Older father..younger mother

Trying4ababy · Dec 22nd, 2009, 09:38 AM

I'm 28 and hubby is 48....we both want to have a child together but are concerned about any problems that we could have conceiving or that the baby could have.

Did your older man have any problems getting you pregnant? As in did it take long from the time you decided to start trying until it actually happened?

I have read there is an increased chance of certain birth defects or disorders. ADHD, autism, schizophrenia, bi polar, cleft palate...etc. Did any of your children with your older man have any of these?

Was your older man a better father than lets say a man closer to your age?

For any of you that have kids with your OM that are old enough to voice opinions. Did your child resent having an older father?

Please feel free to give me any more information that could be helpful.

needbabydust · Dec 22nd, 2009, 09:41 AM

my friends hubbie is mid 30s she is 25 and they got pregnant sooooo quickly, like on their honeymoon.

Crypto1976 · Dec 22nd, 2009, 09:58 AM

my oh is 48 and I am 33 and we got pregnant first cycle trying. It was ectopic due to my tubes but we are pregnant again and everything is fine for now. Good luck. X

Trying4ababy · Dec 22nd, 2009, 10:00 AM

That gives me so much hope

wanting1more · Dec 22nd, 2009, 11:21 AM

my dh is 38, and got pg 1st true cycle of ttc last month but had a loss. we have 4 other children but they are all older.

we were not trying but not preventing since october though

Mum2bewaiting · Dec 22nd, 2009, 11:25 AM

I'm 29 and DH is 50, the length of time it took to concieve 1st time were with due to issues with me, and I'm now pregnant again. After the mcwe went to the drs to see discuss it, and weren't made to feel that there would be any particular problems due to his age, just normal risks of a pregnancy... Good luck

Crypto1976 · Dec 22nd, 2009, 11:34 AM

Charlie Chaplin was fathering perfectly healthy kids into his 70's. I wouldnt worry unneccessily, god knows theres enough to worry about in pregnancy! Good luck. XX

thirdtimemum · Dec 22nd, 2009, 11:56 AM

Im 27 and expecting my 2nd child with my fiance,hes 48.it took us longer 2nd time but because my cycles barely there

LittleAurora · Dec 22nd, 2009, 13:22 PM

I am 26 my OH is 39 its has taken us some time to concive and both ended in MC. Im not saying this is the norm, just ans. your questions

Trying4ababy · Dec 22nd, 2009, 13:26 PM

Thank you so much for all the answers. I'm just a worrier and have had so many people say it'll take us forever and that our baby will have mental problems.

Dec 22nd, 2009, 09:38 AM	#1
Trying4ababy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,212	Older father..younger mother I'm 28 and hubby is 48....we both want to have a child together but are concerned about any problems that we could have conceiving or that the baby could have. Did your older man have any problems getting you pregnant? As in did it take long from the time you decided to start trying until it actually happened? I have read there is an increased chance of certain birth defects or disorders. ADHD, autism, schizophrenia, bi polar, cleft palate...etc. Did any of your children with your older man have any of these? Was your older man a better father than lets say a man closer to your age? For any of you that have kids with your OM that are old enough to voice opinions. Did your child resent having an older father? Please feel free to give me any more information that could be helpful.

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 09:41 AM	#2
needbabydust Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: South Yorkshire Posts: 56	my friends hubbie is mid 30s she is 25 and they got pregnant sooooo quickly, like on their honeymoon.

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 09:58 AM	#3
Crypto1976 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,820	my oh is 48 and I am 33 and we got pregnant first cycle trying. It was ectopic due to my tubes but we are pregnant again and everything is fine for now. Good luck. X

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 10:00 AM	#4
Trying4ababy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,212	That gives me so much hope

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 11:21 AM	#5
wanting1more Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arkansas, USA Posts: 349	my dh is 38, and got pg 1st true cycle of ttc last month but had a loss. we have 4 other children but they are all older. we were not trying but not preventing since october though

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 11:25 AM	#6
Mum2bewaiting Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Leeds Posts: 3,481	I'm 29 and DH is 50, the length of time it took to concieve 1st time were with due to issues with me, and I'm now pregnant again. After the mcwe went to the drs to see discuss it, and weren't made to feel that there would be any particular problems due to his age, just normal risks of a pregnancy... Good luck

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 11:34 AM	#7
Crypto1976 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,820	Charlie Chaplin was fathering perfectly healthy kids into his 70's. I wouldnt worry unneccessily, god knows theres enough to worry about in pregnancy! Good luck. XX

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 11:56 AM	#8
thirdtimemum Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Nottingham Posts: 5	Im 27 and expecting my 2nd child with my fiance,hes 48.it took us longer 2nd time but because my cycles barely there

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 13:22 PM	#9
LittleAurora Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 2,678	I am 26 my OH is 39 its has taken us some time to concive and both ended in MC. Im not saying this is the norm, just ans. your questions

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 13:26 PM	#10
Trying4ababy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,212	Thank you so much for all the answers. I'm just a worrier and have had so many people say it'll take us forever and that our baby will have mental problems.

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