Older father younger mother - Page 2

wanting1more · Dec 22nd, 2009, 14:08 PM

aww sweetie neither of those things are true based on his age! like a females, male fertility increases with age and in much older men the quality of the sperm decreases but unless your man is over 60 you are likely fine and have no need to worry

Stacey_89 · Dec 22nd, 2009, 17:01 PM

My OH's parents have 6 kids together and some more from their other marriages.

The youngest child is 12 years old.... and they concieved her when he was 62 !!!!!
so it can happen. i know some ppl find that grose, but hes a great dad and rele healthy and active for his age =]

Deeni · Dec 22nd, 2009, 17:38 PM

Men are so lucky...they don't seem to "expire" like us women do!! I am 32 and feel the clock ticking away. But men can be fathers in their 70s! Amazing.

Trying4ababy · Dec 22nd, 2009, 20:41 PM

Thanks guys I wish I could hug each one of you

NicoleB · Dec 22nd, 2009, 21:06 PM

my hubby is 16 years older than me and any problem we've had getting pg (it took us a while with both 1 and 2 and no problems with the rest) was with me not him. Dhs dad had his last baby at like 60 something..

morri · Feb 25th, 2010, 06:56 AM

I am also wondering about that. Not helping that I am more or less on the ASD myself :d'oh:

crossroads · Feb 25th, 2010, 08:23 AM

I'm 27 and hubby is 40. Our daughter Amy is due in July. It took us 1 month to conceive.

I'm about to generalise but this is my personal experience.

I'd prefer a father in his 40s to a father in his 20s for the following reasons:

Hubby is more mature than he was in his 20s. He has had his youth phase and been through various maturing transitions.
Hubby is more confident in general and more sure of who he is and what he wants out of life.
He made an informed decision to conceive after many years of deliberation.
He has built up his career over the years making it more secure and prosperous.
He has become less childish and more paternal over the years.
He has more life experience and wisdom. He is more familiar with how the world works.

I have every confidence that hubby is going to be a fantastic father to Amy. He has taken the whole process very seriously right from the discussions about when to ttc. He is very involved at every stage. What's more is that I feel in safe hands. After all, the older you get, the more serious life events you have endured and learnt from. I'd choose 40 year old hubby over his former 20 year old self anyday! x

The only thing I worry about is that he will die before me and I will be alone. But I try not to think about it too much. Instead I encourage hubby to be as healthy as he can.

Trying4ababy · Feb 25th, 2010, 09:58 AM

As you can see by my signature hubby and I are pregnant. I am 28 and he is 49 and we got married December 6th and conceived around January 27th.

adisonsmommy · Feb 25th, 2010, 10:00 AM

I'm 23 and my DH is 42, we've been ttc for 2 years now, however, I'm in the early stages of diagnosis of pcos, so we're not sure what's going on

petalhead · Feb 25th, 2010, 10:40 AM

I am 39 and OH is 59. Yes, he's ancient but super sexy to me! As well as fit and healthy. I conceived the first month we tried. Sadly I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks but I was amazed that it happened so quickly. Its taken a while to recover and since then our timing has been off - I hope this month will be better. I hope this gives hope to others who are in this situation. I honestly believe, as unfair as it is, age and fertility is not the issue for men that it is for us girls.

Dec 22nd, 2009, 14:08 PM	#11
wanting1more Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arkansas, USA Posts: 349	aww sweetie neither of those things are true based on his age! like a females, male fertility increases with age and in much older men the quality of the sperm decreases but unless your man is over 60 you are likely fine and have no need to worry

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 17:01 PM	#12
Stacey_89 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Nottingham Posts: 1,021	My OH's parents have 6 kids together and some more from their other marriages. The youngest child is 12 years old.... and they concieved her when he was 62 !!!!! so it can happen. i know some ppl find that grose, but hes a great dad and rele healthy and active for his age =]

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 17:38 PM	#13
Deeni Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Philadelphia, PA USA Posts: 743	Men are so lucky...they don't seem to "expire" like us women do!! I am 32 and feel the clock ticking away. But men can be fathers in their 70s! Amazing.

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 20:41 PM	#14
Trying4ababy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,212	Thanks guys I wish I could hug each one of you

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Dec 22nd, 2009, 21:06 PM	#15
NicoleB Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Michigan Posts: 2,939	my hubby is 16 years older than me and any problem we've had getting pg (it took us a while with both 1 and 2 and no problems with the rest) was with me not him. Dhs dad had his last baby at like 60 something..

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Feb 25th, 2010, 06:56 AM	#16
morri Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Hamburg(Germany) Posts: 6,135	I am also wondering about that. Not helping that I am more or less on the ASD myself :d'oh:

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Feb 25th, 2010, 08:23 AM	#17
crossroads Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Newcastle, UK Posts: 4,424	I'm 27 and hubby is 40. Our daughter Amy is due in July. It took us 1 month to conceive. I'm about to generalise but this is my personal experience. I'd prefer a father in his 40s to a father in his 20s for the following reasons: Hubby is more mature than he was in his 20s. He has had his youth phase and been through various maturing transitions. Hubby is more confident in general and more sure of who he is and what he wants out of life. He made an informed decision to conceive after many years of deliberation. He has built up his career over the years making it more secure and prosperous. He has become less childish and more paternal over the years. He has more life experience and wisdom. He is more familiar with how the world works. I have every confidence that hubby is going to be a fantastic father to Amy. He has taken the whole process very seriously right from the discussions about when to ttc. He is very involved at every stage. What's more is that I feel in safe hands. After all, the older you get, the more serious life events you have endured and learnt from. I'd choose 40 year old hubby over his former 20 year old self anyday! x The only thing I worry about is that he will die before me and I will be alone. But I try not to think about it too much. Instead I encourage hubby to be as healthy as he can.

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Feb 25th, 2010, 09:58 AM	#18
Trying4ababy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,212	As you can see by my signature hubby and I are pregnant. I am 28 and he is 49 and we got married December 6th and conceived around January 27th.

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Feb 25th, 2010, 10:00 AM	#19
adisonsmommy Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Ohio Posts: 91	I'm 23 and my DH is 42, we've been ttc for 2 years now, however, I'm in the early stages of diagnosis of pcos, so we're not sure what's going on

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Feb 25th, 2010, 10:40 AM	#20
petalhead Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 59	I am 39 and OH is 59. Yes, he's ancient but super sexy to me! As well as fit and healthy. I conceived the first month we tried. Sadly I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks but I was amazed that it happened so quickly. Its taken a while to recover and since then our timing has been off - I hope this month will be better. I hope this gives hope to others who are in this situation. I honestly believe, as unfair as it is, age and fertility is not the issue for men that it is for us girls.

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