jo27

Sorry for your loss, sounds like you've got some good support, my DH would have probably said a similar thing about the gym etc when we really want them to turn round and say you look great, they just don't think the same as us. I hope you're finding it gets easier x

Carolina

im so sorry

Uvlollypop

big hugs.... i dont know if it helps but diff people react in diff ways to loss, i was convinced that my daughter was alive for months after she was stillborn....i felt like a mental case untill my doctor assured me that it was just my brains logical reaction to the huge trauma...

i wish i could help

~Summer~

I am sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to get that sticky bean really soon.

Omi

Oh, Sweetie!

I just read your post and thouht id give you some support. I only (i know) lost my baby at six weeks which we found out at our 10 week scan, but its an awful awful thing to got through. I only had the d&c on friday and although ive been chipper all weekend..i can feel something is not right and i have been warned its normal... last night i just felt soo down and guilty for not doing what i feel i should be...

Unfortunatley my OH runs his own business and has not been able to be with me as much as he would like and in the meantime things are going to seed w/the house and me...

that makes me guilty.. i called work this morning saying i wont come in this week..that made me feel guilty.. im tired all the time..

My OH although lovely feels a bit crap about the state of the house and me and says its ok.. but i dont believe him and feel guilty. he even suggested that going back to work might help... i dont think so.

Bottom line is, try as they might they have nothing to compare it to..their minds and bodies work differently and they cant feel any of this turmoil.

Rest assured you are prefectly normal and I do believe you will feel better but to think any of us will ever forget is perhaps naive.. how can you forget something so profound that happened not just to your body, but your mind and your entire life!!!

I wish you all the best w/trying to ttc and all the best for the future. We will get there in the end!!!

wilbrabeany

Thank you everyone for you support and kind messages. I've finally let my feelings out today with a bit of a meltdown at work bit embarrassing especially now i've got big puffy eyes But i feel loads better, think i was fighting a release last night and its stupid to fight it but i am a control freak...haha. Big hugs for everyone thanks again