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faith_may

if you need to talk let me know

Rumpskin

I agree with Angel Britt. She is going to get herself a nasty STI if she is not careful.

Fingers crossed it is just nothing more than a wake up call for her.

xx

Tishimouse

I'm going to play devils advocate here and share my opinion. Be prepared, I'm a woman of very strong values and beliefs for myself, but still manage to have a flexible approach to other people's lives.

However, I believe 17 is too young to be responsible for such consequences an an 'unwanted' or 'unplanned' pregnancy. She needs to be on the contraceptive pill or injection (as she is most likely to forget to take her pill if she is so naive and irresponsible).

You are the very lucky BIG sister and don't loose sight of that. You have a wonderful husband and are taking a planned and responsible approach to planning your family and your children will have a loving, stable family life. If you can, you should try to look at your sister's situation and pity her. Yes, I said 'pity'. She may be jealous of you are your lovely life that she doesn't have and it could be that she has made this whole thing up to get at you. It's worked though and that's what you have to deal with. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of knowing that you are bothered by whether she gets pregnant or not. I would play it very cunningly and tell her that you are really excited about it and hope she is pregnant. You know, ask her if she is excited about it and looking forward to having a little one to look after and grow up with (sarcasm in that bit). I would confuse the hell out of her and tell her that she can always turn to you if she feels she needs help and someone to talk to. Don't let her know you are mad as she will do this again. She's just trying to get at you and it seems she knows all the right buttons to press.

Honestly, you will get your little miracle when the time is right. You can't rush a good thing. There is no need to be jealous of your younger sister, she is young and foolish and doesn't have half the lovely life you have. Take heart in what you have got and concentrate on that. If you let ttc take over your life, you will loose sight of the blessings you already have and ruin your own health through stress.

You both look like beautiful, happy and healthy people in your avatar picture and your little babies will be absolutely gorgeous.




Oops! I've got carried away, sorry the post is so long.

Vickie

Sounds like she is too immature for a child

wishing4ababy

i agree with everything all the other ladies have said on here.
Concentrate on what is important, and don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you upset. Sounds like that is what she wants to me.

sandrass

I hope for the best. I never can understand how people who are not ready for children get pregnant so darn easily, while those who want a baby have such a struggle. Part of life I suppose.

Try not to be too upset over this. I agree, that your sister is trying to push your buttons. Isnt that what little sisters do best?

Youll have your day, and when you do get your BFP, you will be ready for it! Unlike her.

Good luck!

Jewels

Hi Britt. I recently went through a similar situation with my little sister. She is a few years older than your sister (she's now 20), however she found out she was pregnant last year. Of course it happened with some guy she barely knew and just went on a couple of dates with. She was not on BCPs because they screwed too much with her system, but apparently wasn't smart enough to use some form of protection. I found out she was pregnant at 6 months. My sister and mother live in Colorado and decided not to tell me until she was 6 months pregnant because they were afraid of what my reaction would be.

At the time, they didn't know that I had been suffering for about 2 years with major BABY FEVER! We decided to wait a bit to get a little more comfortable financially.

When I found out, I was so absolutely pissed and jealous that I just started crying while I was on the phone with my mom finding out the news. I was the one who was married, had a house and was settled down! I was the one who was supposed to be pregnant!

I eventually got past it - it seems to get better with time. Hopefully your sister isn't pregnant, but even if she is, just remember you're in a much better place in your life than she is. You will get there.