Firebabe

Im so sorry to hear that.. xoxo
I got gum bleeding and high Temp's and ended up with AF too .. sometimes we worry so much we give ourselves preg symptoms its seems like

Laura--x

Nah i know that. I dont want one just to solve my problems and make me 'cooking full time cleaning whatever' life worth it. i dunno.. im just makin mysself sound silly now lol. I just got so used to the idea of being pregnant and having a baby i now feel so lost and lonely ):.
haha.. ive been cooking since i can remember
make a good little chef i must say
i know hun

thanks xxx

starryeye31

awe , hun you are so young , I myself was a very young mom I had my first son 2 months before i turned 15 , and he was planned , I didnt think about things at the time , like how am i going to pay for a baby or who was going to pay all of the doctor bills , my parents had to pay for half of the bills`and his daddy had to pay for the other half , for the first few years of his life i lived with my parents and got child support , but my parents helped alot with him , I was lucky enough to find a good guy that has supported and taken care of us , so we didnt have it so bad , im 31 years old and my son is now 17 , I probably should have waited to have kids untill I was set in life , I never got to go to prom , I didnt get to graduate , I did get my GED though after I had moved to Alaska , but there are so many things I should have been doing besides changing diapers , I missed out so much of my young life , by the time I was 18 I had 2 babies and one on the way and 2 full time step kids . you will have plenty of time to have babies , but for now you should get a good life ready for those future babies , once you are set in life , have your own home , and a savings and things your baby will need it will be so much easier .

Coral

Laura

So sorry to hear the got you!

But please dont get too upset, you do have so many years ahead of you yet without such a big responsibility......

Like the others I have lived my life, been clubbing all my youth, had fantastic girlie holidays, had a great career where I travelled the world, and didnt actually get married until I was 32. We recently moved to France, where we are spending life renovating our house here, and hope to start a business later this year......enjoy life, you only get one shot at it!!

Im now 34 and just got my BFP.........and although I have always wanted children, never felt quite ready for the responsibility until now, although I know we are all different!

Not preaching hun, just want you to have the best life possible - like the other girls on the forum!!

Big

Laura--x

Thanks everyone

I know your all saying it because you want me to enjoy and live my life.. so thankyou .

i should hopefully get over the 'depression' within a few days lol.

its going to be hard and horible coming on here knowing im not here to ask questions and ask if what i felt that day was a pregnancy symptom or not

Whatever happens, happens i suppose.

xx

magicvw

Hiya Laura! Sorry to hear that the old turned up in the end and that you're feeling sad hun.

I think it is the most natural thing in the world to start thinking about TTC when you've had an unplanned "scare" (not that u were scared, but I can't think of another word for it!) When u start to think about what it would really be like to be pg, and have good reason to believe that u might be, it all suddenly becomes more real! I know you would make an absolutely fab mum hun, your kids will be lucky ones.

I do agree with some of the above posts tho, that there is no rush. There are so many reasons to wait a year or more. Financially you will be so much more secure if you start to plan your savings for a baby now- imagine what you will be able to buy for your LO if you start saving now!

Secondly, if you find yourself a better job with a nicer manager (I read your other thread about Prom night!) and a proper contract, you will be able to get maternity benefit if you work for a certain amount of time (can't remember how long as I don't live in the UK anymore!)

Thirdly, your own body probably hasn't finished growing yet, so it's better for your general health to wait a little while. Personally I didn't stop growing till I was 21! I thought I was gonna be 5'6 and I kept on till 5'8!!!


Big to you and even if you're not TTC you are more than welcome to stop by the forum and don't feel bad about it!!!

Suzanne

Have to agree with everything everyone else has said sweetie, although as magic said its weird when you think your pg and then realise your not! Like you have said you start to get over the shock, then start making plans then look forward to it, for it all to be taken away from you!

Ive seen both sides of the coin with friends, you can look at it from starryeyes point of view and what an excellent view point it is, she was 14 when she had her 1st baby and missed out on so much! You say you dont have much of a life but only you can make something of it, pack up your bags and you and OH go off travelling, go to college, your whole life is in front of you!

On the other hand ive had friends in a similar situation to Starryeye and they said it was the best thing they ever did, as now their children are 16/17 and they have their whole lives ahead of them, they can now go back to college, pick a profession and work at it, run their own businesses as they have life experience behind them, they can go out and enjoy it without going overboard, they can travel if they want to.. they are doing everything me and many other people on here did when we were your age and a little bit older....

You do what feels right for you sweetie, but just remember there is NO rush to do anything!

"Dream as if you will live forever.... Live as if you will die today"

Laura--x

thankyou so much (:

its true i can completely see what everyone is saying. I know for a fact if i was to haev a baby now it would be the best thing in the world. But i am just going to see how it goes for now, see what happens, have a good talk with my boyfriend and just go from there.

again, a big thankyou to everyone

porkpie1981

sorry appeared