Okay this is probably a shi**y thing to ask but I'll wallow in my sorry-for-myself mood a bit more. I know there's quite a bunch of us TTC #1 but a few of us already had a mc so essentially got pregnant with their partners.

Doesn't that feel like a relief? Knowing the combination between the two of you produces BFPs?

I was wondering who else is TTC #1 and hasn't had any proof of the combination working so far. NeyNey, TrixieLox, Hays, Miel and Tishimouse is who comes to mind but who else is there in the same boat?

Hiya

I'm TTC #1

I was ttc over 2 years ago with my X husband for 7 months and nothing....

Now TTC with my OH its been 2 months and nothing...also wasnt great at taking my pill on time before that...OH has a LO though so it cant be anythng wrong with him......

I'm just hoping it works this time as its only been a couple of months so far.....fingers crossed

Although i do have suspected Endometrosis, having a Laparascopy done in the next few months to find out

Good Luck xxx

Im ttc number one. coming up to 3 years ago I was with my ex partner and
we ttc for 5-6 months with no joy, and we split up because he was a *******. Im now married to hubby matt and we have been off bc for 2 months now, but actively trying for only one month. Its not a huge amount of time i know-7 months over all, but it makes you wonder whats going on in there!

Hey, interesting thread.
We have been TTC #1 since July. If i just knew that it was definitely possible, i think i could be a lot more patient! The not knowing if you are physically able is definitely an added stress factor in my opinion.
I guess having a mc could add even more stress than what us "no BFP's" have though as i wonder if you just swap your "can i conceive" worry to a "can i carry" worry?

It hasn't worked like that for me Kyrpis, I am more stressed about keeping this bean in me than I ever was about TTC!!!!!!!!!

We have been TTC #1 for 9 months - if no BFP this month we will move into 10months TTC

Hi Kyp, I'm in your boat too I gues we just keep rowing - we'll get our babies hun, don't you worry.

No, it doesn't fell like a relief! I'm sure all the women who had a m/c thinks, why it wasn't allright? What is wrong with me? Twice we've got BFP straight away! I thought it was quite a miracle, but then I didn't keep any of it. Second time I was pregnant I was so nervous and scared, when it happened again, I can't even describe how awful I've felt. It has been my 12th TTC cycle since. I worried so much about keeping it before, now I'm worried whether I can even get pregnant again, and if I do, I'm back to worry can I keep it and after too dissapointments now I can't even imagine how hard it is going to be!! Perhaps that is even the reason I can't pregnant first of all??!!??!!

Okay I can see how this can come off insensitive and I'd like to apologize to the ladies that had a loss.

I'm perfectly aware "can I carry" is as much of a worry as "can I conceive" since indeed there is data to suggest the answer to either could be "no" for a small percentage of us. My point was more towards the "can we conceive" part of things but that still doesn't explain it. Look, I didn't mean to be arseholish and I'd be happy if a Mod would delete this thread (other contributors allowing) if it's thought to cause more offense than shed any light on our emotional state of being.

Kypris, I don't find this offensive, I find it very helpfull!

I'm in my third month of trying and tbh I wasn't that great at taking BCP for quite a while before I came off them and DB already has a child so I know he 'works' and it defo brings up feelings in my head of 'omg, what if My overies don't work'

And I know you ment no offense to those who have had a mc! I know exactly what you ment by this thread, without causing any upset to those who have had a mc cause that must be horrible, but it is also horrible not knowig if you can concieve
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