...that you're TTC?

We haven't as I don't want them to be asking how its going all the time. But when one of my best friends got pregnant my Mum was really shocked and said she is young to be pregnant (she's 28 and married same as me!!) which made me feel a bit weird. I don't want to tell my Mum when (hopefully!) we're pregnant and have her be really negative about it. I was just on the phone to her and she was saying how my best friend's Mum is in a flap about being a grandmother etc.

Argh! I don't need any more stress! I was wondering whether we should tell her that we're trying so that she gets used to the idea before it happens or whether that would stress me out more!

What have you girls done?

My Mum doesn't know we're actually trying, but she's aware we were talking about it (and she told me she thinks I should have kids soon, as she regrets not having us earlier.)

My Dad has no idea (I don't think he even wants to be thinking his daughter has sex, never mind being pregnant) and OH's parents don't know either. When I get preggers, we'll be waiting til 12 weeks before telling anyone (except the odd close friend)

Im 25 and engaged - getting married 2010. Havent told my mum incase she is negative (she can be a wee bit judgemental, although she had me at 20) although i did tell my older sister (age 27) on her wedding day march 22nd 08 - as she had her suspitions we have been trying..... xx

We've not told anyone yet, but I have been dropping big old hints in front of people, just so it doesn't come as a shock. Think both my parents and his parents will be well chuffed though, we just don't want the 'well... any news?' phonecalls constantly!

Must say though, when I asked my dad what he'd like to be called (i.e. grandad, grandpa, pop etc) he got very flustered indeed! I'm especially glad I've hinted to him that it's on the cards, as I think he'd have had a heart attack if it was a total shock!! I think he finds it difficult to see I'm not his baby girl anymore, bless!

Rather than go full-hog and tell your ma you're TTC, why not casually mention that it's something that's on your agenda for the near future? I'm sure she'll be thrilled.

From the day we got married (indeed, on the wedding night) I was hassled non-stop by my dad's side of the family. They just kinda presume we're trying. Am annoyed cos feel a certain amount of pressure as people get pg real quick in my family.

My mum knows and is great about it; very supportive. My dad has guessed cos I don't drink as much wine (BIG giveaway) and is terrible, hassling us all the time; asking 'what's wrong with you, why aren't you pg yet, aren't you having sex' (terrible, huh?) but stepmum's had a word with him now he's leaving off. Bro knows cos I told him when I was drunk! Ha ha. He's cool about it.

The hubby's family don't know, they're a bit posh and stuff and don't talk about such things! Though my SIL saw pregnacare pack at our house once and gave me a cheeky smile!

On reflection, I wish I'd downright denied we were trying to all but my mum and bro, and thus avoided this intense feeling of pressure and a bit of embrassment as I turn up to family events with no news month after month. x

PS. 28 is no way young to get PG. I bet your mum will be delighted so don't worry! x

As I posted in my journal last night - my OH said we sort of were when asked directly by his bro! We agreed not to tell anyone as we couldn't bear the 'any news/luck' until we had. So i'm pretty annoyed at the mo!

I told one of my nieces and my mom guessed so she knew. I'm sure your mom will feel differently when you tell her she's getting a new grandchild

Aww, sorry you feel under pressure, that sucks. I must say, when I got married to my first husband (I got married at 20 and divorced within 2 years ) we got the "so, when are you having babies" talk ALL THE TIME - it really, really did my head in, even though I was no way ready back then!

My dad knows we are TTC - he asked me if we had enough money! bless! Mother in law does not know.... i can't bear the harassment. It's bad enough me having to cope each month without having her on my back asking when she'll be made a grandmother!!