i think if you and your partner are dead set on having a baby then go for it, what other people say doesnt matter. But if your not 100% about it then you need to have a think
xx
I just wanted to second what the other girlies have said - it can only be your choice - only you know if you are financially and emotionally stable enough to cope with a child. If you are asking whether you should or not though, maybe as a couple of other girls have said, maybe you need to give it a little longer and make sure you are 100% decided before you carry on TTC.
I completely understand what you are saying about imagining a bump, imagining holding your child for the first time etc - i felt like this a few years ago BUT decided to wait until we were more settled in our relationship, owned our own home etc. Even though TTC is taking longer than i anticipated, i am still glad we waited- it meant i could just look forward to having children at some point soon and in the meantime enjoy being young! I've now been to nearly all the places in the world i have ever wanted to go, and done the things i have always wanted to do - not really an option when you have kids! I wouldn't change those fun years we spent together for anything - they are memories i will treasure forever. I still could imagine myself with a bump, holding my child etc, all through that time - wanting kids never changed... it just meant i looked forward to it in the future rather than thinking "i want that right now".
Everyone is different though and only you can decide what is right for you right now. Its an 18 year irreversible decision though - if you are even the slightest bit unsure i would seriously give it a little longer before you start TTC. For me, the dream of having a child is to have one with my husband and for us to be a family and all live happily together! One thing i wanted to make 100% sure of before i stopped using contraception was that this was going to be the ending! If i thought for one minute there was a chance i might end up alone i wouldn't be doing this.
At the end of the day, it's totally, absoloutley, up to you.
By coming on to the forums asking for advice says to me, that maybe you are not absoloutley sure. Even though i have never been pregnant, i can quite safely say, being a mother isnt all roses sweetie, it's hard work, and yes you will have a nice little bump, and be able to dress the baby up in cute little outfits. But, there's another thing, are you and your partner financially stable?
Do you know each other well enough?
This may sound harsh (which im not trying to be!) but 8 months, is not a very long time, and 18 year old boys are still very immature and childish. Maybe your boyfriend is not, and maybe he really does want this, but are YOU 100% sure you want him to be the father of your baby?
At the start of all relationships people lust after their partner, they want anything and everything straight away, moving in together, getting engaged, married, even want babies .. it's a natural part of relationships, then that stuff wears off, and the lust gradually goes away.
I really, really suggest you wait 6 months or so, you are in the very early stages of a relationship and personally i would feel that i wouldnt know my partner enough in 8 months to have a baby with him.
If you are mentally, emotionally, financially, and totally happy and totally sure, then go for it, we will be with you all the way!
I say that if it is totaly your decision and if you both really want it then go for it.....BUT if there is any doubt in your mind (which it seems there might be) then don't do it just yet.
Speaking frrom experience here....
I walked away from a wedding 2 weeks before the day cause I had a few very small doubts and looking back walking away probably saved my life in so many ways! So if you have dobts about something so life changing then wait
First off thank you very much for all your replys, I didnt expect to get so many, so thank you.
My partner read over all your replys as well and we had a chat about it, I feel after it we have still decided to go ahead, it was a slight wobble on my part yes but our conversation settled any fears I had.
So we shall continue to TTC and as it happens, my OV test is telling me the time is right now, but unlucky for us my partner has just left to do nightshift tonight so no help there heh.
Thankx again everyone and nice to meet you all
xx
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