pinkmommy

I am not sure if he will follow through but it still upsets me...makes me more stressed

He said that if we ever need a IUI or IVF that is the point in which he wants to stop, our insurance does not cover those procedures and we do not have the money, he says he would not want to spend the money on having a child.

So basically if the clomid does not work for us then we are done. I am hoping he will change his mind if we get to that point but I am so numb from the comment.

Not feeling as great about this cycle as I feel I should feel. I just can not believe DD might be our only one. It makes me sad and frustrated.

Mandy

Talk to him and tell him how much it means to you. dont get too upset yet! the clomid may work!!

alot of people say things they don't mean when it comes to money, if you come to a last resort- he may change his mind!!

good luck!! <3

avistar

I was just talking to my DH about that today...if we couldn't have children. We are on the same page when it comes to that though...I don't think we would pay for it as it isn't 100% when you do it and it is so expensive. But then again, I have not been through years and years of trying like some women. So I am sure I would think differently perhaps.
I would be discouraged if DH flat out said he wasn't going to do it. It should be discussed between you both before anything permanent is made. Try not to stress over it, he probably just made the brief comment and stopped thinking about it. If he wants another child as much as you do, then I am sure you both will decide what you need to do to make that happen With all that is going on with you, he should understand that it has been hard for you Hope you feel better soon.

NeyNey

Aww darlin.

DH and I have though about IVF - we have taken an insurance health cover for me that covers it - it's only a 12 month waiting list (I know it's a lot, but after a long time TTC - 12 months can seem very few) - and I mean we're already a 1/4 of the way through it - and you can still TTC in the meantime naturally.



Hang in there

sjkirkham

hypnorm

before we had Ewan that is something that my hubby also said to me, but it something we both agreed on.
We sat and talked about it and agreed that we would foster or adopt if it came to that.
When we went to see our doctor he was very pleased when i said i would never go down the IVF route, he said he wished it wasnt available as he has seen so many of his friends and paitents relationships break down because of the stress of having IVF.
I was lucky and i have had Ewan naturally, so i wish you all the best.. and sit down and talk about it between you.

tansey

Oh hun, good luck for now and let's hope that it doesn't get to that stage!
To use a cliche - Cross that bridge when you get there. Anything could happen before. x