niknaknat

30 years old and I've just had a right telling off from my mum
It's quite a long story but to cut it short I havn't been talking to my mum about ttc recently because sometimes I think she thinks that I'm stupid for wanting another baby. She voiced her opinions quite clearly when I told her I was going for the reversal and said things like " why the hell would you want to have another baby...you've just got the others in full time school and you're time is your own " ect ect.
Although she has come round to the idea of possiblly having another granchild and was very excited when I got pregnant in march it seems that she has found something else to moan at me about
She say's that I am becoming OBSESSED with ttc...to the point that I am becoming someone else!! She said that I am constantly unhappy and that ttc is all I talk about.
It also came to light that she has been talking to my 10 year old daughter about this and making comments like " I wonder what sort of mood your mum is going to be in when we get back" ( my daughter sometimes stays with my mum at the weekends). She has told me that she thinks I may be DEPRESSED!!!!!!!! and that I ought to find something else in my life to take my mind off it. To a certain degree I have to agree with her...it is getting me down but I am taking steps to relax more about it all.
I couldn't make her understand that sometimes I am not in control of my feelings and it's easier said than done just to " take your mind off it "...especially when I seem to be getting every pregnancy symptom under the sun....every month...just to get a negative at the end of it
I found it quite Ironic that she should tell me that ttc is all I ever talk about when all she talks about is how much weight she has lost( another long story).
Diet this, calorie and fat that, exercise, diet pills, plastic surgery all the time...but I never complain even though in my opinion she is going to end up very very ill at the end of it, not just DEPRESSED!!!
Sorry for the rant but I just wanted to get it off my chest, what i need from my mum is support and a little bit of understanding...just doesn't look like I'm gonna get it.
To all xxxxxxx

diva4180

hun, I'm sorry you had to hear all that from your mum!

Stephie 25

aww, hun hope your mum comes round soon and stops having a go.

Beckic

U poor thing - my mum goes on all the time as well - she thinks the only reason I havnt conceived is because I am too obsessed with it - she say that i should put it out of my mind and it will happen - it drives me insane - as though it is compeltely my fault I am not pregnant - and can someone tell me how the bloomin hell you stop thinking about it!!!

Its especially awful that she is this way with you as you have had a M/C.

you can get all the support and understanding you need from us here angel - we all understand what you are going through.

bx x x x

jonnanne3

I am kinda there with you in a sense. My mom supports me but I feel like it is all I can think about, especially since my mc. I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about it because those are things you can't talk about. My cousin is pregnant and she is a selfish b**ch and she has kinda rubbed it in my face that she is pregnant and wants to talk about her symptoms and asks me what my symptoms were! Seriously.... I want to freaking slap her!
The TTC thing is very obsessive! I am sorry your mum is being like that. Sometimes you have to take what they say and let it in one ear and out the other! I am sure she means well in her own way, it's just hard to see sometimes. My mom says things sometimes and it rubbs me totally wrong! But I either just say nothing or I let her know she hurt my feelings and we address it. Depending on our moods......
Anyway I wish you luck and I am sorry you are having to go through this. Sending you bunches of &
xx

JK1978

Oh how awful! Even if there were hints of truth to what she is saying, that's horrible stress and anxiety to put on someone when all they want to do is bring another precious life into this world, and into their family. What gives anyone the right to tell us what is best for us?

I have the EXACT OPOSITE problem with my mother and mother-in-law. Constant pressure about not having kids yet, judgements passed on what we do with our time and money while we are still young. I want a baby more then anything, but I also know that at this point, it's out of my hands.

DH and I decided to adopt if this last 6 month span of trying fails, and they cannot believe we will not go for IVF.

Wish everyone would mind their own business and let people live how they want. Imagine how great the world would be if that was the case...

Vickie

BeckyBoo

was a bit unfair xxx

Firebabe

Im getting the reversal too! Im 37 great u stuck after yourselves
Mom's aren't always right u know
goodluck

Farie

honey
That's why I can't tell mine, she would be so negative and generally put me down. I worry quite enough without that as well!