I dont really know what to say, I am gobsmacked that people can be so damn insensitive! I mean for one how can they not care that they have a real life person that is there own flesh and blood the most precious thing in the world growing inside of them! How can they get rid of it so easily without emotion (I know sometimes circumstances are different but in this instance)

secondly how can they be so insensitive to you!A friend cares about your feelings and is there tokae you feel better not worse! I would not give them the time of day hunny!

My dads partners daughter had an abortion I was furious when I found out! she's been with her partner for a while yes she's only 15 BUT theres plenty of 15 year old outthere who face up to their responsibilities and carry on with school aswell as being a parent! Now I hate to see her with Ella, I think how can she bear to look at Ella! doesnt she get upset and think she killed her own child! And I took my scan pics round and she was saying ahhhh and asking laods of questons, I was thinknig how can you look at it! How can you when you had that growing inside of you and you killed it!

sorry I am ranting ymself now but its one thing I cant stand!

It makes me so fecking angry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
grrrrr no wonder why your fueming hun
xxx

I know and even worse when u see Moms with newborns and they dont seem very interested in the baby makes me sooo sad

Some people do not think - full stop. They don't think when, obviously having unprotected sex, they don't think when they fall pregnant and then they don't think about the circumstances, consequences and emotions involved in aborting a child.

I am not anti abortion but it is not something that should be done at the drop of a hat, it is something that has to be thought through properly. It is not a form of contraception! Although it does shock me the number of women who think it is!!!!!!

I'm so sorry you had to have these conversations, especially the one saying you would know what to do as you have m/c! Quite frankly that just highlights how little they know and understand about fertility and getting pregnant.

Hope you are able to calm down and put this to the back of your mind.

I have been there - and it is rough. I have a friend who has aborted 4 times now - FOUR TIMES!!! I would be there for her as a friend, but seriously would get on her case about why the H*** anyone would utilize abortion as a form of birth control.

It is really sick what is happening to this world. I do believe that some people should have choices, but I think it is very inconsiderate of your friend to confide in you with those types of problems when she knows you have been trying.

People can be dumb and insensitive - and I am really sorry. I hope you get positive news soon.

that made me so mad! I could hop a plane and kick a B****'s @$$,

I had to deal with OH's brother letting his girlfriend abort and then a few weeks later I miscarry....she said "we are the same, we both LOST our babies"

Sorry some of you may have heard that before.

I think your friends are total idiots too..and very insensitive and immature.


I'll be prefectly honest here because i feel i need to i and realise i might get abuse for this, but im for legal abortion. I had one 10 years ago when i was in an abusive relationship, he was doing drugs and was generally totally insensitive to me and my feelings. I got accidentally pregnant, and as soon as i realised i had it done ca. 4 weels +.

Having said that, ive never once considered it at 20 weeks (like here in the UK) and never w/my current parther no matter how 'inconvinient' as we both realised (from day 1) that we were totally able to take care of a child and an abortion would be an anathema to us. As such I was always very careful w/bc..always have.

You might think this is an oxymoron as i'd done ot once..but it is not a thing I look on with pride but i also refuse to feel ashamed or guilty about it.

Now 10 years on, i dont berate myself as i feel in my heart i did the right thing for me HOWEVER, i have no problem in feeling anger at the point you so aptly make. It IS terribly unfair that girls who dont wanna get pregnant do, and then treat it like a by-product of a night gone wrong. Worse still, they ask you about it??? Ive known several girls even to use it as birthcontrol!! i will never understand it, not then not now.....

I also had a mc very recently and can very much relate to what you say, please dont find my post offensive, i really do agree with you, no matter how strange it may seem..

Omi, not an easy thing to tell anyone but as you say you shouldn't berate yourself either. You had your reasons and what is done is done

Sadly some people don't have the same insight that you have and seem to think abortion is a quick fix to an inconvient problem