How do you cope with having to have sex to TTC ?

Hobnob · Dec 1st, 2009, 16:45 PM

Silly question I know!

DH and I recently decided to start TTC. We've never been a highly sexed couple so we're finding it hard to actually have to have sex!

Just wondered how you all get around it ? How do you encourage your man to get jiggy ?

stephwiggy · Dec 1st, 2009, 16:47 PM

I dont have an issue with hubby its me who can't be arsed !!! sorry cant offer any advice

moonwolf · Dec 1st, 2009, 16:57 PM

Foreplay is always the best, but also try and do the romantic things, or massages or something, like a nice bath together (with extra bubbles... XD)

anything to realise just how much you love this person and having this baby with them is more than perfect, works for me

hope this helps

mrsraggle · Dec 1st, 2009, 16:59 PM

I must admit I struggled to get in the mood even though I desperately wanted to have a baby! The weekend I caught I was SO RANDY it totally caught my hubby off guard - I was waking up in the night and waking him up and everything. I totally just think it was our time and my body was telling me to get on with it!

Maybe invest in some nice lingerie and naughty games?

Hobnob · Dec 2nd, 2009, 02:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by moonwolf

Foreplay is always the best, but also try and do the romantic things, or massages or something, like a nice bath together (with extra bubbles... XD)

anything to realise just how much you love this person and having this baby with them is more than perfect, works for me

hope this helps

Quote:

Originally Posted by mrsraggle

I must admit I struggled to get in the mood even though I desperately wanted to have a baby! The weekend I caught I was SO RANDY it totally caught my hubby off guard - I was waking up in the night and waking him up and everything. I totally just think it was our time and my body was telling me to get on with it!

Maybe invest in some nice lingerie and naughty games?

Thanks for the replies ladies

I think more foreplay is def needed!

HippyMumma23 · Dec 2nd, 2009, 02:39 AM

Im the same as someone else said, its never DH I have to worry about, its myself. However I have plans during Ov time, maybe a nice meal out, some massage oil, a bath together or something like that. So's I get in the mood and so's the fun isnt taken out of it. The last thing you want is for it to be all mechanical, you want the baby to be made out of love and fun if possible! FXD for your BFP. xxxxxxx

sunlover72 · Dec 2nd, 2009, 03:32 AM

Ok hope you dont mind a guy commenting...

Its hard to say how to help yourself get in the mood, but i would suggest making the night romantic instead of 'about ttc' a nice meal, tonnes of kissing and cuddling during the night etc. Lots of foreplay.

If your guy has issues getting turned on, well us men are simple creatures generally, dressing up a little should do the trick. Or (sorry if tmi) a little oral before BDing.

Though personally i find the more i BD all month the more i am likely to be in the mood when its O time which yo may want to consider (if not BDing regularly you can 'get out of the habit').... though generally im in the mood most of the time.

Hope thats helped.

cheekybint · Dec 2nd, 2009, 04:32 AM

We're looking at it in a totally different light to most i think

We have a very regular sex life but during my O time we plan on treating it like anything else you always do before bed. We already refer to it as "Brushing our teeth"!

My consultant advised us against any internal female foreplay as this can upset the chemical balances but i know my OH would totally agree with sunlover's comments lol

jojo-m · Dec 2nd, 2009, 04:37 AM

my hubby hates it if "its just for a baby" and previous months he's got major arse on (though still performed) This month I decided to treat him a little more and pulled out the scarier pieces of lingerie he keeps buying me but I hate wearing so never do - that sure put a smile on his face and certianly stopped any moaning!

Jo x

sunlover72 · Dec 2nd, 2009, 05:42 AM

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Originally Posted by jojo-m

my hubby hates it if "its just for a baby" and previous months he's got major arse on (though still performed) This month I decided to treat him a little more and pulled out the scarier pieces of lingerie he keeps buying me but I hate wearing so never do - that sure put a smile on his face and certianly stopped any moaning!

Jo x

Hehe we are such easily manipulated creatures!

Being serious, i dont really have this issue because we BD regularly anyway fertile or not...but

If we werent BDing much during the rest of the cycle and then i was suddenly expected to perform for the fertile days, i wouldnt like it either and..may even have problems.

Apart from lingere etc, i think the key is making sure the guy doesnt see it as TTC, but something you want to do anyway...not sure how closely peoples OH tend to follow cycles (i stalk my partners chart lol but not sure if thats normal) but you could even avoid telling them when ovulating...

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Hobnob Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 2,923	How do you cope with having to have sex to TTC ? Silly question I know! DH and I recently decided to start TTC. We've never been a highly sexed couple so we're finding it hard to actually have to have sex! Just wondered how you all get around it ? How do you encourage your man to get jiggy ?

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stephwiggy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: peterborough ish. Posts: 4,658	I dont have an issue with hubby its me who can't be arsed !!! sorry cant offer any advice

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moonwolf Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 48	Foreplay is always the best, but also try and do the romantic things, or massages or something, like a nice bath together (with extra bubbles... XD) anything to realise just how much you love this person and having this baby with them is more than perfect, works for me hope this helps

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mrsraggle Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: North Birmingham/South Staffs Posts: 9,092	I must admit I struggled to get in the mood even though I desperately wanted to have a baby! The weekend I caught I was SO RANDY it totally caught my hubby off guard - I was waking up in the night and waking him up and everything. I totally just think it was our time and my body was telling me to get on with it! Maybe invest in some nice lingerie and naughty games?

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HippyMumma23 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: London Posts: 1,805	Im the same as someone else said, its never DH I have to worry about, its myself. However I have plans during Ov time, maybe a nice meal out, some massage oil, a bath together or something like that. So's I get in the mood and so's the fun isnt taken out of it. The last thing you want is for it to be all mechanical, you want the baby to be made out of love and fun if possible! FXD for your BFP. xxxxxxx

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Dec 2nd, 2009, 03:32 AM	#7
sunlover72 Father to be Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 113	Ok hope you dont mind a guy commenting... Its hard to say how to help yourself get in the mood, but i would suggest making the night romantic instead of 'about ttc' a nice meal, tonnes of kissing and cuddling during the night etc. Lots of foreplay. If your guy has issues getting turned on, well us men are simple creatures generally, dressing up a little should do the trick. Or (sorry if tmi) a little oral before BDing. Though personally i find the more i BD all month the more i am likely to be in the mood when its O time which yo may want to consider (if not BDing regularly you can 'get out of the habit').... though generally im in the mood most of the time. Hope thats helped.

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Dec 2nd, 2009, 04:32 AM	#8
cheekybint Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northants Posts: 2,447	We're looking at it in a totally different light to most i think We have a very regular sex life but during my O time we plan on treating it like anything else you always do before bed. We already refer to it as "Brushing our teeth"! My consultant advised us against any internal female foreplay as this can upset the chemical balances but i know my OH would totally agree with sunlover's comments lol

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Dec 2nd, 2009, 04:37 AM	#9
jojo-m Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: South Yorkshire Posts: 1,547	my hubby hates it if "its just for a baby" and previous months he's got major arse on (though still performed) This month I decided to treat him a little more and pulled out the scarier pieces of lingerie he keeps buying me but I hate wearing so never do - that sure put a smile on his face and certianly stopped any moaning! Jo x

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