Originally Posted by butterflies

I appreciate all replies so far & its helping me.
To be honest, i don't think i have any need to worry, just can't help it anyway!!!!
I know DH does understand and he has seen me both delighted that friends are expecting/given birth and also silently gutted that i'm watching all my nearest and dearest go through what i long for so much.

I guess i'm worried because it seems so.....planned.....formal & maybe clinical.
That said i'm sure if i talk to hm about it all and include him in as much as he wants/feels comfortable with, then we will be fine.

We had a brief chat earlier about it all and he said to me that if shows up this month, we can go out together and buy the appropriate bits, i also saw some TTC vitamins for both him and her and his face perked right up at that idea......odd man!!!
This re-asssured me abit. He also came in whilst i was on here and said "oh is this your baby forum whasit" and i said yeah thinking he's going to think i'm obsessed!!! He just said " you seem to be getting some good info from there, seems like time well spent". That also reassured me.

I guess i'm just worried for silly reasons, and because i hoped like he did that TTC could be entirely un-aided....but i think if thats the case we may wait forever, and i can't!!!!

Originally Posted by faye38

hi have you thought about buying a cbfm i have one there really good and they take some pressure off thay tell you when you high and thay tell you when your at peak its really good let me no what you think

Originally Posted by Snowball

I keep my DH informed about my cycle and when it's best for us to BD. He jokes about that he feels 'used' but the other day he asked me if I fancied a 'top up'

He's not the type to appreciate me saying to him that we BD because I love him, he's not romantically tuned in that way. So we leave it that we try and BD every day or two and if I think I might be ovulating I march him into the bedroom but I don't think about it when we are BDing. That's the fun bit!

Originally Posted by dizzynic

I never had to tell my OH when i was ovulating we make love every day anyhow i knew but he didnt wouldve probably killed the mood if i had informed him better and i did use opks secretly but didnt temp he wouldve noticed .

Originally Posted by butterflies

Oh i wish....... DH works long hours and is very often tired!!! Lucky u!!!

Originally Posted by magicvw

I approached my DH just a couple of days ago. We have been "trying" since last august with no result (for no2), so I have startingdoing Fertility Friend, taking my temps, even getting to grips with checking my cervix! I didn't think DH would think it was a good idea, but I can't keep stuff from him for very long as my mouth won't stay shut!

Anyway, I approached it this way: I asked him what he knew about getting preggo (obvious answers ensued ) I told him that I had never listened in biology at school and that I had discovered a free online course, which was now doing (FF). He said - good on you! (Read, "about time you learnt something") I told him loads of stuff about temps, cervix, etc that I'd learnt on my "course", and he was quite intrigued. Then he looked worried and said "you're not going to start telling me when to shag are you" as if I could "tell" him - I have to fight him off to get a good night's sleep! I made it clear that all this stuff is a "Learning About My Body" thing, and he seems quite happy with that - even agreed to having the alarm set well early for my temps which has shocked me out of my pants!!!

ANyway, sorry for the rambling post GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

Originally Posted by dizzynic

I chase him round the house he has to put out if he wants a peaceful life i just have a really high sex drive so he doesnt think its anything other than the norm he never complains anyhow.