Ok so after reading this im not really sure what to say...

I guess i'll start by saying as I'm soon to be a young mother i know id be sooo upset and heartbroken if someone did that to me in the street it's hard enough for young mothers as it is i really do think if you could treat a young mother like that i personally dont feel your ready for what it takes to be a young mother or tbh a mother at all at the moment and need to think about it a little bit more.

i was also extremely hurt by the amount of people who generalized young mothers into what i see as classing them all as vicki pollard wannabes i know women who are in there 30s who are terrible mothers but its never frowned apon as much as a 17 year old with a LO. I've had so many people put me down and tell me im stupid and i'll be a bad mother and ive not even had my little girl yet....i feel people need to stop making out us young mothers are so bad and treat us just like any other mother as that is what we are first and foremost for the rest of our lives we know that is something that can't be taken lightly at all.

sorry just wanted to voice my opinion

saoxx

I think comments tend to be based on how the person comes across, how mature they appear so on ...either on screen or face to face meaning a mother at 30 can be looked down on based on her lifestyle & behaviour just as much as a 17 year old just sadly when it is the younger age group there seems to be (imo yes wrongly) a strero type attched to all.

I think everyone knows a younger Mummy can give as much love & care to their baby as a 30 year old woman could just like at the same time a younger Mummy can fail for their babies needs just like a 30 year old.

Hope that makes sense as Im getting tired. SAO that hun all you can do is prov ethem wrong an Im sure you will x

It makes perfect sense and i agree totally but in quite afew of the replies young mothers were generalized and judged.... and that is why i posted my feelings of sadness that people can act like that nothing more nothing less.....

I agree 100% with wobbles post what you did was wrong in so many ways. I'm suprised you thought it was ok. i was a young first time mum which was NOT planned and if anyone ever did to me what you did to that poor girl i would have put them back in there place . I honestly think you need to talk to someone about how your feeling coz from your post you seem far from ready to bring a baby into the world.

that y i said i have no problem with young mothers, im out of school but ttc. dont get me wrong on that, and on 2nd thought my reaction was harsh b/c i was upset about several things and seeing that was the last straw for the day. but seriously, as one poster said, in ATL, GA, there are hundreds of cases of t/b and its an airborne disease. honestly, the school just had an outbreak of the mrsa staph infection thats FATAL. i just think this showed poor judgement on the mothers part. she couldve invited her friends over if she wanted to show off her child that bad, rather than endanger it.

it had nothing to do with the fact that she was a young mother, i wouldve been just as incensed if it was someone older. like many said, i cant talk because i am only 17, and while still a teen myself, with the outbeaks having been in the news, u would think ppl would keep a baby THAT young away from a place that was KNOWN to have been a center of outbreak. and again, i wouldve even understood if she had had ppl wash thier hands first, but these were ppl coming from gym(sweat is a carrier for the staph infection) and the cafeteria. her mother was NOWHERE to b found to supervise the passing around of this baby. the only reason she showed up was bcuz she saw the cowd forming from down the hall.
really, the age of the mother has NOTHING to do with it as i cant pass judgement. i have plenty of friend who are expecting or mothers and they're damn good at thier jobs! but to me, if ur going to b a parent, read a book, join a forum like this one, do SOMETHING to where ur more knowlegable(sp?) about children than that. bcuz if any of u wouldve known any building was havin problems with a disease outbreak of any kind, i doubt u would bring ur children there. dont get me wrong. i understand now that my response to the mother was harsh and out of order, but dont act innocent. we all kno ther have been situations where stress and emotions got the better and made us do/say things we've come to regret.
to all who said i need help, i dont, just a vacation. im going thru finals ight now in college and honestly im STRESSED. that doesnt excuse what i said, but im far from needing prfessional help.
and to all who said i shouldnt b ttc because of this[i]one incident[i] and think its ok to take that and say im not ready to have a baby, i think that kinda goes against the free-loving, non-judgmental attitude on this forum, dont ya think? if ppl judged others ability to b mothers from a single incident none of us would be here.
anyway, i dont feel run off at all, and while i respect everyones difference of opinions on my post, im a little shocked at some of the things said regarding my sanity.

and wobbles, in hinesight, im suprised i didnt get hit.

my only hope is that u ladies are forgiving and not hold this against me when replying to my future posts. that would be very unfortunate if one post would run you all off from helping/advising/supporting me in the future.

i will be and i'm sure all of the girls will still be here to help, advice and support you in the future one incident of poor judgement of a situation doesnt make you a bad person. xx

thank u kookie

I think it was just how the first post came off thats all Im sure that post was made in the heat of the moment.... We have all been there. Had the originall post stated all the health issues going on in your area Im sure more girls would have been thinking the same thing.... Im sure there is no love loss by anyone and at the end of the day, we all have our moments, thoughts, and opinions. But when all is said and done, we are still here for each other..... Glad you are sticking around...