Am I awful? I feel so jealous...

sandrass · Mar 23rd, 2008, 23:39 PM

SOOOOO many of my friends are having babies!!!! There are 3 that are pregnant, and 4 that recently had babies.

I just went and visited one of them the other day, and she was telling me how much she loved being pregnant and how much she loves her new born son. She has no idea that I am trying, so I know it wasnt on purpose, but I felt so jealous.

I am happy for my friends dont get me wrong, but most of them wernt even trying! Some of them arnt even in the best circumstances to have babies...and yet they got them. Why is it so hard for me so far, and for so many others?

Sorry, I know how jealous and mean this sounds. I feel awful for feeling this way. All I want to do is be happy for my friends, but the jealousy keeps kicking in.

Has anyone else felt this way?

Nic-Flowers · Mar 24th, 2008, 00:16 AM

Oh YES!!! My sister in law already has a daughter and comes into MY HOUSE knowing I am TTC and then talks about who is pregnant and how for the millionth time she thinks she is late...I burst into tears because I am so jealous.

I hate being so jealous but it happens. I hate other women more sometimes.

sandrass · Mar 24th, 2008, 00:48 AM

At least I know Im not alone. Thanks

Hopefully that

doesnt get us this time.

strawberry199 · Mar 24th, 2008, 01:02 AM

Sandrass, i know how u feel..
My SIL was MC few months ago, Hubby and I were TTC at that time..
My SIL get pregnant again in the following month!
i was happy for her but feel so sad for myself ..

faith_may · Mar 24th, 2008, 01:14 AM

suzan · Mar 24th, 2008, 04:09 AM

I know that feeling. I am always jealous. I am even jealous and burst into tears when I know that someone gave birth after the my ex due date (was pregnant and miscarried)

And I am like: this should have happened to me before all of them!

Normal feeling, and u arent selfish, this feeling we just cannot control it.

coccyx · Mar 24th, 2008, 04:28 AM

Think its ok to feel envious as long you keep it under perspective. I'm sure your friends would be delighted if and when you have ababy. I have had miscs and never resented friends and family having their babies, what hurt most were those people who were not , what I thought , very good parent material.

Hoping for a bfp for you all.

Mar 23rd, 2008, 23:39 PM	#1
sandrass Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 1,779	Am I awful? I feel so jealous... SOOOOO many of my friends are having babies!!!! There are 3 that are pregnant, and 4 that recently had babies. I just went and visited one of them the other day, and she was telling me how much she loved being pregnant and how much she loves her new born son. She has no idea that I am trying, so I know it wasnt on purpose, but I felt so jealous. I am happy for my friends dont get me wrong, but most of them wernt even trying! Some of them arnt even in the best circumstances to have babies...and yet they got them. Why is it so hard for me so far, and for so many others? Sorry, I know how jealous and mean this sounds. I feel awful for feeling this way. All I want to do is be happy for my friends, but the jealousy keeps kicking in. Has anyone else felt this way?

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Mar 24th, 2008, 00:16 AM	#2
Nic-Flowers Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 865	Oh YES!!! My sister in law already has a daughter and comes into MY HOUSE knowing I am TTC and then talks about who is pregnant and how for the millionth time she thinks she is late...I burst into tears because I am so jealous. I hate being so jealous but it happens. I hate other women more sometimes.

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Mar 24th, 2008, 00:48 AM	#3
sandrass Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 1,779	At least I know Im not alone. Thanks Hopefully that doesnt get us this time.

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strawberry199 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Malaysia Posts: 336	Sandrass, i know how u feel.. My SIL was MC few months ago, Hubby and I were TTC at that time.. My SIL get pregnant again in the following month! i was happy for her but feel so sad for myself ..

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Mar 24th, 2008, 04:09 AM	#6
suzan Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Somewhere in the desert Posts: 2,597	I know that feeling. I am always jealous. I am even jealous and burst into tears when I know that someone gave birth after the my ex due date (was pregnant and miscarried) And I am like: this should have happened to me before all of them! Normal feeling, and u arent selfish, this feeling we just cannot control it.

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Mar 24th, 2008, 04:28 AM	#7
coccyx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: with the camels Posts: 2,578	Think its ok to feel envious as long you keep it under perspective. I'm sure your friends would be delighted if and when you have ababy. I have had miscs and never resented friends and family having their babies, what hurt most were those people who were not , what I thought , very good parent material. Hoping for a bfp for you all.

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