_Alice_

Hi girls, hope everyone is ok!
I was thinking maybe i need a break from TTC, for 5 months solid i've been utterly obsessed with it, and i'm worried im turning into a different person. I'm so tired of jotting down every little 'symptom' i have, and i'm starting to feel bad that i'm effectivley 'using' my partner just to catch the egg.
Many people have said that its the moment you relax that you usually conceive .. but i love this forum! You ladies are fabulous, and you are so supportive. I don't want to have a break, but maybe it would do me some good?! I can't imagine not writing into my diary and noting down all the symptoms of the day etc, i'm just getting so stressed over the whole thing
I've started worrying that i haven't even ovulated this month and we haven't BD enough. I know it's so silly, but it does my head in.
I kinda knew that yesterday's HPT would be a BFN, but i'm starting to get a little sad about it. is due around today/tomorrow, so if she hasn't arrived by Saturday, i'll test - it will probably be negative again. As a matter of fact, i've only been off the pill a few months, so the pill was dick me about and leave me in limbo for another few weeks then arrive. Ugh. I mean how hard is it for a bloody tadpole to punch an egg!!!
I should NEVER have gone on that pill!!

Sorry for the rant girls, i needed to get that out.

NeyNey

Oh honey. Perhaps a break isn't such a bad idea. I know how you feel hun, I've felt it before too. In fact I feel like if we don't get there this month it's not such a bad idea..


Good luck, I hope the AF stays away for you though

_Alice_

Thanks Ney, i know i've only been TTC for 5 years, but it does seem like an eternity! Honestly though, i just think the pill is messing me about, and AF will come in a few weeks.

miel

sweetie it just take time ...it will happen so ( by the way i was never on BC and i have being TTC for the 6 month now and nothing ) but it will happen !!!!

superp123

I'm sure the pill is screwing with you still. It took me exactly a year to get pg after the pill. My best friend, same thing. Keep your chin up and take a break if you need one. Sometimes, that's all it takes. My mom's recommendation on the quickest way to get pg... it's funny are you ready... "Go get totally shitfaced and have crazy drunk sex! That's when you get pregnant!" As you can see my mother is fairly casual in her approach to TTC. But I will say this, she had no probs getting pg. LOL Point being, maybe sometimes it's good to just let it all hang out. So to speek.
Good luck to you in what ever you decide.
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Samo

Sorry TTC is taking over!! Strange how our minds get so fixated on it, ain't it? I have learned to take a step back and not obsess over every little thing. I just think 'bring on the next cycle!' and just wait it out, wait for AF, I don't ever test either, just wait it out while enjoying my time waiting.

I think a lot of the obsession comes from thinking of the future so much? Thinking of how it would feel to fall prego, how it would be to have a child etc etc. I try not to think of the future but rather live my life in the present. keeping myself busy with day to day things helps me relax. Yes i am on these TTC forums a lot :P but it's the only place i keep any track of my TTC journey now a days. I couldn't tell you what my CD was unless i looked at my ticker! Writing a couple things down in my TTC journal here just so if something comes up, i can read back on it, but i can't name any twitches, twinges or changes off the top of my head...i just don't think of those things through my day!!!

When you say "take a break from TTC" does that mean you're going to use protection from now on...or does it mean you will just take a step back and enjoy yourself and not obsess over ovulation, tww, and HPTs? I hope it is the later You can STILL get that BFP without charting, without scrutinizing every change you feel, and just BD when you FEEL like it and ENJOY it!

Good luck to you in your future cycles! And about the BCP thing, maybe like other's have mentioned, your cycle might be a bit screwed up until it regulates. There is ALWAYS a chance though, just need to get that lucky sperm to make it to the eggy goal!!

sjkirkham

HAYS

I would recommend a break only because i took one for the same reasons,it was taking over my life,every day was about ttc,and symptoms and feeling naff,and it did me the world of good, now im taking abit more of a laid back approach so hopefully it works!!
Wish you all the best in whatever you decide
xxx

Rumpskin

Hey Alice

I was going to pop by your journal to see how you were lovely.

I am sorry you are feeling low. I can totally relate to writing things down, symptom watching. It really does your head in.

I do think a break maybe what the doctor ordered for you.

Spend some quality time together. It could make all the difference for you both.

I too love B&B - it is a great way to chat to other ladies about ttc and pregnancy. I too am thinking about venturing out from this crazy ttc business.

_Alice_

Thanks girls, i really appreciate it. I mean't just take a break from the forums, stop writing everything down, just generally take a step back -- i wouldn't dream of going ANYWHERE near a condom .
I don't really want a break, i do like wirting stuff down, but maybe it's doing me more harm than good. I just desperately want that bean!!

Oh well, i'm feeling much more positive today! It's a beautiful day outside