Why don't they understand? Kinda a rant, lol!!!

HunnieBee83 · Mar 22nd, 2010, 01:42 AM

Hey ya'll!!! I have come to the conclusion, that I don't think I want to talk to my mom or sister about me TTC anymore. It feels like they just don't 'get it'. My mom had 3 kids, and my sis is on her 2nd. Apparenty she's REALLY fertile bc of a tilted uterus, Hell, you could wish that on me ANY DAY!!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!! BUT they're like "It will happen..." All I hear is Blah Blah! I feel like they don't know what it's like to wake and and think"I may NOT be able to get preg. or carry a child., What will I do if I can't?" Then for the hell of it, I asked my sis(I know, she's 7 mons preg) if SHE would carry a baby for me if I turn out to be infertile, her answer, NO!!! Apparently she'd get too attached. My mom sided with her, and I didnt know what to think. I would do that for ANYONE!!! It kinda hurt alot. My own sister. It's not helping that Im getting the baby blues bad. I wouldn't wish TTC on anyone except crackheads and unfit people. ALSO my cous is 5 mons preg(WHICH, I went w/ her to the hosp. to have an ultra sound done, and can't believe I've never seen one b4. Saw the baby, Heard the heart beat, and was crying on the inside, wishing it was mine), her 2 sis's have had a baby within the past 5 mons, one in October, the other in Feb. One was 18 the other 19. I was joking w/her that I'd been trying for a baby longer than she's been having sex, lol!!! I see the dr. on the 5th, and dunno what good they can do, since ins. won't cover fertility issues if thats the case. I love my cousin and sister VERY VERY much, and am happy for them, I guess I just want it to be my turn to. And I don't know how to make them understand how I feel. I swear I feel like my body is working against me. I want a baby, and it just gets to me seeing everyone else get blessed but me. I know I will be a great mommy, and that baby will be soooo loved it's unreal. UGH, Im sorry if this is sooo boring... I guess I feel more comfy telling you guys, lol! Strange eh?

to ya all!!!!

NGRidley · Mar 22nd, 2010, 01:47 AM

not strange at all.
It is hard to talk to people when they are not going through the same things you are....and you can find that here.

I havent told anyone except people I talk to from here that I am TTC, because I dont really want to hear anything negative.....or any pressure.

HunnieBee83 · Mar 22nd, 2010, 01:52 AM

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Originally Posted by NGRidley

not strange at all.
It is hard to talk to people when they are not going through the same things you are....and you can find that here.

I havent told anyone except people I talk to from here that I am TTC, because I dont really want to hear anything negative.....or any pressure.

THX for replying, and I hear ya!!! I can talk to my couz about anything, and she's told me more than once that she wishes I was preg, not her. She's such a sweetie!!! I just always thought that I could tell my mom and sis anything..... I guess that time has come to a change.... it's kinda sad

libbymarks198 · Mar 22nd, 2010, 02:11 AM

aw hun sorry to hear that you are having a bad day...
it does suck seeing pg people all the time and sometimes people who dont even want a baby but get pg... but it will happen i am sure how long have you been trying for... arw you using opks and pre seed and everything else you can possibe do... try the sperm meets egg idea prehaps

HunnieBee83 · Mar 22nd, 2010, 02:52 AM

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Originally Posted by libbymarks198

aw hun sorry to hear that you are having a bad day...
it does suck seeing pg people all the time and sometimes people who dont even want a baby but get pg... but it will happen i am sure how long have you been trying for... arw you using opks and pre seed and everything else you can possibe do... try the sperm meets egg idea prehaps

Hey hn THX for replying also!!! RIGHT now Im using a OPK, tho

hasnt been here since December, and she NEVER comes on time!!! It sucks bc every test I take(hpt), is a

. And since Ovulation doesnt occur but once every 2-3 mons, I feel like Im wasting time on a OPK, I've heard of the Egg meets sperm thingy, but have NO IDEA how to do it. I tried reading the thread, and was still left confused!!! But yeah, my sis didnt want a baby, and BAM, here comes #2. I think it's hard for some people who have HAD kids, and know they dont have probs to understand us. I guess it just feels like Im fighting a losing battle sometimes...... Hope all is well!!!

to U!!!!!

Mar 22nd, 2010, 01:42 AM	#1
HunnieBee83 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Delaware, OH Posts: 125	Why don't they understand? Kinda a rant, lol!!! Hey ya'll!!! I have come to the conclusion, that I don't think I want to talk to my mom or sister about me TTC anymore. It feels like they just don't 'get it'. My mom had 3 kids, and my sis is on her 2nd. Apparenty she's REALLY fertile bc of a tilted uterus, Hell, you could wish that on me ANY DAY!!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!! BUT they're like "It will happen..." All I hear is Blah Blah! I feel like they don't know what it's like to wake and and think"I may NOT be able to get preg. or carry a child., What will I do if I can't?" Then for the hell of it, I asked my sis(I know, she's 7 mons preg) if SHE would carry a baby for me if I turn out to be infertile, her answer, NO!!! Apparently she'd get too attached. My mom sided with her, and I didnt know what to think. I would do that for ANYONE!!! It kinda hurt alot. My own sister. It's not helping that Im getting the baby blues bad. I wouldn't wish TTC on anyone except crackheads and unfit people. ALSO my cous is 5 mons preg(WHICH, I went w/ her to the hosp. to have an ultra sound done, and can't believe I've never seen one b4. Saw the baby, Heard the heart beat, and was crying on the inside, wishing it was mine), her 2 sis's have had a baby within the past 5 mons, one in October, the other in Feb. One was 18 the other 19. I was joking w/her that I'd been trying for a baby longer than she's been having sex, lol!!! I see the dr. on the 5th, and dunno what good they can do, since ins. won't cover fertility issues if thats the case. I love my cousin and sister VERY VERY much, and am happy for them, I guess I just want it to be my turn to. And I don't know how to make them understand how I feel. I swear I feel like my body is working against me. I want a baby, and it just gets to me seeing everyone else get blessed but me. I know I will be a great mommy, and that baby will be soooo loved it's unreal. UGH, Im sorry if this is sooo boring... I guess I feel more comfy telling you guys, lol! Strange eh? to ya all!!!!

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Mar 22nd, 2010, 02:11 AM	#4
libbymarks198 Waiting To Try (WTT) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: New Zealand Posts: 2,179	aw hun sorry to hear that you are having a bad day... it does suck seeing pg people all the time and sometimes people who dont even want a baby but get pg... but it will happen i am sure how long have you been trying for... arw you using opks and pre seed and everything else you can possibe do... try the sperm meets egg idea prehaps

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Mar 22nd, 2010, 01:47 AM	#2
NGRidley Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Ontario Canada Posts: 2,372	not strange at all. It is hard to talk to people when they are not going through the same things you are....and you can find that here. I havent told anyone except people I talk to from here that I am TTC, because I dont really want to hear anything negative.....or any pressure.

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