Hi all

The following post mite be TMI (sorry)

After several months trying, my husband seems to have completely lost interest in sex. We both want our first baby desperately, and are in love. But he said that trying so much around ovulation has killed his desire to BD. He said that he feels like sex is about babies now and not desire.
Im at my wits end here and dont know how to deal with this. Ive worn sexy stuff for him but he said it is obvious why im wearing it. And says he just doesnt feel like sex nowadays because it doesnt feel like fun. He says he feels under pressure to perform and that that kills his sex drive.
Has anyone else had this problem with their DH? If so id VERY much appreciate advice on what to do, its killing me that we are missing our chance because he wont perform and its damaging our relationship.

Thanks.

Hi Lizzybix,

I have been in same situation as you with DH. I did what you did with sexy underwear. We talked about it and sorted it out. x

Hey,
I've just posted about this too and i don't know what to do either

i'm at a loss i got him some horny goat weed but he took it for a day and said it doesnt work arghhh i need help

I know it will be hard but why dont you stop actively TTC for a bit? I know myself that things like temping, FF and BnB all make me worse! Chill out a bit, try NTNP for a month and most importantly reassure your OH. They dont get the same urge to have a baby we do, and they think that that is all you want them for. Pay him some attention (even if its one sided attention... ) to show him that you still want him, not just a baby. xxx

Why not have a nice romantic weekend away together

Have a bit of couples time, just enjoy each others company, flowers, candles, walks etc.

Don't even mention TTC just enjoy each other!!

Delly xxx

Oh and if you tell him ANYTHING at all about your cycle, bnb or babies STOP!!!!! xxx

i find myself getting angry with my OH because i convice myself that if he doesnt want to BD it means he doesnt want a baby, which i know is wrong

Id agree with the gilrs here. Try and have a break for while, try not to talk about all things ttc for abit. Like the otheres have said spend abit of time together just enoying yourselves. You never no it might help you too. You wont be stressing about ttc so much it might just happen for you huni.

Hope you get things sorted.

xx

Hi there, sorry to hear that you are going through this!! My OH and I had the exact same thing the first time we TTC 2 years ago and it was basically one of the many reasons that we decided we needed a break from TTC. I was not dealing well with the pressure either, and my mental state suffered cos of this. I firmly believe that I went through this for a reason because this time OH and myself feel much more relaxed this time. At the time there wasnt really much that I could do to make BD anymore exciting cos I feel that I had put way too much pressure on bith of us. I think if we hadnt of stopped TTC it would have been like a pressure cooker for both of us and I doubt whether we would still be together. The only thing that I can suggest is to actively stop TTC and just try NTNP. That is the method that we are starting soon.

For myself all the pallava of charting, temperatures, monitoring CM is all a waste of my time, and also made me way paranoid, and this was part of the reason last time. Hope this helps, but I know exactly what you are going through cos I have been there!! Good luck!