suzan

yea

Omi

Aw, sweetie...

something similar happened to me last week..My OH works his day job and also has his own business out of work. I get a very, very tired man home sometimes.

Although, he's fully commited to ttc and particularly after our mc last month, Ive resgined myself to it not happening sometimes...

When it happened last tuesday my OH said the exact same thing ' i feel im dissapointing you...' of course i said the right things cause i figured i hate for him to get stressed about it..as i NEED him.. i can do all the other stuff but I cannot conceive on my own.

We try to take it as it comes, although id be a fat big liar if i didnt say i dont go to bed feeling resentful sometimes..but i also realise its the ttc bit in me.. We both want it but its not bottled stuff-unfortunately..

Can i also add that i got pg not from consecutive bd from cd x but once the day before I ov, so it does happen. And it will happen to you too..

I do feel for you though, bunny..hope things get better soon!! xxx

Carolina

my oh couldnt 'finish' twice last month it happens quite a bit now weve been ttc for 8 months and i think with him its due to stress too im sure you feel like everything is against you and in a way you feel like your pressuring him too (this is how i feel) so i broke down crying to him last month saying how i feel like a science experiment which never goes right and that im not considering his feelings as much as i should. we had a good chat and we both feel a lot better now! I would have a chat with him tomorrow so you can both get things off your chest!

superp123

Hey Suzan, I think all the girls that have replied have said pretty much everything I would say. It's true our men are going through a lot of the same emotions that we do during these stressfull times TTC. Example; DH and I went in for some basic fertility tests last spring... I was horrified that something may be wrong with my parts and that I would let him down. What I failed to recognize is that he was feeling the same way. Two days after dropping off his "deposit", while we both were waiting for our results, he went into the emergency room in an ambulance because he thought he was having a heart attach! He wasn't, it was stress and panic. This was one of the many ways that he was showing his stress level... It happens to the best of us. We ended up taking a much needed break, and waiting until now to start again. Our sex life is so much better for it and our relationship too.
Point being chances are he's freaking out too. Have a chat and remind him that you love him no matter what.
Best of luck to you and I'm sendin' you

SJK

xx

NeyNey

Awww sweetie pie.
I just want you to know that you're not alone. Sometimes when you
go through something like this, you feel like there's no one else out there
who could know how you feel, I want to reassure you there are.

Please don't get too disheartened, and I don't want to hear you say things
like you will never be a mother. Now you and I know that that is not a good
mind frame to put yourself in.

this happens to the best of couples at the worst of times, it happened to me
also, and all I wanted to do was crawl into a ball and forget about everything.
tbh Dh ended up doing the deed into a cup and we used a syringe! I was that
desperate!!! But didn't work obviously.

You guys love eachother, and you feel at the moment that you're letting each other down. Try to assess why you're going through all this. Take some time out to remember why you're here, you guys fell in love and decided to spend your lives together. If a LO doesnt' come along this month, then you will still have eachother there and a fresh start for next month.

I know the feeling you're going through sweetie, hang in there.
And that better be chocolate icecream!!!

loopylew

i think so many of us have been in this position before esp those girlies who have been ttc for a while now. I know a couple of months ago i was putting a lot of pressure on DH and for a couple of months we didn't BD properly around what i thought was ovulation then. DH couldn't perform on a couple of occassions or made excuses not too when he knew it was right around ovulation time. I realised myself i was putting pressure on him by saying things like " we have to BD tonight etc etc" rather than it just being natural. After I realised, with the help of everyone on here, i TRIED not to mention it. I still took my temp etc but i didn't mention what it was like and this month using my cbfm i've not mentioned anything unless he has asked. Last month was definately better than the one before and this month seems to be going same way, when i know im ovulating i just try harder to initiate etc

suzan

Thanks girls for all ur support.

It didn't happen this morning as well. It's 11:30am and oh well, scr** it. I am feeling very low. I asked DH what is happening, he is just feeling shy about it and not talking about it.. I thought there was something wrong with me but I wore something really sexy and put music, FOR NOTHING.

Anyway, Clomid, and the other things I did this month shouldn't have happened. I regret doing it.

I really need help you girls, I did everything, so what's happening? You wont believe what my DH is doing now, he went to pray he went to ask God to help us, he is just feeling bad bec I did medical treatment this month, and he doesnt want to ruin it.

Thanks all,
See u around

loopylew

not sure hun, i think he's just feeling the pressure. You might not have ovulated yet, is you ticker accurate? i say that cos mine says i ovulate in 13days when actually i ovulate on cd26

toot

awwwwww. i am so sorry that you are going thourgh this. Go and pray with your dh hon, ask god to be with you and to give you both the strenght to make your marrige very strong and to take the strees of ttc out of your lives. My prayers are with you and your dh.