The F word?

Loula · May 18th, 2008, 13:23 PM

Forgive me for asking and hope this sin't stirring up a hornets nest!!

I know on FF and some other places that it's frowned upon to use the F word.. because no matter how long you've tried, there's usually someone who has tried for longer...

FINALLY!!

Is it the same here?

Wouldn't wish to offend someone by posting when I FINALLY get my

Nic-Flowers · May 18th, 2008, 13:29 PM

I would be thrilled if you got a BFP. I am not upset when anyone on B&B gets a BFP because we become so close and I know they are waiting for me in the pregnancy area. (and everyone else that gets a BFP makes it closer to being my turn)

coccyx · May 18th, 2008, 13:34 PM

i am sure most people on here are pleased when someone gets a bfp, so good luck

**Vickie** · May 18th, 2008, 13:37 PM

This is a very supportive forum. Yes there are girls on here who've been trying for years, but I'm friends with a lot of them (and I got my BFP quickly) and they've all been the greatest support system to me throughout my pregnancy

Samo · May 18th, 2008, 13:38 PM

i'm sure anywhere there will be some people who feel down, envy, get jealous, what have you when someone else posts a BFP...but we all try to smile and congratulate the lucky mother to be! You really can't tell a person's true feelings . Girls have been posting their good news all the time with no problem, but i am sure some have a heartache but continue to smile and wait for their turn. You just can't help that!

No one will tell you you can't share your news though, and I am sure in the end we will all be thrilled for you or any other lady here for BFP news!

Loula · May 18th, 2008, 13:44 PM

thanks all.. not so much a case of not sharing or announcing, just the use of the word FINALLY

I have to say I was really surprised when I found out that the etiquette on other forums is to not say "FINALLY!" because for some people, it really is a case of it being finally.. I personally think they are taking it a little too far and being rather uptight about it.

It always puzzled me because as ( think I can safely say this) a long term TTCer of 2+ years, I wouldn't ever feel offended by someone saying FINALLY ( well maybe if only after a couple cycles!) but TTC feels like it takes ages however long you have to wait for your

right?

Sinead · May 18th, 2008, 13:51 PM

I wouldn't be offended by the word "finally" coz no matter how long you have been trying every BFN brings heartache.
Hope you "finally" get your BFP soon xxx

porkpie1981 · May 18th, 2008, 15:44 PM

Everytime i hear of a

i get soooo excited as its the best feeling

magicvw · May 18th, 2008, 15:50 PM

I have never heard that "finally" is taboo! You learn something new every day! I agree with the above posts - the real meaning of "finally" is very personal and is different for everyone, but is a sentiment that everyone can understand.

If it is a problem on BnB tho, someone pls say!

**Vickie** · May 18th, 2008, 16:01 PM

I don't know that it's a problem, I can understand how someone who has been TTC for two years would get upset if someone who was TTC for only a handful of months said that they'd "finally conceived" But I've never seen anyone get treated/talked down too on here because of the use of the word finally when talking about BFPs.

May 18th, 2008, 13:23 PM	#1
Loula Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Northern Scotland Posts: 819	The F word? Forgive me for asking and hope this sin't stirring up a hornets nest!! I know on FF and some other places that it's frowned upon to use the F word.. because no matter how long you've tried, there's usually someone who has tried for longer... FINALLY!! Is it the same here? Wouldn't wish to offend someone by posting when I FINALLY get my

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May 18th, 2008, 13:29 PM	#2
Nic-Flowers Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 865	I would be thrilled if you got a BFP. I am not upset when anyone on B&B gets a BFP because we become so close and I know they are waiting for me in the pregnancy area. (and everyone else that gets a BFP makes it closer to being my turn)

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May 18th, 2008, 13:34 PM	#3
coccyx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: with the camels Posts: 2,578	i am sure most people on here are pleased when someone gets a bfp, so good luck

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May 18th, 2008, 13:37 PM	#4
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,675	This is a very supportive forum. Yes there are girls on here who've been trying for years, but I'm friends with a lot of them (and I got my BFP quickly) and they've all been the greatest support system to me throughout my pregnancy

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May 18th, 2008, 13:38 PM	#5
Samo Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: AFB Posts: 2,887	i'm sure anywhere there will be some people who feel down, envy, get jealous, what have you when someone else posts a BFP...but we all try to smile and congratulate the lucky mother to be! You really can't tell a person's true feelings . Girls have been posting their good news all the time with no problem, but i am sure some have a heartache but continue to smile and wait for their turn. You just can't help that! No one will tell you you can't share your news though, and I am sure in the end we will all be thrilled for you or any other lady here for BFP news!

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May 18th, 2008, 13:44 PM	#6
Loula Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Northern Scotland Posts: 819	thanks all.. not so much a case of not sharing or announcing, just the use of the word FINALLY I have to say I was really surprised when I found out that the etiquette on other forums is to not say "FINALLY!" because for some people, it really is a case of it being finally.. I personally think they are taking it a little too far and being rather uptight about it. It always puzzled me because as ( think I can safely say this) a long term TTCer of 2+ years, I wouldn't ever feel offended by someone saying FINALLY ( well maybe if only after a couple cycles!) but TTC feels like it takes ages however long you have to wait for your right?

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May 18th, 2008, 13:51 PM	#7
Sinead Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Manchester Posts: 2,698	I wouldn't be offended by the word "finally" coz no matter how long you have been trying every BFN brings heartache. Hope you "finally" get your BFP soon xxx

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May 18th, 2008, 15:44 PM	#8
porkpie1981 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Belfast Posts: 9,107	Everytime i hear of a i get soooo excited as its the best feeling

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May 18th, 2008, 15:50 PM	#9
magicvw Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: the Dark Ages Posts: 15,345	I have never heard that "finally" is taboo! You learn something new every day! I agree with the above posts - the real meaning of "finally" is very personal and is different for everyone, but is a sentiment that everyone can understand. If it is a problem on BnB tho, someone pls say!

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May 18th, 2008, 16:01 PM	#10
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,675	I don't know that it's a problem, I can understand how someone who has been TTC for two years would get upset if someone who was TTC for only a handful of months said that they'd "finally conceived" But I've never seen anyone get treated/talked down too on here because of the use of the word finally when talking about BFPs.

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