Squeezed in the title there didn't I?

Last night my older brother came over for a while and while talking about his daughter he felt the need to tell me *drum roll please*

I am obsessed with having a baby!

I felt the need to call him a jerk but I kept that to myself. He doesn't know the pain and disappointment of actually trying to have a child. Not all of us have the luck to just magically conceive...we have health problems, and bum ovaries and just bad luck. We support all of the people who get the big suprise "we weren't even trying" pregnancies. Why can they not support us?

I love my TTC girls and I admit I am obsessed....but don't call me obsessed, because fair warning I am also a bit mental, and I bite....stand back!

That was not very nice of your brother...

Dont mind him hun... he has a penis.... and some men dont think before they speak....

I get told every single day, by family and friends that im obsessed with TTC, but place yourself in my shoes i tell them, i went into hospital to walk out a new mommy, and almost died myself and left the hospital a few days later with a baby bag and no baby.

And it is always so funny how women *no offense meant to anyone on BNB* your time will come to have your own baby, *holding there healthy beautiful baby* WTF.

I am there with you hun, what the hell do they know.

I too left the hospital with no baby, and I have to hear about my friends close calls. Their baby was sick, or premature...but they lived. I hate to seem bitter but I just spent mother's day being told I will be a mother soon...I am a mother, I have a son, unforutantely he is not with me. I have to deal with this and most people do not understand the pain and sadness that can be felt with the loss of a child and trying to conceive again...

I love you all, and I hope it happens soon for you, and I will be here for all of you like you have been there for me.

Soz to ask this question, but how far along were you with your son???
And what happened????

I totally agree with u girls, but unfortunately I don't think anyone can understand unless they've been through it. I hate it when people say 'relax and it will happen' - that makes my blood boil!!!!

I haven't lost a baby and I feel bad enough, I can't imagine what u girls have been through and still going through, my heart goes out for you and I would happily add months of ttc to my belt to give you a BFP.

That's why this forum is so great - everyone on here is a bit ttc loopy!!!!

Oh hun, i'm so sorry you are feeling this

People normally say insensitive things, when they don't understand a situation. I'm sure your brother didn't mean any harm, and maybe he didn't see it as a mean thing to say, but ... i know from your point of you, that must have seemed harsh.
My future-step-mother-in-law () is always saying i'm obsessed with babies, and even said to my OH "Oh is Ally still taking her pill? I have a friend who deliberately stopped taking it to get pregnant" Blah blah, and that hurt.
But, the thing i have learn't through this journey is, actually, *excuse my language*, fuck them, fuck what they think, they don't know anything about how i feel, and i very mcuh doubt your brother knows how you feel. He is a man at the end of the day!

With TTC i've learn't not to actually care about what people think anymore, it's you and your OH special, exciting time, and if no-one can appreciate that, then fuck them, does it really matter to you what they think??

It doesn't bother me anymore, i may be 'obsessed' .. but don't you think it's better to be obsessed with having a baby that you desperately want, and can give a secure, loving, stable enviornent, than be 'obsessed' with alcohol/drugs etc .. !!

Try not to worry hun, and sorry about my mini rant, i just hate it when people insult us girlies at this most delicate times in our lives xx

That is so true - people i barely know have taken it upon themselves to tell me i'm also obsessed and getting stressed by it!

Yes i might get teary on occasion saying i feel like a failure who can't conceive... but for the most part i'm okay! I just get soooooooooo excited when it's ovulation time and again when AF drawers closer hoping i'll get my !!

They so don't get it!!

I'm not obsessed - i'm hopefuly and excited! There's a difference god damn it!

I know hun, i know!!

I too recently left the hospital without our baby and it was just such a huge stab in the heart. I never thought you could feel heartache but you can because I've felt it.

Now I just yearn to be able to have another healthy baby. I loved Beau so much, he was going to be our last and I just cannot describe the attatchment I felt to him. Having to do the whole ttc process over again mean all the worries back of, 'What if it doesn't happen again?, What if our chance is over?'. It doesn't help that everytime I say to my mum that I'm not feeling well it gets the, 'Oh I think you're pregnant' reaction. I'm not frigging pregnant, do you think I'd be moping around moaning if I even suspected I was! Also I've had so many, 'It won't take you long to get pregnant, you must be so fertile' comments. How do they know? I know they're trying to keep my hopes up but I don't want that. I know in reality ttc can take a long time, sometimes it never happens so don't say it!

Sorry, I'm ranting