candice123

Hey ladies, hope you are all doing well, I have had a pretty crap day tbh I have started charting to see what is going on with me and last month looked promising, what with the query pg tests and faint lines, but after the doctor totally made me feel like a mental patient I was pretty depressed.

Soooo- I have been off work for the past two days with sickness, nausea to be exact, not actually being sick, has been terrible- there has been a bug going round at work!! And to top it all off I have a great big cold sore aswell. Well as if that wasnt enough, we havent really got down to bding really this cycle, as last night he was too tired!! I was feeling sick FFS, and I was still up for it, after all its for the greater good isnt it? Anyway, so we missed the boat last night, and he had promised me that we would get down to business when he got home, and what do u know? I am having that weird spotting againg- so no BD for us!!

I am really getting quite disheartened about this whole TTC thing really. Have been trying not to get too obsessive ( Yeah right!) and really trying to go with the flow, but my body just seems to keep sticking up the finger to me and really doing what it likes. Another thing that I have started to question is hubbys dedivation to the whole thing. I really am not dure any more if he is 100% behind the idea- he doesnt seem that bothered and when I try and explain that every month we only have a small window of opportunity, he doesnt seem that bothered. Last month when I thought I was pregnant- he just said well, let me know when u are really sure. He just didnt seem excited or anything. I really dont know what I am to do, I know we have only been trying for 5 months and it is no time at all compared to other ppl, but I wish he would show some more commitment to the situation? Never mind, maybe I am just not in a very happy place right now, I guess it will all pan out in the end.

Just hard to stay positive sometimes. Sorry it was such a long one. Candice

Sinead

Do try and stay poitive - I know its hard. And don't worry about your OH, mine is exactly the same. I think they just think wham, bam, you're pregnant now!!!!!!

_Alice_

We've been trying for 5 months too hun, my fiance doesn't seem that up for TTC like he first was .. it's not that special/important to the man!

Keep trying to stay positive hun .. i always have remembered 'every day is a day closer to your BFP!' Stay happy xxx

Omi

Aw, sweetie, sorry you feel so crap..we can all relate.

I honestly think its a man thing. Mine is much more motivated after our mc but even still i can see his eyes glaze over when i try to explain ttc thingies..

My oh also works crazy hours at work-work and his own business and i too have had that terrible feeling of seeing the train leaving the station and the only one i can blame is him! However, having said that..he will change once you pg most men do..mine was so shocked, delighted but shocked and freaked out and then day 2, finally nothing but overjoyed.. Reality has a different view in man world. They dont go through all the things we go through, periods , cycles, pains and niggles- there;s no comparison..even the nicest man cannot understand what we go through. ( and mine is lovely )

There's always a chance and always hope, please trust me.. we only had sex twice the cycle i got pg..i caught the day before ov... it does happen!

Please dont despair chicken..i had a few months like this, i really did.. Hope you feel better soon..

Take care and all the best, love xxx

cupcake

oh candice im sorry its been a tough time for you lately. men are funny creatures. i think most of them feel it will happen when it happens. some are even scared that its their fault. but if you need more support id talk to the hubby about it and tell him how you feel. sometime we think they know what we are thinking or feeling ,or expect them to feel exactly the same way, but they dont and we need to just tell them. im sorry ure feeling run down, i hate cold sores with a passion. they make me feel so awful and angry. i hope it goes away soon.

Rumpskin

I am sure things will be fine lovely. Tomorrow is just round the corner and another day

Kaelia67

Aww try not to worry too much, men are very strange being's and don't think the same way as us. Some do seem very distant where ttc is concerned and take a back seat. Most do think lot's about it but they aren't good talker's. I'm a 100% sure when you do get your bfp he will be over the moon!
I hope thing's happen for you soon hun
xxx