Worried about Hubby

PalmerWife · Oct 30th, 2009, 13:19 PM

We have been TTC since june. We started OPK's last month and apparently missed the big O. Got positive OPK yesterday and a stronger positive today. Problem is last night when HUB was trying to "plant his seed" he was unable to. This has never happend in the 5 years we have known eachother. I want to catch the egg tonight, but im afraid to put more pressure on him. We have always had a very very active BDing life, i dont know what to do and am slightly discouraged that we will miss our oppertunity.

familyarana · Oct 30th, 2009, 13:26 PM

Have you been ttc for long? Maybe he is pressuring himself to make it happen right away and fails because it's on his mind. To me sometimes it's best if the partner don't know when your ovulating so that way they think it's just normal sex or making love rather than thinking this is it....here comes johnny!!!(lol) and then it doesn't. Have fun with it and make sexy talk and it will be ok. Lot's of

to you.

fernie3 · Oct 30th, 2009, 13:26 PM

hi
I think it does put pressure on them sometimes. I never tell my husband when it is "time" I just "encourage" it !

PalmerWife · Oct 30th, 2009, 13:29 PM

thanks ladies!

Last night started like any other night. It was fun! (sorry TMI), and it just didnt happen. We have been trying for 6 months, so not a huge amt of time, but long enough for both of us to kinda wanna speed up the process. He is very interested to know and see the tests, and know what im going through. Ive never even thought of lieing to him before, but should i just say i didnt O next month when the time comes?

Crypto1976 · Oct 30th, 2009, 13:30 PM

It had never happened to us in 9 years either! I think the pressure is too much sometimes. I decided last month to hide the opks and to try not to speak to much about it.
Men are much more fragile than they let on! Good luck hun. XX

PalmerWife · Oct 30th, 2009, 13:32 PM

Thanks Crypto. Good luck to you too

fernie3 · Oct 30th, 2009, 13:35 PM

I wouldnt lie about it just - make it seem like you want to be with him because you REALLYY want to rather than because you can get pregnant that day and unless he asks dont mention ovulation times or anything

crossroads · Oct 30th, 2009, 13:41 PM

OP I adore your sig so much x

dan-o · Oct 30th, 2009, 13:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fernie3

hi
I think it does put pressure on them sometimes. I never tell my husband when it is "time" I just "encourage" it !

Me too! xx

fluffyblue · Oct 30th, 2009, 14:03 PM

Hi hun just make sure you do it after Ovulation as well I have conceived 3 times by making sure we BD after ovulation at least for a couple of days and ok twice I have MC but this time im hoping it sticks.

My hubby sometimes needed a little help (via the porn channel) but we managed it and had a good laugh about it after xxx

Oct 30th, 2009, 13:19 PM	#1
PalmerWife Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Dallas, Tx Posts: 165	Worried about Hubby We have been TTC since june. We started OPK's last month and apparently missed the big O. Got positive OPK yesterday and a stronger positive today. Problem is last night when HUB was trying to "plant his seed" he was unable to. This has never happend in the 5 years we have known eachother. I want to catch the egg tonight, but im afraid to put more pressure on him. We have always had a very very active BDing life, i dont know what to do and am slightly discouraged that we will miss our oppertunity.

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Oct 30th, 2009, 13:26 PM	#2
familyarana Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kissimmee, FL Posts: 45	Have you been ttc for long? Maybe he is pressuring himself to make it happen right away and fails because it's on his mind. To me sometimes it's best if the partner don't know when your ovulating so that way they think it's just normal sex or making love rather than thinking this is it....here comes johnny!!!(lol) and then it doesn't. Have fun with it and make sexy talk and it will be ok. Lot's of to you.

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Oct 30th, 2009, 13:26 PM	#3
fernie3 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Merseyside Posts: 1,767	hi I think it does put pressure on them sometimes. I never tell my husband when it is "time" I just "encourage" it !

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Oct 30th, 2009, 13:29 PM	#4
PalmerWife Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Dallas, Tx Posts: 165	thanks ladies! Last night started like any other night. It was fun! (sorry TMI), and it just didnt happen. We have been trying for 6 months, so not a huge amt of time, but long enough for both of us to kinda wanna speed up the process. He is very interested to know and see the tests, and know what im going through. Ive never even thought of lieing to him before, but should i just say i didnt O next month when the time comes?

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Oct 30th, 2009, 13:30 PM	#5
Crypto1976 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,820	It had never happened to us in 9 years either! I think the pressure is too much sometimes. I decided last month to hide the opks and to try not to speak to much about it. Men are much more fragile than they let on! Good luck hun. XX

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Oct 30th, 2009, 13:32 PM	#6
PalmerWife Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Dallas, Tx Posts: 165	Thanks Crypto. Good luck to you too

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Oct 30th, 2009, 13:35 PM	#7
fernie3 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Merseyside Posts: 1,767	I wouldnt lie about it just - make it seem like you want to be with him because you REALLYY want to rather than because you can get pregnant that day and unless he asks dont mention ovulation times or anything

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crossroads Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Newcastle, UK Posts: 4,424	OP I adore your sig so much x

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Oct 30th, 2009, 14:03 PM	#10
fluffyblue On a break (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Birmingham UK Posts: 2,543	Hi hun just make sure you do it after Ovulation as well I have conceived 3 times by making sure we BD after ovulation at least for a couple of days and ok twice I have MC but this time im hoping it sticks. My hubby sometimes needed a little help (via the porn channel) but we managed it and had a good laugh about it after xxx

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