Butterfly1984

Hi,
I am about to start AF
This was our last attempt at TTC till Febuary as I am going to a wedding in America and flying on 4th September, I thought last month was our last cycle but thanks to someone on here I found out that you can fly up to 28 weeks pregnant and even more if it is a single uncomplicated pregnancy but thought that we best not risk this!!

We have been TTC since last October so over a year now and my DH has an appointment to get his little swimmers checked next week.
However, I think the problem may be with me, I always have spotting for a couple of days before AF but for the past few cycles I have had spotting about 6 days before AF for about 3 days, then nothing for 3 or 4 days so I start thinking it could be IB and then AF starts
This month I had a tiny bit of pink CM when I wiped then the day after, what I would describe as a 'gush of blood' I thought AF was starting so I put a tampon in and when I went to change it there was just a tiny bit of brown blood on it, then absolutely nothing for 4 days until today I've got cramps and browny pink spotting, AF is definately on its way!
So, I think I may have low progesterone which will hopefully get sorted when my GP will start tests on me when we get my DHs results. What do you think?

Anyway, I have been crying all morning, it feels like I will never have a baby and there's so many new babies and pregnant ladies around me at the moment, my mum's best friends daughter is 15 weeks pregnant, she's only 20 and it was an accident, a burst condom aparantly, I'm sure she will be a good mum, she has a good family to help her, but she is no longer with her BF and I recently went to a party where she was drinking (not loads about 3 glasses of wine) in between her smoking breaks and saying things like 'I can't wait for my baby bump' and to go shopping for things for the baby and she doesn't even have a job, house or boyfriend. I just wanted to scream at her and say 'it's not fair, I have a brilliant job, an amazing husband who's so ready to be a dad, a house with an empty bedroom and I would give anything to be in your position and I certainly wouldn't be drinking or smoking (I've never smoked in my life but you know what I mean!!)
I'm sorry for going on, just feeling really awful, why is it that we spend all our teenage years being told to be careful of things like burst condoms, it makes it seem like it will be so easy to get pregnant, then we have sex LOTS with no BC for over a year and............................... absolutley sweet FA happens!!

LIFE SUCKS!!!

Anyway, rambling over........

I would like lots of lovely suggestions from anyone for what I can do till Febuary to get myself ready for my inevitable pregnancy!!!

Or advice if you were/are having similar spotting to me and what you think it could be!!!!!!!!

enicole

Hi hun,

I'm so sorry. I know it sucks when EVERYONE around you is getting pregnant. I'm glad you guys are going to the Dr's to get checked out. Hopefully that will give you some peace of mind. Keep us posted on what happens at your dr's visit. I'm so curious about those things! We have our first one in about 10 days.

I understand what you're saying about flying after 28 weeks, etc. but depending on what the dr says, maybe you just want to keep on trying? It would be so hard to give up on the dream for a few months. But, maybe the break is what you guys need, though. The TTC process is hard on both of you for sure.

RebaRezzelba

Hi - I spot for 4/5 days before AF - and have done for the past ten years. I get a pretty heavy period for 2/3 days and then more spotting for 3/4 days after. I started the B100 complex after reading a thread on here saying it helped with spotting - it unfortunately didnt help me - i spotted for 6 days this time but less days after AF (so maybe its working but taking its time).

I have been TTC for 23 months now however and sometime I think the spotting is the reason Im not getting my BFP. I mentioned it to the doctors before but they were never too interested or never said it was anything serious - I would love to see a specialist in periods so they could tell me whats going on.

Its hard every month not getting your BFP (i know all about it) but dont give up. Do you really have to go to this wedding? Can you not still try for the next few months but not try too hard? If you get a BFP then happy days - if not then you can still go to the wedding.

And also have you seen the fertility specialist yet? Had any bloods done etc?

RebaRezzelba

oh and yeah my spotting has recently changed from 1 day then nothing then another day or two then nothing again (i thought it was IB a few times too). I think maybe its the stress of trying and the hoping that might be messing things up. This month I had 1 day of spotting after AF then nothing for a day and a half then a gush of brown spotting for a few hrs then finished.... weird!

babydeabreu

awww sorry to hear you upset and miserable bout the whole TTC thing

it seems theres alot of us going through this right now. i was 15 days late then started spotting for two days....then lil red and heavier then to day im off... so thats 3 days brown/light one day on and then off.

im fed up and just like you was upset and still upset with TTC.

im so glad that your going docs and getting both of you guys tested...try not to blame your self as so many of us are going through this and have nothing wrong with us just bad timing..... why others get pregnant by a drop of a hat.... its a very very frustrating thing sweet but look at the bright side your both healthy both getting help so lets just pray that it all works well and that one day very soon your hit it right and it will happen.

me and my partner are both perfectly healthy too..dont drink dont smoke both in good jobs have our own place literally have no stress to worrie about but just like you TTC is the only thing stressing us out.

try and have a nice time away and just enjoy each other and then maybe who knows not stressing bout baby will be the help you need.

but good luck and keep us all updated xxxx

vaniilla

I know it can seem that everyone around you is pregnant but parents that are prepared and have planned pregnancies have better pregnancies and happier children as a result because you really wanted this child you will appreciate it alot more when it happens!! plus you have to look at both sides like for example your mum's friends daughter may be pregnant and although she has family support nothing beats (in my opinion) the feeling of being inside your own little family and you have your own home it just makes everything perfect it will happen one way or another! just try and see AF as another month closer to it happening.

We all have days where we just want to get under the duvet and never come out because it isn't fair that those of us that are trying all this time don't pregnant within a month and those that don't want it have it happen, I used to joke with my oh that maybe we should go out and drink alot and meet each other and pretend we don't know each other to increase our chances! but it will happen and you will be a much better parent for it at the end

best of luck xxxxx

Butterfly1984

Thanks for responding guys, I feel abit better now!

Enicole - I think you're probably right, a break is probably what we need, I get so upset everytime AF arrives and this must upset my DH so I think it would be nice to have a break.
I was tempted to carry on trying, I kinda thought that if we couldn't go the wedding because I was pregnant then I wouldn't care because I'd be so happy to be having a baby but I think I need to stop thinking about it for a bit. I'm going to get healthy, I go to the gym but haven't been going much lately so I think I'm going to get my DH to join then we can go together, going to eat healthier and relax for a few months!

Rebarezellba - I am going to nag and nag my GP until I get some answers on my spotting, I really think that it could be the problem, I don't know why, I just do. I'm really lucky that I know my GP really well and if I don't feel 100% happy with his answers then I can try and make him refer me to a specialist!! If all that fails then my sister is nearly a qualified GP and will give me loads of info to bombard him with!! Anyway, I will let you know when I find anything out!

Babydeabreu - thank you and I will keep you updated!

Vaniilla - I think you're right, we will appreciate it so much when we eventually have our baby, I have some friends who have a 2 year old, she was a honeymoon baby, they thought it would take years to conceive her (it took his parents 9 years) and it only took them a couple of weeks, my friend is a fantastic mum but he is not the best dad in the world, I don't think he was ready to be a dad, he talks to her like she is about 15 and gets annoyed with her when she does something silly and doens't do what he wants her to do straight away, I sit there and think that my DH would never do that because we will appreciate everything that our baby does, even when he/she fills our shoes with fish fingers!! Haha, I hope you get what I mean!!
I have a really happy life and my bambino is going to be the icing on the cake, until I get him/her/them (I'd love twins!!) I am going to have a brill time and save up oodles of money so I can have as much time off work as possible!!!

Thanks again guys, I'll let you know as soon as I get any answers xxx

Lamburai1703

Hi Butterfly. I know its rubbish but perhaps you should try and book up at least one fun thing a month that you couldn't do if you were pregnant - thats what I've done after my MCs as it gives me something to look forward to! We are going on a romantic trip to Paris on the 20th Nov, to see a friend in Belfast in early dec, and various other bits and bobs. Just see your friends, drink wine (moderately of course!), and spend some relaxing time with your OH. We're not trying this month following 2 miscarriages, but I still temp although I'm managing not to panic if its erratic! Just take some time and look after yourself.

babydeabreu

lamburai hope u have a great time in la paris

sorry to hear that u lost two bet that was horrible for you .....wishing you all the best xxx

Butterfly1984

That's a brill idea, I'm going to make a list of things I am going to do!!

I'm so jealous of you going to Paris! We went for our first wedding anniversary in July. Try and go to this restaurant -
http://www.tripadvisor.com/Restauran...de_France.html
It's tiny (holds about 20) but it has amazing food and there's a man playing jazz piano in the corner. I had the ostrich steak which is soooooooooooo good!!
Have a wonderful time, you deserve some happiness xxx