jodie4805

I may tell my mom tonight that I'm TTC. I know she had trouble conceiving 1st time & I think after 9 months of trying it's time to tell her. Not sure how she'll take it.

Any advice on how to tell her?

fifi-folle

How's your relationship with your Mum? Is there any reason she might not be happy to hear you're TTC?
I told my Mum when we started but I included it in an explanation of what my consultant had said to me (either go on Pill or get pregnant, and if I want children to get on with it while I can) so it was a bit easier. That and my Mum taught midwifery so knows rather a lot about TTC, pregnancy and birth. DH wasn't too happy though, oops. How about just asking her advice on something or ask her experience? That way she should feel important if you know what I mean. Shows you respect and value her input. Although I haven't told MIL as she would interfere, patronise and generally be awful - she doesn't like me very much, mind you she doesn't like anyone very much, DH included! Is that the sort of reason you are hesitating? It's nothing to do with anyone else really so only tell her if you want to.
Hope you get your soon.

jodie4805

My relationship with my mom is good. It's just that I'm not married & my relationship with OH is complicated. I'm sure my mom would be happy, I just find it hard to talk about my feelings etc. & don't know how to bring the subject up.

My mom is also a bit of a gossip & I'm worried that she will start telling people. I know I should be able to trust her, but I know what she's like & I'm pretty sure she will tell at least 1 person.

Lovemyboy

I don't see any reason how your mum wont be happy for you. I bet she would love a grandchild she can spoil rotten!!!

Hope it goes well x x

fifi-folle

Follow your heart Jodie. How would you feel if your Mum told other people you were ttc? Also does she approve of your relationship? Perhaps this is the perfect opportunity for you to have a talk with her. I know it's difficult but may be worth it.

tashalina

If I had my chance again I wouldnt tell any of my family Im TTC lol, I wanted it to be mine and OH secret for a while when we got our but ive got no chance now coz all my close family and friends know we are TTC.

Plus since my cousin knew we were going to start TTC, she has become pregnant (not jealous really!!! lol)

its up to you though hon coz it can be nice to have that support and someone to moan at when things dont go right and shows!! but then you have us lot for all that

beauty

I wish i didnt tell anyone, because since telling people mostly friends and family, guess wot, they all seem to be pregnant (without trying)

Plus i talk to my mum but i really dont think she understand how i am feeling and how down i am with ttc.. Its been a long road and its still not over 16months and 11 cycles and still not gotten my BFP..

I wish i kept it a secret doesnt put pressure on you when people ask you not preganant yet!! ARHGGGGGGGGG
xxx

jodie4805

Well I chickened out. Couldn't find the right moment.

I've told some close friends & luckily they don't keep asking.

Just found out today that another of my friends is pregnant. I should be happy for her, but I'm struggling.

tashalina

my cousin has just found out she is pregnant, its sooo hard coz she knew we were TTC so she almost felt guilty and was worried about telling me. I am ok with it now after being a bit gutted to start with, but I imagine it will get harder if I dont conceive soon and as she gets more and more PG.

We are really close, and I was there at the birth of her daughter so its not even like I can keep my distance coz she will sus something is up, and I dont want her to fel bad, she should be happy. Just got to hope this is our month for our