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Mar 4th, 2008, 16:49 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Don't listen to them hun, you hold on to your son's ashes as long as you feel you need to. Only you will know when you are ready. You still find some comfort having them near you so do what's best for you. Hope you get your BFP soon  | | | | Status: Offline
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Mar 4th, 2008, 16:56 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | As well meaning as their words might have been intended. I think you will know when is the right time to let your son's ashes go. You have to grieve on your own schedule and NO one elses. |
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Mar 4th, 2008, 16:58 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | you seem really strong to me. obviously your MIL is not dealing with things as well as you and hence the total lack of tact and old wives tale. the ashes are not stopping you!
Good luck in TTC. |
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Mar 4th, 2008, 18:24 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | dont listen to them what twats! Unless they had been in the same position as you they are in no position to give orders...i mean dvice can be useful to get different points of view but when it comes to something as sensitive as this they need to back off!! Sorry you had to listen to their 'advice' only you know whats right for you and how you feel! |
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Mar 4th, 2008, 18:29 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | you sound very strong and in control and only you know what is best for you.
it sounds like MIl might be having her own problms and is not greiving yet, maybe that is why she is pushing you.
take care |
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Mar 4th, 2008, 21:36 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | I think they should keep their mouths shut, it's none of their business either way, I'm sorry you had to listen to that and put up with that. You sound as if you are dealing with what happened very well. Pay no attention to them whatsoever! |
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Mar 4th, 2008, 23:08 PM
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Ignore her...cheeky b*^$"!!!!!
Poking her nose in where its not needed!!!!! huh!!!!! |
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Mar 4th, 2008, 23:15 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | I totally agree with all the above posts!
She was totally out of line and only you know whats best for you in "moving on"... Do what you want and what makes you feel better/what you need to do and dont listen to other people..only you can decide !!
Im with you, sod them...  And best of luck ttc again!!!! |
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Mar 4th, 2008, 23:15 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | It sound slike shes findin it hard too.... but she has to understand that its a decision you make. She prob only wants to help you really, just things dont always come out right. Sometimes a good chat and can do wonders. |
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Mar 5th, 2008, 02:49 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Jeez, I still have my son's ashes in the urn on my entertainment center as well as pictures from the delivery and they may not be pleasant for other people to look at but that is my choice, and none of their business. And I am not ever getting rid of them, thats my choice, my MIL still has her son's ashes too. | | | | Status: Online
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