Oh girls, please don't stress over it. I think this is part of the ttc journey, for some people. My hubby went through the exact thing, at the time it was a catch 22, if I told him it was about babies, if I seduced him I was being sneaky, ha. I think it's just part of the process and your oh getting his head around it.
I know how frustrating it is, I thought I was losing my mind, my egg sitting there waiting and oh sitting on his ass.
It's complety diff for us ladies, we desire it and will do anything. For men it hurts their egos we just want their sperm.
For my hubby and I we had to have a 'discussion' as I was crazy emotional. I had to sit him down and explan How I was feeling, even tho he knew I had to explain that I get one egg a MONTH, one chance and it's what we have to do if we want to be parents. From this he really understood and tries so hard now, almost on command.
So hang on in there, it's tough for them.

Also when your not ov, make a point of wanting them for them, not just for their sperm. Really makes them feel wanted.

Good luck and chin up.

Keep the CM, OPKs etc to yourself. Don't tell him when you're ovulating, and maybe try and generally have sex every 2-3 days, so when you jump him 4 days in a row after your positive OPK he doesn't think it's just for baby making... That's how I do it anyway!

My OH can't perform at all or can't finish if he knows I'm ovulating. So I keep the obsessive stuff to myself but have made an effort to have more sex generally so he knows it's not all about the TTC...

x x x

wow that is frustrating that your DH went on strike. that doesn't make any sense if he really does want a baby soon! that means he is preventing it from happening. you are partners in this and you both know what you need to do in order to have a chance of a baby, its a team effort and he just up and quit! is he having second thoughts about a baby? this may be TMI but is he having trouble performing or is he fine performing but just feels undesired? I mean when you are BDing around ovulation, then yes, it is all about the baby making and everybody knows that and it is okay - he should be okay with that right? then the other times you do it, when you are not ovulating, its all about you desiring eachother and making eachother feel good and all that fun stuff. so it should be all balanced right? do you do it when not ovulating?

I totally agree with SBB Try to keep the pressure off him by not involving him in the TTC whirlwind. I dont tell my DH when I am ovulating and try to vary intercourse at different times of the month so that he doesnt know.

Maybe try paying attention to him without intercourse once and a while it may help him feel that your not just after one thing (even though you secretly are)

Good luck sweetie. Hope it all works out for you soon

It's really not as simple as this. My OH wants a baby, he has done for longer than I have. But something in his head stops him from (to put it bluntly) getting it up, or finishing... He knows what we need to do, and he wants to, he just can't. It really upsets him...

But now he knows nothing about ovulation there is no pressure that we have to do it or else we miss it.

awww sorry to hear this, my hubby went through it too, the only way is to not mention ttc and the important days and then try to be more spontaneous to stop him noticing when the important time may be. also doing nice things together again will help. things will get better xxx

Although we decided together that we would start TTC and it is definitely something we both want, I find it easier not to trouble my OH too much with the science! It's fine that I know what is what and I ensure there is extra BD'ing around ovulation but I'd rather he didn't think it was too contrived. And under normal circumstances, he'll never say no!

That's not saying that if he ever showed any interest in the science I would be delighted but unless he does i'd rather it was as un-intense as possible.

I think I am a little paranoid of coming across as a crazy broody female! Which I am not, I hope, but once you decide you are finally ready to start a family it is hard not to want it to happen straight away! Always overthinking......

oh I see now. I am sorry, that is so hard! I can see how then it would be best to just act like you are not TTC. just purely wanting to do it for the fun of dong it. So the less he knows the better! it seems like it would be hard to hide - if afterward you wanted to lie there for a little while with your hips elevated. Maybe with less pressure and thought put into it you will just get the BFP! I always hear from women who get pregnant when they stop trying!

Hi Ladies,

We went through the same thing too (i think we all have!). So, i suggested to him that i stop using the CBFM and we just NTNP and then HE changed! He said 'well, we have the monitor so let's use it. I think we really should.' You really can't win with these fellas He is very, very clucky but is like me and dislikes the fact that love making is scheduled, but we still do it and always end up enjoying it!

TMI - this month, instead of doing the safe ole missionary TTC position we threw in some (apologies for the word) 'doggy' style and he LOVED it!!! I didn't tell him that i had read it was a good ttc position so he just thought i had changed it up a bit Worth a shot....

I had a bit of a melt down with DH last night because he didn't want to do it and said something along these lines. He got so upset with me. I really need to chill out, I am so excited about a baby and I want it so much that it is making me crazy.