEll, I feel badly for replying to this post...because I am not really in your situation entirely. I am blessed with two children. But, I have been TTC for a long time too (18 mths "trying", 3 years "not preventing") with 2 m/c's in there, back to back last year. I was just diagnosed with "recurrent m/c" and well, I feel sad, frustrated. I wish I didn't want another so badly...but I do. And, I can't give up. Some don't understand. They think because I have two, I should give up. I want the third as much as the first. The frustrating part, and I am sure you feel the same, having m/c yourself, is, even if I do become pregnant, that is no guarantee of a baby... You just have to hang in there... (hugs)

Freya

Hi there Mynxie, not sure if I'm over stepping the mark by reading your post - or even replying, but I just wanted to give you a cyber hug, it sounds like you don't have any energy left at all!

I wonder if you can spend some time on yourself for a bit, have a short break from TTC and work on getting that energy back up. Doing things you enjoy? I know not everyone is 'in to' alternative therapies, but a good old aromatherapy massage or reiki session can really give you the feel-good factor. If that's not for you, how about getting lost in a book or catch up with all the gossip mags.

It just sounded like you were mentally and physically exhausted and thats just no good for you, and for your future bub!

Nic-Flowers

I feel very similar to you. I can not wait to get pregnant but I wonder if I will be able to make it to term. I want a healthy LIVING baby, but that seems to be more and more impossible with each passing cycle.

porkpie1981

Farie

Hey chick, big
You are not alone in feeling like that, I feel exactly the same at times. TTC is frustraiting, and emotionally draining. On good days I can laugh at myself, with my charts, books, OPKs, pre-seed and 'cycle plans'. But on bad days it just reduces me to tears, there seems to be no rhymn or reason, we are doing everyhting 'right' yet getting no results.
AF minics so closely that everyhting i feel in the 2WW could just be her on her way ...

But we have to keep positive, we can do this, and we WILL get our

tansey

I don't blame you for feeling the way you do after all you've been through!
It's hard to know what to say when i haven't been trying for as long as you!
I sort of understand as i did fall pg first go like you and had an early MC. I have been trying since and i am frustrated that i haven't fallen pg each month since, thinking 'what's wrong with me, i've done it once, why isn't it happening?' I don't know whether i would be a strong as you if this went on for as long as you. I admire ladies like you who come on here chatting and answering questions even though you are suffering. You are allowed to be frustrated!

loopylew

Im really frustrated, unlike you ive never been pregnant or m/c in 9months of trying but i know my luteal phase is way too short and my cycles irregular. I couldn't feel further from concieving. We have our first fertility appt on the 17th July and im just hoping that something can be done. I feel glad in one respect that i am actually ovulating and then AF comes so in one sense something is right there and hopefully just needs adjusting

Mynxie

don't be silly huni if I didn't want people to read it, including PG ladies, I wouldn't have posted it on the forum huni

Thanks for all your replies.

I think what makes it worse atm is that AF is all over the place (has been since 1st MC tbh) and that makes things more difficult and frustrating.

You know, what really scares me sometimes is that a friend of ours and his ex were TTC for 18month and started to go down the IVF route (she had medical probs so they got to jump the que a bit) and the stress of all the TTC without success split them up - before they had their first IVF. That scares me.

Mrs R

Aww ladies, I was busy feeling sorry for myself but i think you have helped put things into perspective.

Although Im having trouble ttc, I've never been pg or had to go through m/c. I just wanted to say good luck to all of you and stay strong - our time will come!!