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jodie4805 · Nov 23rd, 2009, 07:23 AM

I may tell my mom tonight that I'm TTC. I know she had trouble conceiving 1st time & I think after 9 months of trying it's time to tell her. Not sure how she'll take it.

Any advice on how to tell her?

fifi-folle · Nov 23rd, 2009, 08:03 AM

How's your relationship with your Mum? Is there any reason she might not be happy to hear you're TTC?
I told my Mum when we started but I included it in an explanation of what my consultant had said to me (either go on Pill or get pregnant, and if I want children to get on with it while I can) so it was a bit easier. That and my Mum taught midwifery so knows rather a lot about TTC, pregnancy and birth. DH wasn't too happy though, oops. How about just asking her advice on something or ask her experience? That way she should feel important if you know what I mean. Shows you respect and value her input. Although I haven't told MIL as she would interfere, patronise and generally be awful - she doesn't like me very much, mind you she doesn't like anyone very much, DH included! Is that the sort of reason you are hesitating? It's nothing to do with anyone else really so only tell her if you want to.
Hope you get your

soon.

jodie4805 · Nov 23rd, 2009, 08:18 AM

My relationship with my mom is good. It's just that I'm not married & my relationship with OH is complicated. I'm sure my mom would be happy, I just find it hard to talk about my feelings etc. & don't know how to bring the subject up.

My mom is also a bit of a gossip & I'm worried that she will start telling people. I know I should be able to trust her, but I know what she's like & I'm pretty sure she will tell at least 1 person.

Lovemyboy · Nov 23rd, 2009, 09:46 AM

I don't see any reason how your mum wont be happy for you. I bet she would love a grandchild she can spoil rotten!!!

Hope it goes well x x

fifi-folle · Nov 23rd, 2009, 11:12 AM

Follow your heart Jodie. How would you feel if your Mum told other people you were ttc? Also does she approve of your relationship? Perhaps this is the perfect opportunity for you to have a talk with her. I know it's difficult but may be worth it.

tashalina · Nov 23rd, 2009, 18:10 PM

If I had my chance again I wouldnt tell any of my family Im TTC lol, I wanted it to be mine and OH secret for a while when we got our

but ive got no chance now coz all my close family and friends know we are TTC.

Plus since my cousin knew we were going to start TTC, she has become pregnant (not jealous really!!! lol)

its up to you though hon coz it can be nice to have that support and someone to moan at when things dont go right and

shows!! but then you have us lot for all that

beauty · Nov 24th, 2009, 04:13 AM

I wish i didnt tell anyone, because since telling people mostly friends and family, guess wot, they all seem to be pregnant (without trying)

Plus i talk to my mum but i really dont think she understand how i am feeling and how down i am with ttc.. Its been a long road and its still not over 16months and 11 cycles and still not gotten my BFP..

I wish i kept it a secret doesnt put pressure on you when people ask you not preganant yet!! ARHGGGGGGGGG
xxx

jodie4805 · Nov 24th, 2009, 06:56 AM

Well I chickened out. Couldn't find the right moment.

I've told some close friends & luckily they don't keep asking.

Just found out today that another of my friends is pregnant. I should be happy for her, but I'm struggling.

tashalina · Nov 24th, 2009, 07:26 AM

my cousin has just found out she is pregnant, its sooo hard coz she knew we were TTC so she almost felt guilty and was worried about telling me. I am ok with it now after being a bit gutted to start with, but I imagine it will get harder if I dont conceive soon and as she gets more and more PG.

We are really close, and I was there at the birth of her daughter so its not even like I can keep my distance coz she will sus something is up, and I dont want her to fel bad, she should be happy. Just got to hope this is our month for our

Nov 23rd, 2009, 07:23 AM	#1
jodie4805 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Coventry Posts: 319	thinking..... I may tell my mom tonight that I'm TTC. I know she had trouble conceiving 1st time & I think after 9 months of trying it's time to tell her. Not sure how she'll take it. Any advice on how to tell her?

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 08:03 AM	#2
fifi-folle Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Fife, Scotland Posts: 1,927	How's your relationship with your Mum? Is there any reason she might not be happy to hear you're TTC? I told my Mum when we started but I included it in an explanation of what my consultant had said to me (either go on Pill or get pregnant, and if I want children to get on with it while I can) so it was a bit easier. That and my Mum taught midwifery so knows rather a lot about TTC, pregnancy and birth. DH wasn't too happy though, oops. How about just asking her advice on something or ask her experience? That way she should feel important if you know what I mean. Shows you respect and value her input. Although I haven't told MIL as she would interfere, patronise and generally be awful - she doesn't like me very much, mind you she doesn't like anyone very much, DH included! Is that the sort of reason you are hesitating? It's nothing to do with anyone else really so only tell her if you want to. Hope you get your soon.

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 08:18 AM	#3
jodie4805 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Coventry Posts: 319	My relationship with my mom is good. It's just that I'm not married & my relationship with OH is complicated. I'm sure my mom would be happy, I just find it hard to talk about my feelings etc. & don't know how to bring the subject up. My mom is also a bit of a gossip & I'm worried that she will start telling people. I know I should be able to trust her, but I know what she's like & I'm pretty sure she will tell at least 1 person.

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 09:46 AM	#4
Lovemyboy Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 439	I don't see any reason how your mum wont be happy for you. I bet she would love a grandchild she can spoil rotten!!! Hope it goes well x x

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 11:12 AM	#5
fifi-folle Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Fife, Scotland Posts: 1,927	Follow your heart Jodie. How would you feel if your Mum told other people you were ttc? Also does she approve of your relationship? Perhaps this is the perfect opportunity for you to have a talk with her. I know it's difficult but may be worth it.

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Nov 23rd, 2009, 18:10 PM	#6
tashalina Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Coventry, UK Posts: 821	If I had my chance again I wouldnt tell any of my family Im TTC lol, I wanted it to be mine and OH secret for a while when we got our but ive got no chance now coz all my close family and friends know we are TTC. Plus since my cousin knew we were going to start TTC, she has become pregnant (not jealous really!!! lol) its up to you though hon coz it can be nice to have that support and someone to moan at when things dont go right and shows!! but then you have us lot for all that

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Nov 24th, 2009, 04:13 AM	#7
beauty Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: UK Posts: 1,792	I wish i didnt tell anyone, because since telling people mostly friends and family, guess wot, they all seem to be pregnant (without trying) Plus i talk to my mum but i really dont think she understand how i am feeling and how down i am with ttc.. Its been a long road and its still not over 16months and 11 cycles and still not gotten my BFP.. I wish i kept it a secret doesnt put pressure on you when people ask you not preganant yet!! ARHGGGGGGGGG xxx

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Nov 24th, 2009, 06:56 AM	#8
jodie4805 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Coventry Posts: 319	Well I chickened out. Couldn't find the right moment. I've told some close friends & luckily they don't keep asking. Just found out today that another of my friends is pregnant. I should be happy for her, but I'm struggling.

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Nov 24th, 2009, 07:26 AM	#9
tashalina Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Coventry, UK Posts: 821	my cousin has just found out she is pregnant, its sooo hard coz she knew we were TTC so she almost felt guilty and was worried about telling me. I am ok with it now after being a bit gutted to start with, but I imagine it will get harder if I dont conceive soon and as she gets more and more PG. We are really close, and I was there at the birth of her daughter so its not even like I can keep my distance coz she will sus something is up, and I dont want her to fel bad, she should be happy. Just got to hope this is our month for our

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