watn1

Hi all,

I am looking to share experience here with someone that may be in the same situation as me that may offer advice, support etc.

I am Female 26 from the UK. I have been with my partner Mark (35) for just over 3 years now and we are set to get married in 2009.

We very much want a child of our one but have a slight problem that Mark has a vasectomy 9-10 years ago after having his 2nd child with his ex wife.

The most obvious of things to do is have a vasectomy reversal and have all the joys of trying on our own (which we know the chances are now slimmer then if he'd had it 5 Years ago).

Mark suggested the other day about egg donation/sharing & using his sperm and having it transfered, Which i must admit i had a number of years ago thought about doing as my mum had a friend that was trying to go through IVF but was telling me about the shortage of egg donor's so it is not like it is somthing that has ever crossed my mind. But i soon forgot about is as i was only about 20 and because i had not really understood what wanting a child really was all about, I have always been career driven & have up untill meeting Mark had not really seriously thought about having any children of my own.

Myself & Mark would only like 1 child & if there was a possibilty of helping someone's else dream come true in the process then i would be very much willing.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Anyone else actually gone through the egg shring process? What costs did you occur?

I have obviously tried calling a few clinics in the UK but to be honest they are not very helpful they are only interested in talking about the £££'s!

Hope to hear from someone soon
xx

Nic-Flowers

I didn't want to read and run, I have not been in your situation, but I hope it works out. I myself have considered egg donation after/if I have a child. I would love to help someone out, plus here in the United States you receive about $4,000.00 for each time you donate. I would think with that money more people would want to donate.

Best of luck with your situation though,

watn1

Hello
It's not so much the cost my ens for how much it will cost me. Obviously i need to keep the cost as low as possible because if the egg share did not work my end then we will also then need extra funds to go ahead with my partner reversal so ££'s do play a big part in it & i think if the egg sharers part was paid completely there would be a lot more UK Women prepared to help. Myself would 100% but obviously my 1st concern is myself so if if costs too much my end then i would just go ahead with the reversal and maybe donate my eggs later in life. i guess its better now while i'm young, fit & healthy.

Mervs Mum

I looked into egg donation a few years ago. You dont get paid for it in the UK - or you didnt at that time. I thought I wouldnt be having anymore kids and wanted to help some of those people out there who really deserve kids and are struggling. The thing that put me off in the end was that as I woudnt be doing it as part of IVF, there would be a significant actual cost to me as well as time off work and also its quite an intensive process in terms of harvesting the eggs. I was a single mum at the time and I didnt think after weighing everything up, that it was the right time for me. If I were to need IVF I wouldnt hesitate as you'd be going through the process anyway.