Happy

Hi

I had a miscarriage on monday I was almost 7 weeks gone. At the time I didn't think I could ever think of TTC again. However its now the end of the week and I am thinking about when we should try. For those who have suffered m/c how long did you wait?

We have decided to wait until AF arrives before trying but I just wondered if this was too soon?

Dee_H

Hi Happy...first off let me say I'm so sorry for your loss....m/c is never an easy thing to deal with. I lost a baby in January of this year. My DH and I started trying again as soon as I went through a regular cycle. It is a very scary thought to ttc after a m/c. Of course there will be the fear of will it happen again... but if a baby is something you truely want...then my dear, don't give up. There is a great deal of support on this forum...so I suggest you use it. Remember we are all here if you would like to talk...or if you wish to pm please feel free

Freya

HI there, Soooooo very sorry to hear of your loss. Had a missed m/c last year and was crushed completely, so know how devastated you must be - and that will be an understatement!

I think you and your partner need to do what is best for you both, it's such an individual decision. For me, I couldn't wait to try again (in fact the desire was overwhelming!) but my partner was more cautious and wanted to wait 6 months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What a thought!!!!!! However it was a particularly bad time for us and I didn't cope well. Looking back I really needed that time.

Whatever you decide will be right for you.

Sending lots of warm wishes xx

xxxjacquixxx

Happy..sending you loads of
I know exactly how you feel hun. I suffered an early m/c at 5 wks 3 days nearly 4 weeks ago. At the time I was absolutely gutted and didnt think I could go through with ttc agin so soon. But you know what, me and Oh picked ourselves up and went at it straight after m/c finished...Im now in the last week of 2ww and praying for another this month!
My advice to you is go with your heart...if it feels too soon then dont feel pressured to do it, just wait until your ready.
I think m/c 's happen for a reason (my opinion, dont want to offend anyone here) and that our beans are not meant to be for this world, but soon one will come along and make everything right..I hang onto that thought.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do. xxx

nicola647

Sorry to hear of your Loss chick.

i had a M/C at 10 wks, but this was back in 2002. took me a long long time to get over it. now, 6 yrs on i am TTC, but each person is different. and each person deals with it differently.

Do what ever feels right for you hun. Good Luck.

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hopeful4baby

I'm really sorry for your loss! I went through two myself. The first time the doctor suggested to wait only until the 1st period, so you know where you are in a cycle. Second time they suggested 3 months, but we've waited only 2. I couldn't wait! I was so crushed and for few months after that, I was absolutely desperate to continue where I've left off. We are still on the TTC road, praying and hoping that 3rd time we'll be lucky. From the doctor's point of view you are ready pretty much straight away. I know that 2nd time that suggested 3 months because of the emotional healing more than anything else. It's really only up to you when you want start again. I wish you the best of luck!

Happy

Thanks girls. I'm doing ok now i'm so glad I have stopped bleeding i was dreading it going on for weeks. I'm starting to get the urge to try again soon but i'm just sooo scared it will happen again, everywhere I go there are babies!!

tansey

Sorry for your loss - start trying again when you are both ready. I wish you the best of luck as i know what you are going through! xx

Schmelly

So sorry to hear about your mc. Unless there were any physical complications with your mc you are ok to start trying as soon as you are emotionally ready. My DH and I began trying again immediately.

Good luck

Vickie

So sorry for your loss. I think it varies for everyone. Some women feel comfortable TTC immediately after a loss, while for others it takes some time. Do what you feel is best for you