Hello

Sorry I don't post very often but I am on B&B ALL the time, you are all so nice and it gives me confort reading the posts.

About me

I'm 30 and DH is 30 we have been trying for 9 cycles. I have had 21 day bloods and Hubby has has sperm test. Mine came back fine hubby was ok accept his motility was 47% and the norm is 50-60%. We temp, use preseed OPK's, take pregnancy vits for him and her, cut out caffine, sweetner. drink more water.

All my friends have all fallen pregnant really easily and it's just getting harder and harder I have become obsessed with google researching all sorts of things, people tell you to relax but it is ALL i think about.

I am about 7-8DPO and I have been so depressed all weekend ( so much so couldn't get out of bed all day sunday and couldn't face work yesterday. I'm back today but I just feel tired and miserable. I just know in my heart of heart it hasn't worked again for us this month.

I've made a doctors appointment for this week, not really sure why but I think I need to tell him how I feel and what the next stages will be once we hit out year mark.

Not really looking for any responses just needed to put this all down hopefully it will make me feel better.

Baby Dust to you all

Hi Jessie,

Sorry you're feeling depressed. But you are not alone. I feel exactly the same. I've been trying not to cry all day as yesterday got a BFP then today AF showed up.
We've been trying since June 2009, which feels like forever. I feel like it's never going to happen.
Let us know what your doctor says. Maybe it can help me too. x

It is totally normal and understandable to feel like this, especially in the two week wait, Im on month 6 and its getting harder and harder each month.

I really hope things work out OK for you soon. Take care.

Thanks, its so nice to find comfort on this forum I can't talk to any of my friends as they have never stuggled like me. I really don't want to be put on pills for the depression as I worried that will effect my chances even more.

There are ways to avoid pills hon, but only if you catch it early enough.

I read a book years a go when I was ill called overcoming depression by Paul Gilbert, it uses a type of therapy called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and I highly recommend it. But dont be afraid to go with whatever the Dr advises.

Hey hun,

I haven't been trying for as long as you (only 6 months) but I know how upsetting and frustrating it is - I am 30 and DH is 35 and we are trying for #1....can't help thinking that we've left it later than we should and that makes me feel sad and a bit heartbroken. Similar situation, lots of friends and family having babies and seemingly getting pregnant at the drop of a hat; leaving me feeling inadequate and lonely.

The best piece of advice is not to lose hope (as hard as that may seem). You may conceive naturally...you may need pills/clomid/progesterone gel/pessaries...you may need IVF - the bottom line is, there is help out there. Positivity is so crucial for your body and mind at all times, let alone when your trying to make a baby. Think of the hundreds of stories you've read of people who have stopped trying/given up/waited for fertility appointments and the release of that stress has caused them to conceive naturally. Speak to your doctor about your options, maybe try reflexology to help you relax or accupuncture to 'get your body and mind in the right place'.

You can always post here if your feeling blue; no doubt there are many of us feeling the same way or who can maybe offer advice or pep you up.

You are not alone, sweetie. x x

PS: Its natural to feel angry, scared, upset, tired, frustrated...but don't bottle it up x

Awww hun, I know how hard it is. I'm on my 10th cycle and i often wonder if it'll ever happen! Im 32 next month, OH is 31!!

A few months back I was really letting it get to me. Again no one to talk to who understood and was at a point when i didn't think I could keep trying. It felt like a half life, like i couldn't make plans incase i fell pregnant, i couldn't go out cos i didn't wanna drink, i didn't wanna do anything that might harm my chances. I tried everything and anything outta desperation yet it still wasn't happening. I've watched so many people fall pregnant, including my best friend who started trying after me!!

I was wishing days, weeks, months away and thats when i realised thats my life i'm wishing away. I think i got to the point when i realised the way I was feeling was prob hindering our chances and in a way was a wake up call. I'm not saying I'm fine when AF comes but i only let it take one day of feeling low and crying and then day two is like a battle plan ha ha! I have to have hope its gonna happen for me! Hope that it's happen for all of us!

I chart now so i feel like i'm getting to know my body alot more and i'm trying not to pile the pressure on myself. I'm just joining a new doc so they can run some tests but till then i'll carry on the old fashioned way and hope that maybe i'll get a nice surprise.

Your not alone, talk things through with your doctor if you feel that will help.I hope you can find some kind of peace throughout his god awful rollercoaster

Hi so sorry to read about the hard time you are having.

i am on cycle 6 and finding it hard going. i like you am totally obsessed with googling symptoms and posting on here.

I have actually felt a lot better posting on here as you find out you are not the only one who is finding it hard/feels like that.

My top tip is everytime you are sad/worried/anxious/stressed post on here and you will get lots of other girlies saying they feel the same and offering kind words which beleive me can and does make you feel better.

Stick with it and good luck to you.

xxx

Thanks, I'm am trying the reflexolgy and it did relax me .. that day but I think it need it everyday the way I feel at the moment! I think I'm feeling so low is because like I said I'm 8DPO and I have a regular 28 day cycle and nothing is different from my other cycles, I'm so intune with my body I know each day what symptom I will get before AF shows up! Thank you all for all your positive comments I think it doesn't help that I am the most impatient person in the world!