Just on reading the new threads and I couldn't help but notice the pattern today. It just reminded me how irritated I've been with a girl I know.
I have this friend of 12+ years that is I think 14weeks now. I had a good rant about her a 1month ago.
Any way, I can't help but think lately I dislike her more because she's pregnant. Everytime the woman calls, it's all she talks about! Today, she told me that she's not replacing her sofa because soon it'll be the only place she can sleep comfortably. (gag!! gag!) It just haunts me.
Lately, I think that I should just start telling her about all the crap I'm going through. I think it would only be fair to make her as uncomfortable as I am about her crap. It's just irritating because I'm not a mean person. In fact I'm quite the opposite, short of being a doormatt anyway. But how do you tell someone that you don't want to hear it... w/o being a b**ch? Am I mean because I don't want to hear another damn word of it, or see her or talk to her until the baby is delivered and maybe even way after!!!????

No your not being a bitch hun, i think when your going through the whole TTC process its completely natural and at times i felt like that too!!

Yeah I do feel like that sometimes, but at the same time I remember just how I will feel when I do get a BFP, I will want to yell it from the roof tops, so I try not to get too bitter with people, because they are just excited to be pregnant, just how we will feel in soon enough time

I know how you feel!

i think everyone who has been ttc a while knows how you feel xx

Why do you want to make a friend of 12 years uncomfortable?? Its tough to hear about other peoples pregnancies when you have been trying, but try not to be too mean or bitter. When your time comes I'm sure you will want to tell everyone too. I had 6 miscs before my first daughter and would see loads of pregnant ladies everywhere. Some of my friends had several babies in that time, I was still happy for them as it was not their fault i could not have a baby. Negative energy does you no good.

Hiya, I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal Superp so don't worry about it. And from what I read i think you could handle her being pregnant, its the fact that every time you speak to her, the entire conversation revolves about it that is getting to you. I think if you are happy for her to know you are ttc then go ahead and tell her - it's not about making her uncomfortable, I think that's said in the irrational anger of ttc, but it might at least make her a little more sensitve to those around her.
As some of the other girls have said we will all want to enjoy our pregnancies when the time comes, but I certainly think some women can be more sensitive about those around them than others.

I know, I know. A lot of what I spit out here last night was totally out of character. Call it an "Alley McBeal" moment. I would never make her feel uncomfortable on purpose. I've had plenty of oppurtunity to do so... I'm just not that way. I do love her and I am happy for her, excited even! Started making her a scrapbook already and I'm helping her design the baby's room. I know pregnancy is who she is right now, and hello like I can talk!! TTC much?? It's just hard at times to deal with thought/emotions of TTC. Don't like alot of them and I'm not proud. I was having a bit of a Green Monster moment.
This was exactly what I needed. Someone to tell me I'm being a little brat! Thank you.
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*picks self up, dusts self off and tries to walk out gracefully*

We all feel like that sometimes hun, don't be harsh on yourself.

I think we've all been there, green with jealousy but keeping the happy front.