Dee_H

Well my DH had a surprise for me last night. He informed me that he got us tickets to go to France for 9 days at the end of May. Our 1 year anniversary is on June 16 and I have always wanted to go to France. Problem is when we go away I will want to be able to have some fun and have some drinks so DH suggested that maybe we take this month off and try again when we are away ( I should be fertile during the time we are away) and try to conceive on vacation. All fine and good..I'm thrilled to go but the thought of losing out on yet another month kind of puts me in a slump! I don't want DH to feel bad about this wonderful surprise but I'm 30 with no children yet and my biological clock is ticking so loud it's giving me a headache.

Vickie

Honestly you can't put your life on hold for TTC. I really see no reason to take a break while you are away, and you should be able to still drink and have fun. Plenty of women get accidental BFP's and drank early on and still have healthy babies.

Dee_H

Thanks Vicki....I know I shouldn't but ttc takes a toll on me. I know I don't have to tell you guys that though.I just desperately want a baby. Maybe going away and relaxing will help us out. It would be kind of neat to be able to say we made our baby in France.

Spartacus

Hi Dee I don't see any reason why you can't have a drink whilst away and still try? I know I was having a few drinks when we were trying as you can't put everything on hold sweets so don't worry too much just enjoy yourself and see what happens it really won't do you any harm

have a lovely time

Lois

I can totally understand your concerns, but embracing your vacation and relaxing about ttc for a brief time may actually help it to happen!! See the break as a fertility aid rather than a prevention! Also, as above, many people who smoke, drink and are not even trying to get pregnant find themselves with a BFP so your really never know. Go to France and enjoy every second I say! Lx

BeachPrincess

30?! WOW! You look 20 in your pic!!

I think you should go... Get your mind off things & relax!! Everything happens for a reason.. I don't know how many people have told me that it happens when you aren't trying! Just BD on a different schedule! Go enjoy yourself! You deserve it!! we're going to France soon!! your husband must be a romantic!! Happy early Anniversary!! .. Oh.. and enjoy the wine!! Mmmm

Dee_H

I get that all the time beach princess..lol. I just turned 30 in March. I think you are all right. We do need to relax and enjoy our trip. My hubby is very romantic..I love it!!Thanks girls for bringing me around.

TT's

Everyone is different in their oppinions about drinking and pregnancy so all I can do is offer you mine...
I am currently TTC and I enjoy a few drinks at weekend, I don't think it does me any harm, but the minute I get that I will stop drinking and if I have been trying for a long time and still not pg I MIGHT consider changing that.

I personally don't think you should put your life and relationship on hold, remember this is your relationship: It is what makes you want the baby, it will create the baby and it is all you have left when the baby grows up and leaves you (which is what WILL happen). So make time for each other and forget about TTC for a few days.

Dee_H

[quote=TT's;376324]Everyone is different in their oppinions about drinking and pregnancy so all I can do is offer you mine...
I am currently TTC and I enjoy a few drinks at weekend, I don't think it does me any harm, but the minute I get that I will stop drinking and if I have been trying for a long time and still not pg I MIGHT consider changing that.

I personally don't think you should put your life and relationship on hold, remember this is your relationship: It is what makes you want the baby, it will create the baby and it is all you have left when the baby grows up and leaves you (which is what WILL happen). So make time for each other and forget about TTC for a few days.





My DH and I have a wonderful relationship and would hate for that to ever change. Thanks again for clearing my foggy ttc brain.

magicvw

Well the way I see it you can't lose either way. If you carry on BDing this month and get a BFN you can get trolleyed on holiday with a clear conscience, if you get a BFP then you've got the best thing in the world! So just carry on as you are and don't get stressed - that's the least helpful thing for your body! xxxxx