Me and my OH have only been trying for a little while (this is our second month) and it's already stressing me out.

We're both young so was hoping it would just happen 1st time, but when it didn't we got sucked into buying ovulation sticks and working out dates to have sex etc and I'm finding it very boring. All the planning is sucking the happiness out of everything because now we're obsessed with getting pregnant, it's stressing my OH to, because the other night he couldn't cum (sorry for all the details) because he was thinking about it too much. I tried to talk to him last night and he got upset thinking that now I don't want a baby, I do, I wanted a baby since I was a teen but why did it have to be so hard.I don't want a ready aim fire sex life.

I'm also worried about my ability to conceive too.Last year I had a cyst on my left ovary and it disappears on it's own,a few years before that I had some underside down cells at the bottom of my womb and the doctors used colposcopy to remove them,my smears away need repeating they never find anything but double check and then double check again ,each time the doctor say it wouldn't effect me having children, but now I'm scared because I'm only 27 and I know it's stupid but thought it would be easier then this my the women in my family don't have problems conceiving so why me. Freaking out that maybe I can't and why do my ovulation stick always show negative results, all this is driving me mad.

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If your check-ups are fine and the doc is ok with it then you should be fine - seriously...looooooads of us take longer to get that BFP - and i was exactly the same as you (although a few years older) I thought it was going to happen instantly.
Part of the course i think is finding out it doesn't work like that - you are really early on in this journey - you'll get that BFP soon I'm sure.

Don't lose hope and it really can remain fun.
Sometimes I don't tell the OH about dates and times etc to ease things for a while...sometimes I do and we treat a day or night like its valentines all over again - all our fav things so that Bd-ing is just a part of our time together not the whole thing.

You're not alone in these feelings. I've been there - bet lots of women here have - I like to think these early months are about making my body ready to react well to pregnancy.

to you!

I'm only on cycle 2 of ttc and I understand what you mean. It's totally naive to think we'll just catch on straightaway as it's so easy for some women - I really thought I'd catch on straightaway! But the witch got me bang on the date she wasd due and I was devastated on the day (Valentine's day of all days!) to top it off that day my friend text me to tell me she was 12 weeks pregnant with her third baby. I stupidly asked how long it took her to conceive and she said "came off the pill end of october, caught on in November" I felt so hard done by!

Then I came on here and so many ladies have been ttc for 10 cycles or more and I just think how blessed I am that I'm only on my second month so should try to be more positive. I know it's very hard.

I dont tell my OH about any of the opk's I use, he knows I use the softcups but I just told him it was to help stop any leakage and left it at that.

He just doesnt ask any questions any more lol even when I'm laid there at 7am with a thermometer hanging out of my mouth!

Best thing me and OH have done is not to talk about ttc, have sex consistantly especially around ovulation, then hope for the best. We also take frequent trips to ann summers for stuff to spice up our sex life so it doesnt get clinical.

Hope that helps and we're all in the same boat I promise xxx

DH and I were so excited to start TTC this time as our first was a surprise and this time we wanted to it right!?!?!? What were we thinking, lol. Good luck, when the time comes it will all have been worth it!

Do you know when you ovulate? Do you get ewcm? seeing as its only your 2nd month ttc, i wouldn't worry about things for now, and just try and have sex around ov time, obv i know your prob doing that but just try and relax and not rush it and just have fun?, i kno its easier said than done and maybe give yourselfs a time frame, say if it doesn't happen in the next 6 months then maybe start charting? me & my OH have been ttc for comin up 2 years now with 2 mc, but his sister was ttc and they got preg on there 3rd month, but even normal couples with no problems it can take them upto a year to concieve. good luck & both relax.

I completely understand how you feel. It is only our second month of trying too and I feel like a bit of an emotional wreck about the whole thing already. I am thinking about it everyday and it feels like I have counted the days down through many cycles already instead of less than 2 (and the first one barely even counts)! It is proper exhausting.

Feels like much longer ago than it is since we started trying as well already. The first month it was all easygoing and I honestly was surprised when I got af. Been waiting to start trying for so long and despite being very vocal to OH about how I expected it to take at least 6 months, deep down I really did think it would happen straight away.

And then I started going on here after that, which is, to be honest, both a blessing and a curse! It is lovely to read and chat to people in the same boat (especially as doing the traditionnal thing of not telling anyone we are trying!), but on the other hand a few weeks of looking on here and I am starting to think it is a miracle that anyone becomes pregnant at all. It is just so scary to think I could be feeling this way for over a year and that it might never happen. I have always worried too that it won't happen for me, I think most people do, but I really don't want it to come true. Far too much negativity for month 2 I know, but it is overwhelming stuff! As are planning dates, opks, temping, cbfm, vitamins, all the things people give up and the bittersweet symptom spotting etc etc. Haven't tried too many yet but I know it is only around the corner

I'm tired of it all already too, fingers crossed though that we are some of the lucky ones and it happens soon or at least it gets easier! X

Thanks for all the support guys,it really helped.xxx

Hi hun,

Don't give up yet!!
It takes some people years and years to conceive.
Just dont make BD into a chore!

good luck