I'm really sad...why am I so jealous?!

Just1Please · Nov 9th, 2009, 13:55 PM

I have been TTC for 5 months, which I know isn't a long time, but it's frustrating. I've been married 2.5 years. I have a good friend that just got married 3 months ago and I just found out she's 2 months pregnant. She hasn't even told me. I found out from a mutual friend. I am really upset, mainly in just the fact that she's pregnant before I am. I am trying not to be like this, but I can't help it. It just really sucks. Today's my birthday too, so I'm trying to not worry about it, but I can't help but think something's wrong with me. Like...why can I not get pregnant? It's not fair. Any words of encouragement? I am happy for her, just sad for myself.

genies girl · Nov 9th, 2009, 13:59 PM

Its perfectly normal to feel like that so dont feel bad, its the one thing you just cant help feeling jelouse over it doesnt make you a bad friend!
Hopefully you will be next so theres no need to worry.
Enjoy your birthday, its your day and no one can take that from you!, Chin up and hapy birthday chick xx

muncho · Nov 9th, 2009, 14:01 PM

its a diffiuclt time and its hard not to be jelaous of people. i went to see my cousin who had sex once and got Pg. we went to see her baby at the weekend. i couldnt bear to even hold the baby i felt so bad...

alot of people feel the same way xx

babybound · Nov 9th, 2009, 14:02 PM

i had a similar situation happen to me. i found out my friend was prego after having casual sex once with someone, an heard it from a mutual friend. i've been trying for a couple months now with my OH. Life jus isn't fair sometimes. but we jus have to keep our head up && remember that sometimes the greatest things in life is the ones you wait for. hopefully you'll get that

soon an have a little miracle of your own. lots of

heading your way!

&& happy birthday!

sglascoe · Nov 9th, 2009, 14:04 PM

happy birthday hun, these feelings are very natural, try to just relax hun and not worry about getting pregnant, it will happen hun you just need to relax, hope you enjoy the rest of your day, xx

mommywishes · Nov 9th, 2009, 14:21 PM

I am the same exact way! Trying for 6 mos...26, married for almost 2 years, together for 6. All my friends have kids, most of them just had their 2nd, and my friend just told me a couple weeks ago that she is pregnant. It has been one of the most frustrating things ever, every month to wait and wonder. I have a 15 year old stepson and I always tell my DH that I am going to be a grandma before I am a mom.

There has got to be hope!

to us all!!!

please!!
Stay away

heidi86 · Nov 9th, 2009, 14:22 PM

hope it gets brighter for u hun x

somedaymama · Nov 9th, 2009, 14:26 PM

I remember the first time that hearing someone else was pregnant made me feel jealous and made. It suprised an upset me, because I really was glad that she was able to have a baby. They had only been married a few months at the time, and we've been trying longer than they've been married. I think that's what made me so mad. I think it's normal, so don't worry about it. I hope you get your BFP soon!!!

wantingno.2 · Nov 9th, 2009, 14:44 PM

i feel exactly the same, i just found out one of my friends is pregnant with her 2nd. I cant help but feel so so jealous, why her not me.

_Hope_ · Nov 9th, 2009, 15:49 PM

Aw hun it's only natural to have these feelings and i'm sure there are lots of us on here that have felt this from time to time, I know I have. My brother and his partner announced that they were expecting last month and made no secret of the fact that it was an accident. I was devastated, i've been trying for a total of 20 cycles and hearing that news was very hard for me when I so desperately want a baby.

Happy birthday sweetie and hope you feel better soon

Nov 9th, 2009, 13:55 PM	#1
Just1Please Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Tennessee, US Posts: 146	I'm really sad...why am I so jealous?! I have been TTC for 5 months, which I know isn't a long time, but it's frustrating. I've been married 2.5 years. I have a good friend that just got married 3 months ago and I just found out she's 2 months pregnant. She hasn't even told me. I found out from a mutual friend. I am really upset, mainly in just the fact that she's pregnant before I am. I am trying not to be like this, but I can't help it. It just really sucks. Today's my birthday too, so I'm trying to not worry about it, but I can't help but think something's wrong with me. Like...why can I not get pregnant? It's not fair. Any words of encouragement? I am happy for her, just sad for myself.

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Nov 9th, 2009, 13:59 PM	#2
genies girl Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Surrey UK Posts: 1,943	Its perfectly normal to feel like that so dont feel bad, its the one thing you just cant help feeling jelouse over it doesnt make you a bad friend! Hopefully you will be next so theres no need to worry. Enjoy your birthday, its your day and no one can take that from you!, Chin up and hapy birthday chick xx

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Nov 9th, 2009, 14:01 PM	#3
muncho Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 1,385	its a diffiuclt time and its hard not to be jelaous of people. i went to see my cousin who had sex once and got Pg. we went to see her baby at the weekend. i couldnt bear to even hold the baby i felt so bad... alot of people feel the same way xx

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Nov 9th, 2009, 14:02 PM	#4
babybound Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 256	i had a similar situation happen to me. i found out my friend was prego after having casual sex once with someone, an heard it from a mutual friend. i've been trying for a couple months now with my OH. Life jus isn't fair sometimes. but we jus have to keep our head up && remember that sometimes the greatest things in life is the ones you wait for. hopefully you'll get that soon an have a little miracle of your own. lots of heading your way! && happy birthday!

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Nov 9th, 2009, 14:04 PM	#5
sglascoe Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: manchester Posts: 1,380	happy birthday hun, these feelings are very natural, try to just relax hun and not worry about getting pregnant, it will happen hun you just need to relax, hope you enjoy the rest of your day, xx

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Nov 9th, 2009, 14:21 PM	#6
mommywishes Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 64	I am the same exact way! Trying for 6 mos...26, married for almost 2 years, together for 6. All my friends have kids, most of them just had their 2nd, and my friend just told me a couple weeks ago that she is pregnant. It has been one of the most frustrating things ever, every month to wait and wonder. I have a 15 year old stepson and I always tell my DH that I am going to be a grandma before I am a mom. There has got to be hope! to us all!!! please!! Stay away

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Nov 9th, 2009, 14:22 PM	#7
heidi86 Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: cornwall Posts: 225	hope it gets brighter for u hun x

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Nov 9th, 2009, 14:26 PM	#8
somedaymama Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Illinois Posts: 2,465	I remember the first time that hearing someone else was pregnant made me feel jealous and made. It suprised an upset me, because I really was glad that she was able to have a baby. They had only been married a few months at the time, and we've been trying longer than they've been married. I think that's what made me so mad. I think it's normal, so don't worry about it. I hope you get your BFP soon!!!

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Nov 9th, 2009, 14:44 PM	#9
wantingno.2 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Yorkshire, UK Posts: 1,247	i feel exactly the same, i just found out one of my friends is pregnant with her 2nd. I cant help but feel so so jealous, why her not me.

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Nov 9th, 2009, 15:49 PM	#10
_Hope_ Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: South Yorkshire Posts: 1,696	Aw hun it's only natural to have these feelings and i'm sure there are lots of us on here that have felt this from time to time, I know I have. My brother and his partner announced that they were expecting last month and made no secret of the fact that it was an accident. I was devastated, i've been trying for a total of 20 cycles and hearing that news was very hard for me when I so desperately want a baby. Happy birthday sweetie and hope you feel better soon

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