O.k this happened on saterday 1 March and it has bugged the living &^%$ out of me, and i can't figure out an answer for myself!!!!!!

O.k i had a few family and friends over at our place, and out of the blue my MIL starts talking about my son (if you don't know story- Stilborn baby at 37weeks and 2 days), so i listen and she starts sobbing and going on and on and on, eventually one of my MIl friends said am i over the loss of my son, and i replied yes i am, im not over but have made piece with the fact that he has gone to a bet place. O.k so my MIL said well i think you need to bury your sons ashes as you still have them in your drawer, then you can let go and move on with your life. I was like WTF who are they to tell me what to do or even how i feel, no one there had lost a child, or even came close to what happened to me, who the F&^% gave them the right to tell me what to feel or in that fact what to do

They said i will not conceive as long as i am still holding onto my sons ashes and him, now i honostly don't know if they might be right or not, i do know that i miss having my bump and the feeling of my baby in my belly moving and kicking but i don't bawl my eyes out every single day, whem i think of him i get sad but not so that i can't function. I went back to work 2 months after my loss, and i think im fine

What do you ladies think????????????????????????????

They are nuts!
Dont listen to them! I mean, conception has nothing to do with anything else, it's just something that happens.

They need a kick in their bu**. I am sorry you had to deal with people like that.

IGNORE THEM!

thats awful!! id kick butt its none of their bees wax! i cant believe they spoke to you like that im so sorry!

did your oh stick up for you? its a year after my daughter died and i still have her ashes you cant rush these things you should only let go of them when you are one hundred percent happy with it


some people are so bloody rude.

it's nobody elses business. I'd say the only thing is that, and i can't possibly imagined what you went through, but from an objective opinion, our emotions can affect fertility, in the sense that, if we're depressed, or stressed etc our hormones are affected and it seems that this can have an effect on conception (only from what i've read mind). From what you've written, you seem to be very strong and i admire that strength. Some ppl keep the ashes of loved ones, and others choose to set them free. It's totally up to the individual and if you think it's not affecting your emotions for the worse, then it's not upto anyone else to tell you what to do.

Thanks gals, i mean i had to force myself a month after losing my son to pack up his room, as it broke my heart everytime i walked past his room with all the toys all nicely around.

I believe that my next round of clomid 100mg would do the trick!!!!!

I have always told people if you love someone set them free, i knew that if i didn't let go my life could not go on. I am happy were i am at today, i do get my down days but i know i will have my angel in my arms again one day.

It sounds like to me you are handling things brilliantly and in your own time.

Take no notice of those who proclaim to know everything. Do things when you are ready xx

I think they are way out of line.

I am so sorry that your MIL is being that way. It is really easy for people to put there 2cents in and have no clue what they are talking about. It sounds to to me that you are doing great for what you have been through . Here is some .for your next month ttc

Why do they assume they know best for you? Burying your babies ashes will not necessarily 'let you move on with the rest of your life'. You are living now and he will always be part of your life. Rubbish to imply you have not conceived because of this. I'm sure they mean well but how you deal with your grief is not open for general discussion. You seem to be 'coping' very well, I can't imagine how awful it must have been.

They were completely out of line. Only you know what is best for you