I have this friend... (or maybe not) that has this horrible habit of copying or competeing with me. It all started when we bought our house like 6 years ago. I bought a house- then suddenly she bought a house, I got a degree- suddenly she had to get a degree, I shop for a car- suddenly she's shopping for a car. It gets worse... we're getting a new roof- she gets a new roof, we paint the house- she paints the house! I don't think I need to go on but just for the record, this extends into party hosting, decorating, clothes, etc. etc.
So about four months ago I mention casually during a girls night (a night, once a month, all us oldies organize to go out with the gals and tie one on) that me and DH are TTC again.
Well wouldn't ya know it! Two weeks ago she announces that she's expecting. I could have just puked. She had just told me two months before that her DH said he didn't want any children, in fact he was very adomint(sp) about it. It was this huge fight between them. At that point he had even denyed her sex for like three months. Obviously, he finally gave in... LOL
Now, I know that it probably wouldn't bother me so much if I weren't so damn competitive myself. This I know. But I feel like she does this kind of shit just to burn me up!
Then the woman has the nerve to call me and complain every stinkin' day about how aweful she feels and how much her husband is resenting her. Okay, I'm a supportive and honest friend and I usually say exactly what's on my mind.. But lately I've been doing niether, I find myself editing. For her sake or mine I do not know... I just point out the positives to her "Oh you have morning sickness all day, well that just means things are good right?" that kind of thing. When the whole time I'm thinking, "You stupid stupid girl, you have been blessed and all you can do is complain! Screw you do you know how long we've been trying for that!" I'm tellin' you if I could only be cursed with a healthy pregnancy... wow man that's tough. (sarcasim, not sure if it was coming acrossed ) I welcome the thought of ralphing all morning, if it means I get a healthy baby in 9 months. As far as her poor DH is concerned, he's no more than a grown child and he's being selfish pouting about the current situation, because he could have protected himself. On the other hand she's just as guilty for trying to trap him into something he clearly didn't want! I have no sympathy for that situation at all. She made that bed, she'll have to figure that out herself.
Oy!
Sorry, but I just talked to her and she burned me a little more. I can't take much more of this before I just let her have it! I don't even want to answer the phone when I know it's her, for fear of freaking out on her.
Any way, I thought I'd get my first TTC rant out there so that you nice girls could see my true colors.

That is awful, I used to know a girl like that, but fortunately not to that extent, in a way you should take it as a compliment a she wants to be like you, but dont let her get to you. I would say from now on, tell her nothing about what you are planning and only tell her after the events are done xx

:Think we all know someone a bit like this. I would try to keep my distance from her and not tell her any of my personal info.Try not to waste too much energy on her. ( what is ralphing??????)

ralphing is another way of saying throwing up

sounds like her own life is so dull she has to use someone elses ideas etc

Sounds like the film "single white female". Just try to keep thinking that you are such a great person and that is why she is copying you.

Sorry you do not need toxic people in your life. My sister is the exact same way. However she is my fmaily I can not drop her, but I would give her it and then drop her. Sorry feeling b*tchy today.

I don't know why people are like that.I wouldn't have the nerves to stand what you are going thru.That kinda stuff pisses me off.Well i hope you get your BFP soon and everything works out great when you get it.It sounds like she's paying for it now and i'm sure she'll feel worse when she sees how happy you and your partner will be when you become pregnant.She can't beat that.

That must be so annoying! I knew someone like that in highschool. Know what you should do? Tell her you're getting a tattoo of something really ugly and then wait and see if she does it. Then tell her "oh yeah I was going to get that but I must have been on crack beause I dont really like the design".

Or tell her you're shaving your head hehe!

You should tell her you're moving to Russia and watch her move.



Now there's a cunning plan.


Or tell her you're having a GIGANTIC breast enlargment and watch her have that done. Oh now that's what I call funny.