Hi there,

I am 24, the hubby is 30; I joined the site last year, now six months later and still nothing, we've been trying every month, and charting, Doctors have run lots of blood tests, but there should be no reason why we should not be getting pregnant.

Lots of things have changed in the last six months, healthier lifestyles, I have lost a healthy amount of weight all to aid us having a better chance, but still nothing, we'll be married three years in August and all the family keeps asking is when are you having a little one, sometimes I wish I could just tell them the truth of that we have been going through, trying so hard and how much it hurts each month when we find out nothing, and how it hurts even more so when they keep prodding and saying it is time you start having children, just wish i could be honest to stop the comments, and keep them quiet for a while... but I don't want their pity.

Looking for another job so I don't have to commute as much to try and reduce stress, but creating more stress as can't find anything local.
Just like so many of us, I am feeling like I am going in circles.

My Niece turns three in October, we have been trying from a couple of months before she turned two, i thought by now she would have at least had a playmate on the way.

Any who, just baring my thoughts to get it off my chest, I know that there are so many of us in the same situation, I wish you all the best of luck.

I know I sound all down in the dumps, but I feel a lot better now, I have come to terms with the fact that it is going to take time and I don't have complete control over the situation and it will happen when the time is right, I've grown as a person through my journey, and it has taught me lessons to be better mother when I am finally given the opportunity.

Keep your chins up and best wishes to you all!!

CC

Hi hun,
Gosh i know how you feel!
We've been trying for 6 months too .. and nothing - i haven't even had a period since March 13!
Even the most perfectly healthy couple has something like only 25% of conceiving each cycle. Maybe you are putting so muhc effort into TTC that it's not happening? Try to relax a little bit!

We are all in the same boat hun, just try and wait it out, your time will come sweetie!

Don't give up hun. It took me 19 months to fall pregnant this time. And I was told there was no reason why I couldn't have kids and I already had a son that proved we are both fertile. Cutting out coffee/fizzy drinks/sweet things out of your OH diet can improve sperm movement. Have you thought about having his sperm tested? There also alot of herbs etc that I've seem on TV recently that can help.

If you have cable, watch 'Extreme Pregnancy' on H+H. They do alot about people who try different things to get pregnant and within a few months it works.

Hi Clarice
What a lovely post! Just wanted to say good luck. We all know what you are going through.

Hiya Clarice!

I know what it feels like hun. We tried for 10 months before I fell pg with no1 - and now it's been about the same length of time trying for no.2! It does your head in if you think about it too much! But don't forget that they reckon you should try for 12 months before starting to seek for medical answers. I know that it seems such a long time, but the harsh reality is that Humans are not very fertile animals in general! As you say, you are both healthy and doing all the right things. You will get there, and here's some to help you on the way!

Hey Hun

Just wanted to say I know how you feel, why is it when its the only thing you want its the hardest to come by?!?

all round me thinks and a scatter of so as we can all make our wishes come true!


Good Luck
Kelly.xx

hiya, nice to meet you

Even in healthy fit people with no underlying problems upto 12 months is average and even upto 2 yrs is apparently within "normal" levels, with 90-95% of couples conceiving in that time - so try to not stress too much, yeah I know easier said than done!!

If nothing after 12 motnhs, go and ask for basic blooodworks to be done :0

Hope you'll not be here for long!!

i bet u will just be surprised soon with a

Dont give up!! There have been lots of BFP's recently for girls that have been trying for 18 months + , including myself!!

Stay positive hun your BFP will come soon enough!!

It' been a bit since i logged on, but just wanted to thank you all for your kind words, I am holding on to happy thoughts for you all.

xx