This is more of a moan than anything. Basically, am feeling really down today cos I now know for sure that, if I don't get my BFP this month, we have only 2 months left of trying. Why? Well, my bro confirmed today that he's getting married in Mauritius next June and I won't be able to go if heavily pregnant or with a newborn (it's advised that you don't take a baby on a long-haul flight that's less than 2 months, plus can't travel in third trimester). It would really hurt my bro if I didn't go to his wedding. And I do want to go. But I also so want my baby lamb.

It's heart-wrenching cos it would mean we'd need to put our TTCing on hold for quite a few months.

My mum thinks we should just carry on trying. But I know my bro would be upset. But he will only get married once (maybe!) but I have a few years to get pregnant. He keeps asking us when we're going to stop trying - I can tell he's concerned I might get pregnant later this yr and not be able to go.

I'm starting to secretly resent my bro and his fiance for choosing a long-haul destination - and also for not maybe booking it later in the year next year. Plus choosing a place that's gonna cost us £4k, so much when we're trying to save for a family. Crazy cos it's their wedding! They should do what they wish.

This is so difficult. What would u guys do in this situation? x

It's a tough call really. Personally, for myself, I'd probably continue to TTC......

what an akward situation hun! I couldn't afford to go. That is a lot of money.
Is it just you and your brother? I have 3 brothers. imagine if they all decided to go abroad!
Maybe your brother doesn't understand what you are going through, and hopefully when they decide to TTC they won't have to go through all this!

Me and OH might get married abroad and we said we would pay for our parents but anyone else would be invited but not expected depending on their holiday time and money situations. If anyone takes offence that's their problem as it is our day and we will understand if they can't come.

will he fall out with you for long if you put yourself first?

Oh honey, the biggest hugs what a awful postion to be put in.

Personally, and this is just me, I would continue trying, you cannot put your life on hold JIC you miss his wedding, and it would be horrid to get there feeling resentful about it. It would mar you whole experiance.

I can sympathise, my OH and I are emigrating to NZ in the next 12 months and TTC is creating some logistical 'blips' but at the end of the day we want our little person, and if we have to put moving back a month or so, then so be it.
I never want to feel that the month we didnt TTC was the month we could have got a

Feel free to PM me if you want to chat, its a big decision and I know how your feeling.

Dude that's nasty. I for one would keep trying. There has got to be someone who can baby sit for a couple of days, right?

I would definately keep trying personally - I would be really sorry to miss the wedding but wouldn't want to stop TTC just in case I missed the month when it would have happened.

Hope you get your before then anyway xxx

Is it on a weekend? We can come babysit for you. It's not like I'll be pregnant or a mother by then anyhow!

i will keep trying too ... i think you can celebrate your brother wedding in a other more private way i think if you are pregnant and he see you with a beautiful bump i think he will understand then...
I always said in my life as much as i love my family (mom,dad, brother and sister) the first priority is my own Family me and my husband and i hope soon a bean ...so for me my priority will be continuing TTC and if i did get pregnant and i will found away to celebrate my brother wedding with out the big trip

awww hun

personally i agree with your mum, keep trying. I know its your brother but if your did get your he would understand. Your family all know youve been trying for a while so my guess is that your brother would be a bit miffed, but more happy for you for getting your

Thanks gals. Funnily enough, his fiance just called. She's also one of my very good friends. I told her my concerns about the money situation and she said we should feel no pressure to go. But I know them both. They would be gutted if we didn't go. I didn't mention the baby thing as it's so difficult to explain to someone who's got a few years till it becomes their priority. We're all very close. If I could only get pregnant in the next 2 months, it would be fine. Difficult situation. If I decided we must go and gave up in 2 months, I'd need to focus my mind on other things completely. We could start trying again at the beginning of the year as would be fine to go out there in 2nd trimester.

I can't even think about not going right now as my bro means a lot to me. That's why this is even more difficult. x