hubby always too tired

jkbmah · Feb 13th, 2010, 02:48 AM

I know many people have a similar issue but today this is really getting me down. We are on out 9th month of TTC and i am convinced the reason we have not been successful is that we dont

enough.

On a normal week we would prob

only once, if im at peak fertility hubby seems to only manage twice. He is always "too tired" When we do we always enjoy it!!

Ive tried seduction but it doesnt work, im at a loss and dont know what to do and was wondering if anyone had any pearls of wisdom ?? or know of any good aphrodisiacs???

twinkle · Feb 13th, 2010, 03:12 AM

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Originally Posted by jkbmah

I know many people have a similar issue but today this is really getting me down. We are on out 9th month of TTC and i am convinced the reason we have not been successful is that we dont

enough.

On a normal week we would prob

only once, if im at peak fertility hubby seems to only manage twice. He is always "too tired" When we do we always enjoy it!!

Ive tried seduction but it doesnt work, im at a loss and dont know what to do and was wondering if anyone had any pearls of wisdom ?? or know of any good aphrodisiacs???

Hi ther, i know exactly how you feel...i am lucky if we get to bd twice a month...due to hubby working nights and then when we do get time together he is to tired!!!! I am 43 and we have been trying for 3 years!!!! i am sure if we bd more often then i would b preggers!!! Lets see if we can both workj a plan of action out!!!! xxx

crossroads · Feb 13th, 2010, 05:23 AM

Is he stressed? Work?

Has he always had a low libido?

jkbmah · Feb 13th, 2010, 05:31 AM

hi all thanks for the messages.

@crossroads - I think it is work because he doesnt sleep very well and has a reasonably physical job. not a lot i can do about it!! - i cant get him to take any time off because its his own business

@ twinkle - thanks -good to know im not on my own! If my peak fertility happens on a weekend we usually stand a better chance of bding but i need to think of a way to get him in the mood during the week! - maybe i should just start watching a load of porn!!! :-) i dnt think that would even help. If he has decided hes too tired there is nothing i can do!!

maratobe · Feb 13th, 2010, 05:32 AM

my OH was like that for a while aswell, then suddenly this month he changed and we have managed to do it a fair bit....like crossroads said is he stressed with work?? maybe try getting him going by doing something nice to help him relax???
i hope you get your BFP soon hun xxx

wifey29 · Feb 13th, 2010, 05:45 AM

My DH has quite a low libido and is often very tired. He walks eight miles (to work and back) which leaves him rather knackered. I don't think the frequent late night "dates" with his xbox helps either! I have insisted on three early nights a week now!

girlface · Feb 13th, 2010, 05:52 AM

Hi, my OH has a high libido but very low energy - he regularly works 70+ hours a week in his job as manager and this week has been my fertile week and we have 'boshed' twice - Monday and Wednesday and I am due to ovulate (I think) sometime this weekend. And today he's at work again *sigh*

This is our first month of TTC - but already am feeling frustrated with the lack of physically TTC !

Big hugs and baby dust for you xxx

GemmaG · Feb 13th, 2010, 06:02 AM

I know exactly were you are coming from. My DH and I only BD'd once or twice a week and I knew it was the reason we werent pregnant yet. He wouldnt have the highest libido in the world but as the saying goes I took the bull by the horn

I just stopped asking if he fancied it and just (sorry if tmi) had a quick fiddle and jumped on lol

(just get him to the point were he doesnt want to say no) I always find it easier before we go to bed because as soon as he lies down he is definately too tired. I sound like a raving nympho but needs must

shaerichelle · Feb 13th, 2010, 09:24 AM

I agree with gemma. We try to do it mostly at night. My dh passes out after. Might help him sleep better too and be less tired

VickyLou · Feb 13th, 2010, 09:39 AM

My OH is exactly the same, im lucky if i get it once a month. Been trying for 3 years but its not always been like this just the last couple of months. I hope it is due to stress and not me. I started Clomid yesterday so we need to do it more now but im a shy kinda girl and have little confidence so if i dont instigate it it wont happen.

Men ay i think there all the same but you gota love em

Feb 13th, 2010, 02:48 AM	#1
jkbmah Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Stockport - UK Posts: 581	hubby always too tired I know many people have a similar issue but today this is really getting me down. We are on out 9th month of TTC and i am convinced the reason we have not been successful is that we dont enough. On a normal week we would prob only once, if im at peak fertility hubby seems to only manage twice. He is always "too tired" When we do we always enjoy it!! Ive tried seduction but it doesnt work, im at a loss and dont know what to do and was wondering if anyone had any pearls of wisdom ?? or know of any good aphrodisiacs???

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Feb 13th, 2010, 05:23 AM	#3
crossroads Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Newcastle, UK Posts: 4,424	Is he stressed? Work? Has he always had a low libido?

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Feb 13th, 2010, 05:31 AM	#4
jkbmah Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Stockport - UK Posts: 581	hi all thanks for the messages. @crossroads - I think it is work because he doesnt sleep very well and has a reasonably physical job. not a lot i can do about it!! - i cant get him to take any time off because its his own business @ twinkle - thanks -good to know im not on my own! If my peak fertility happens on a weekend we usually stand a better chance of bding but i need to think of a way to get him in the mood during the week! - maybe i should just start watching a load of porn!!! :-) i dnt think that would even help. If he has decided hes too tired there is nothing i can do!!

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Feb 13th, 2010, 05:32 AM	#5
maratobe Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Warrnambool Australia Posts: 5,381	my OH was like that for a while aswell, then suddenly this month he changed and we have managed to do it a fair bit....like crossroads said is he stressed with work?? maybe try getting him going by doing something nice to help him relax??? i hope you get your BFP soon hun xxx

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Feb 13th, 2010, 05:45 AM	#6
wifey29 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Suffolk Posts: 1,333	My DH has quite a low libido and is often very tired. He walks eight miles (to work and back) which leaves him rather knackered. I don't think the frequent late night "dates" with his xbox helps either! I have insisted on three early nights a week now!

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Feb 13th, 2010, 05:52 AM	#7
girlface Mum (Mom) New BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Nottingham Posts: 6	Hi, my OH has a high libido but very low energy - he regularly works 70+ hours a week in his job as manager and this week has been my fertile week and we have 'boshed' twice - Monday and Wednesday and I am due to ovulate (I think) sometime this weekend. And today he's at work again sigh This is our first month of TTC - but already am feeling frustrated with the lack of physically TTC ! Big hugs and baby dust for you xxx

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Feb 13th, 2010, 06:02 AM	#8
GemmaG On a break (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 223	I know exactly were you are coming from. My DH and I only BD'd once or twice a week and I knew it was the reason we werent pregnant yet. He wouldnt have the highest libido in the world but as the saying goes I took the bull by the horn I just stopped asking if he fancied it and just (sorry if tmi) had a quick fiddle and jumped on lol (just get him to the point were he doesnt want to say no) I always find it easier before we go to bed because as soon as he lies down he is definately too tired. I sound like a raving nympho but needs must

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Feb 13th, 2010, 09:24 AM	#9
shaerichelle Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Maine Posts: 7,427	I agree with gemma. We try to do it mostly at night. My dh passes out after. Might help him sleep better too and be less tired

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Feb 13th, 2010, 09:39 AM	#10
VickyLou Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Coventry Posts: 512	My OH is exactly the same, im lucky if i get it once a month. Been trying for 3 years but its not always been like this just the last couple of months. I hope it is due to stress and not me. I started Clomid yesterday so we need to do it more now but im a shy kinda girl and have little confidence so if i dont instigate it it wont happen. Men ay i think there all the same but you gota love em

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