nooooooooooo way what a .................... as everyones said you need to get out, please hunni, i dont want you getting hurt again, no way in hell you deserve that and a idiot like him. pleease, theres people out there that can help with shelter and stuff til you find your feet. please feel free to message me anytime if you wanna talk and stuff ok lovess xxxx

thank you. Im trying to get out, but money and all that is so hard like i said no job, and no one to count on. But im trying

what about your friends?? can you count on them??

hi hun, sorry about your situation, but if you dont want to go back to a shelter, have yo tryed going to banks and seeing if you can get a small loan??
to last a few months till you get a job and back on your feet??

or if friends are able to lend a hand..maybe let you stay till you get a job ??

Wen I got married I lost my friends, so none there. I cant get a loan cause of my credit.

If you were here in New Zealand id let you stay wid me..i wouldnt know what else to do hun then, try hang in there and if he starts anything again try leave for the day or get away till he calms down..save up and look for jobs..

Hope all works out for you!!

Then you have three options, go live with your mum for a bit till you get back on your feet, she's already offered and hell shes your mum, thats what mums do! Two is to go to the shelter and let them help you get back on your feet, these people are trained to handle your situation and are masters at it, yes it might be fowl for awhile but will it be any more terrible than how you are living now? Three is to stay put and put up with it which you know can not be a happy ending. Im not tyring to be mean, but there is support for you be it your mother who has offered you a place or a shelter, you just have to get strong and take it and get out of that situation. Its not going to be easy or a terribly nice thing to go through but whats your alternatives, stay with a man who beats you for an anniversary present? I had two young children, the money was controled by my ex and I had no credit what so ever because I wasnt allowed to have anything in my name, I took what help that was offered and I worked any job I could find till I got back on my feet, sometimes I went without food just so the bills could be paid and my kids had enough to eat. Eight years on Im fine, with a man who loves me and trying to have another baby, Im not going to tell you it wasnt hard, because it was damn hard, but you will only have to look out for yourself and you can definatley do that! You are the only one thats going to be able to make that change in your life and I tell you it will be much easier now than 10 years down the track because you didnt want to suffer a bit more discomfort in you life. Your stronger than you can ever imagine and worth so much more than what you are getting in that relationship now hun, material things can be replaced but your life can never be lived over again!

I remember this. I was in your situation but fortunately family and friends pulled me out of it. I was beat up a few times. If you check online those are the warning signs. The man wants to isolate you from family and friends. my ex tried this wanted me to move to alaska didn't want me to have friends. he wouldn't even let me work. but i guess when it got close to moving my family and best friend made me look online at abuse site(they didnt know, but they did) i saw my future and ran away. im back safely with family even though he harasses me from time to time.

just thought i'd let you know i've been there.hold on. and get out when you can. it only gets worse.

I am so sorry honey. I agree with the other girls, you deserve so much better! I have never been in that situation but i know you need to find a way out. You don't need money, there are shelters out there which are free. I am sure you can work your way up from there, i also think they would help you find a house and work. What about moving in with your mum?

If you dont want to be with him then just leave, its not right being there and he could hurt you again and again and you will be there feeling like crap so you need to get out as soon as you can.