avistar

thanks everyone. Miel that is a good idea...I feel bad about not addressing her and deep down I am happy for her. Maybe I am just being jealous. I feel a little better about it now. I just get so mad with my friends sometimes. I just feel like they are so self important and it has taken me a long time to realize this. The select good friends I have are in different states, but I try to keep in touch with him as best I can.

Ho hum...

thanks again everyone

porkpie1981

i would just make excuses and say u r busy and left it until u want to or never if needs be. I know people like that, that only wana meet up when theres an occasion. Do whats right for u

sairmare

I agree with this hun
Especially the position your in TTC. It would be too emotionally straining (it would be for me anyway)

elm

I'd say just do what is right for you, from what you've said you don't have any obligation to do anything.

Looks like you're going to be far too busy BDing in the next few days from your ticker anyway xxxx

avistar

well the shower isn't until May sometime, as she is due in June.

Tishimouse

Yep, this is exactly what you should do. Do exactly to her what she did to you (and that's not like me to say that I promise), but sometimes in life we have to be a little stronger with our decisions than maybe our nature allows. This woman did not return your calls or try to reconnect with you and AT THE MOMENT you should not meet up with her either. You need to leave this at least two months until she has had the baby.

Think about it. She's had the best part of 7 months to tell you her news and has not included you. Even if she wanted to leave it until after the 3 month mark, she has left you out of the equation for 4 months.

She will only upset you again when she has got what she wants out of you. I bet she's doing the rounds to make her baby shower be full of her 'friends'. It will probably end up being a reunion of people who are miffed at her. People like this make me

Amanda

Ditto what the others have said. Leave getting in touch with her till you're good and ready.

SJK

I agree wiat a while to see if she gets in touch again !! xx

avistar

yeah Tish, this is why I am upset about it...all she wants is presents. I can't stand when people do that! If you want to be my friend, then be my friend! I am not going to the baby shower...like you said, it will probably just be a room full of estranged people. I am thinking about just sending a congrats card...and nothing more.

I didn't even mention it to DH and he yelled out yesterday when looking at the mail..."oh look, they are have having a baby!" I didn't even know they had sent anything. She probably just called to make sure I got the invitation.

It does make me feel sad about my own ttc journey...and that is probably why my emotions are getting the better of me.

Farie

Oh sweetie, the biggest for you

That is utterly pants, (OK, good for her perhaps) but so pants for you.

Send her a card and move past it, no real friend would break contact for so long only to re-appear announcing they are 7 months pregnant.