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CapitalChick

Whoa whoa whoa....Wow. This is not the end of the world, honey. This happens to ALL of us at some point. Hubby and I have been TTC for several months and it happens as SOON as the pressure goes up. It's totally normal. Do not worry. It's a shame that you'll feel like you wasted a month because you're taking clomid now. But tell him not to worry at ALL. Take the pressure off. He should 100% know that this happens to LOTS of men. It has happened to my hubby, and I know that it has happened on many occassions to many of my friends' husbands.
He should also know that diet, fatigu and time of day can affect him too. LIsten to this...my hubby CANNOT do the deed after a fast (sometimes we fast for religious reasons). I always thought that once he ate and felt better he'd be fine to go and dtd....but he NEVER can. And...y'know what else? He can't in the morning...ever! His bloodpressure is just so low in the morning that it doesn't work. He is 100% normal. He asked his doctor and his doctor laughed and said "Umm...HELLO...you can't put your body through pressure like that! You need to eat well, sleep well and not be stressed, or else you're going to have erectile troubles!".
I hope all this reassurance will help you and him. Please know that you are just like everyone else. He has not let you down.

Suz

He really sounds like the pressure is getting to him. If I focus on the tecnical side of TTC too much in front of Hubby, he wont touch me with a 10 foot poll. So I keep all my Personal things like charting, temping OPKs, and what nots to myself and then we try. I dont talk to him much about problems with TTC and it seems to work for us as a couple this way.

I know that they say always keep the lines of communication open in a relationship, but maybe this is something that should not be talked about so much between couples. Try and go with the flow for a bit, and see if that helps. Big hugs for you both.

Suz

loopylew

i agree with Suz thats definately what we're like, we are best friends but too much info stresses DH too much

Kaelia67

Suz is right hun, i also tend not to mention much around my OH too as it seems to put him under pressure quite alot. I have you girl's to chat ttc too and everyone here is much more helpful on the ttc side of things than my OH.
Sometime's we forget how it affect's our men, we want this so badly and it's all we think about so we all tend to offload all our crap onto them.
Give him some huge hugs and tell him how much you love him.
Massive hug's for both of you xxx

Rumpskin

polo_princess

Awww hun im sorry your feeling like this

No matter what you MUST stay positive.

Men can be just as tempermental as us when they feel like it, and it sounds like the strain is getting to him as much as it is you.

I try to keep my OH minimally involved as i dont want to make him feel like he is under pressure. I think you both need to sit down and have a big talk. Dont worry it will all turn out fine in the end

suzan

Thanks for your advice1

I usually dont comment on the TTC issues with DH. The 2 miscarriages did a bit of a change to our TTC. There are some times where I say, "hey, I got a positive OPK today" only that.

But this month has been horrible. He has been involved in the Clomid issue plus everything else. I complain about the cramps to him, and any other symptom. I am sure this is what causes him to feel that way. I apologized a lot today as I am the reason he feels pressured.

I never thought that man would be into TTC the same way we are but when he said "I also want a baby like crazy, it's not only you" and that made me feel selfish.

Oh, and we did BD today. I am very happy. I hope we caught an eggie

Suz

Im glad that you got a BD in

Men are weird. They are good at hiding there feelings and trying to be Big Strong Men. But they hurt sometimes too.

Wishing you and your DH all the best

suzan

Thanks hun
xx